having an 11 y/o that watches her sister sometimes is not the same as a 12 y/o being a parent.

The truth is, the grandparents are going to end up being the parents. and based on how they raised their own daughter, i don't think they'll be much better as grandparents than they were as parents for this new child.

Probably doesn't bode well that the girls mother herself is only 27 so had her daughter when she was 15, they're getting younger all the time

exactly. at some point, someone needs to break the cycle. even if it is the government.

Well said.

God, I thought I was good with kids (I'm 20) and I had to deal with a crying baby yesterday for 2 hours or so and I thought I was losing my mind.

I can't even imagine what an 11 year old would do in that position. I don't think any 11 year old can deal with something so stressful. I think it's abuse for the poor baby having an 11 year old mother... It's just so wrong.

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It's unfortunate but as said hopefully the family will rally round, it's not a damning indictment on society.

..it doesn't really sit well that her mum said that they were in a long term relationship for a year..so at 11yrs old, a parent didn't discourage and allowed a 'long term' relationship with a 12 yr old and his parents did as well..?...I know that they will probably get much support and care from the authorities to raise the child but I do wonder if it is the best thing and whether it is also a good use of stretched resources when there are so many children in awful situations that need those resources...

Well we all know it's not the done thing,but just taking her away from them imo is not the answer.

They can't have realised how far the relationship had 'progressed'... I wouldn't have.
Why would they need more resources from authorities than the average family?

The baby should have been aborted - sad as it is

..I think that if you don't 'realise' what your 11 yr old child is doing when it's something so important as having sex, then really there is a communication issue and a parenting issue and I would question what support and guidance the child and grandchild will get in reality...having said that, it is what it is and can't be undone so I hope the best is done for the mum/father and baby and they get the support they need...


EDIT:..oh and welfare will intervene, they will have to have a 'care plan' because the parents are both children and legally obliged to continue education...

I think they should have given it up for adoption

Who sits and watches their 11yr olds in case they have sex?.... nobody.
Oh... and I know they will but there's no reason why education can't continue.

me too... thinking of all the families in the UK alone that would do anything to have a baby, yet these two are having kids at this age... She'll have another within a few years, I'd bet my car on it.

My best friend gave birth at just 15,she is a wonderful mom,she has a part time job and has settled with the father,its not so black and white as "oh,take it off her",who are we to judge who are good parents.

..of course not but there is a huge difference between that and allowing a 'serious relationship' of your 11yr old child to continue...

Did your friend take on the entire burden of raising that child? including have her own place, paying her own bills, and care for the child full time? or did she put a lot of that burden on her parents?

my parents were very diligent about who i was with and where i was when i was 11. the fact that you don't think that is a normal quality of care for an 11 y/o disturbs me.

When i was 11 i couldn't even sneeze without my parents knowing about it.

Have you read the article? They had no idea the relationship was physical.

..yeah, but that's the thing though, a parent of an 11yr old child shouldn't be comfortable with them having a 'serious relationship' because it would be naïve to assume it couldn't be physical...it seems like a complete lack of communication which isn't really encouraging of being the supportive family network that the parents and baby will need around them...

They're barely even teenagers, they will simply not cope with the responsibility. It would be better for them and the baby if it was put up for adoption otherwise the baby will most likely be neglected by the parents and end up being pawned off on the grandparents to raise. Kids just don't have the capacity to make good parents.

i agree, and also it would be better for the parents (calling 12 and 13 y/o's parents just feels weird, but they are parents now) they can have a chance for a better life too. It seems like the best thing for everyone involved.

I have pity for all of the children involved with this story, all 3 of them.

its a shame because they arent even mature enough to make a decision as big as getting rid of the baby/putting it up for adoption etc...

I honestly blame bad parenting (of the 12/13 year olds parents...) because if they had paid closer attention, they would have realised what was going on.

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Tbh I don't know why people are making the "the grandparents will end up raising it" thing an issue - I know loads of people who were raised by their grandparents for a variety of reasons and they've all turned out to be well adjusted adults. Obviously it's not great that two kids had a baby together but clearly if they were both sexually mature at the ages of 11/12/13 then they're, at least biologically speaking, ahead of most kids their age so it's perhaps not surprising that their relationship turned physical. Nobody could have stopped that from happening; did anybody here's parents know when you lost your virginity? I'd guess not...

I laughed way more than i was supposed to:joker: