Cheers joey :) It is really really difficult though as said it is so deeply entrenched in British culture now more than ever.
Threre's no way of getting away from it haha, having not drank for a couple of months i've noticed more how every single social event is based around alcohol.
And if you don't drink you are treated like some kind of killjoy :conf:

THIS^

..It's true, everyone has bad times but I think some are more emotionally strong than others...we all have different 'crutches' as well..some more harmful to ourselves than others...I don't think it's good to judge how other people handle what causes them pain..there for the grace of god etc....

My dad died of alcoholism, and I'm pretty sure if it was an easy illness to beat he would have chosen to be part of a loving family and to be see his daughters growing up, but he obviously couldn't. I know a lot of people can and do stop drinking, but I suppose there are stronger folk and there are weaker too. It is a physical addiction rather than a mental one therfore very difficult to just stop suddenly.

I really hope Gazza get well and has some sort of sober life. Like my dad, he's probably not a bad person, just a slave to the demon drink.

Sorry for your loss Lee...it must be heartbreaking watching some you love slip away. I agree though addiction and recovery varies massively from person to person and I don't think anyone who hasn't been addicted could ever understand that (and hopefully never will). I find it hard to agree with people believing that an addict has had enough chances but that is personal opinion and I respect it. I just believe that where there's life there's hope. It is a long road that Gazza faces but you never know he may just get there.

get well so gazza

you can choose to fight an addiction,people fighting cancer don't get that choice!

I don't see any judging going on... One or two have pointed out very relevant facts , by his own admission in various biographies he has had many periods of sobriety.
If I were to choose to sit in judgement I could peruse the sunday sun and pick out a choice article to post and we could all rip into that?...
Lee, your story had me in tears ... this is such an emotive subject as we all at some piont in varying degrees been affected, and it changes you...
:hug:

I agree although I don't really understand why you have chosen that analogy in direct response to my quote. My life has been touched by both illnesses and would say that one family member I lost to cancer was down to an addiction so they became inextricably linked.

True.. but having the strength to make that choice is the difficult part.


And thanks Annie and Kizzy :hug:

It is a shame:(, although no-one can really help Paul Gascoigne unless he himself wants the help to try and turn this around before he causes his own death on this destructive path.

I have no forgiveness or sorrow for him after his open attempt to stir sectarian hatred:

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/...21_468x512.jpg

That should have been a staight red card but the referee was probably in the Orange Order too.

The point here is that lots of ordinary folk who suffer from any kind of addiction, get minimal help, Gazza has "celebrity friends" funding his very expensive rehab, and his respect for this gesture is to rock up at the airport bar to sink a pint as soon as the plane landed (allegedly). It just doesn't appear to me that he really cares about himself or anybody else enough to want to stay sober.

Am i the only one who is like WTF at people arguing over people who have died.

**** and have some ****ing respect for the dead. If you wanna talk crap about the dead, go post on the Daily Mail. I have no tolerance for it here. I expect better here.

Alcoholism, and all addiction is a Disease, not a choice, and there are plenty of us here that know that first hand. Have some respect, and don't talk about **** that you don't know about.

it's hurtful.

Am i on TiBB or Reddit?? i hope we have higher standards than reddit./ have some respect.

[QUOTE=lostalex;5822354]Am i the only one who is like WTF at people arguing over people who have died.


The gentleman being discussed is still alive.

As Cherie said and the title is a wee hint, he's not a gonner yet.

Hitler is dead - should we remember him kindly?

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5822354) Am i the only one who is like WTF at people arguing over people who have died.

The conversation that i saw was about how people that have addiction deserve to be dead, and also people talking about family members that have died from addiction. that's what i was responding to.

i tried to respond to cherie, but she ****ed up her post, so my responses don't even work properly lol.

but anyways, i ws responding to all the people that said it would be better if he died, and also talked about people they know that were addicts that were destructive to people's lives.

that doesn't even make sense dude. how the hell did you get Hitler out of anything i said???

Hitler killed himself because he was losing the war, he was going to be captured by the allies, how does that equate in ANY WAY to addiction? are you trying to compare addicts to Nazi's???

You've lost me.

you said we should remember the deceased kindly - I gave an example for you to eulagise on

you're going off on some crazy tangent of what people feel of adickheads

I agree with Cherie

wow "adickheads" really?

stay classy dude. lol that's so immature and dumb. "adickheads"...sounds like addicts, but with dick heads added to it, cause it sounds sorta similar. so clever. *vomit*

seriously?

It must be extremely hard for addicts to try and turn their lives around and stop drinking. The desire and temptation will follow them for the rest of their lives and they will never be free of it. If they really want to overcome it though then I think they should be given every bit of help available. Where should the line be drawn?

I knew what I was saying and even if classless I would still classify that sectarian knobend Gazza as adickhead.

Call me immature if you wish, couldn't care less (47 years old by the way) - if some other alcoholic was in death throws this would not be a story.

http://i2.dailyrecord.co.uk/incoming...+Gascoigne.jpg

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