My childhood best friend and his older brother both still live at home and I think are examples of kids who need to get a grip and take some responsibility. The older brother left school and has just worked a variety of jobs and been fired from them all because he's got some sleep problems (he can't wake up unless somebody else physically shakes him, he takes his work holidays when his parents go abroad because he knows he'll sleep in...) and my friend dropped out of uni and just works in a shop and goes out all the time, spends lots of money on his girlfriend that he can't really afford to (he bought her a handbag that cost a three figure sum and they weren't even going out yet, she broke it off with him but they eventually started going out...) and neither of them can drive... they just live at home and don't seem to think about the future and my mum's forever talking about how ridiculous she thinks it is that they don't show any signs of ever wanting to leave; whereas I've gone to uni away from home, have always had part time jobs at uni and often full time work when I'm at home over the summer and have been taught that it's wrong to be idle and not try and support yourself. I'll be moving back in when I'm 22 almost 23 but I'll be looking to be in full time work as soon as possible and just start saving up to move out. It will take a while. I'll probably be 25 before I can move out; but I don't think I'm in the same category as someone who's never left home and has never shown any sign of wanting to.
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