I think it's rude not to take your shoes off when you enter people's homes. It's a sign of respect if anything.

It is a bit odd. If she herself was clean and presentable and you rarely ever went to her house why would you give up the friendship?

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Well if we'd carried on being close I would've been invited a lot more, so it would have been a big issue...

agreed, I'd never walk into anybodies house with shoes on.

are you like 12?:conf:

should always take of your underwear and shoes when you enter . its only polite

i went round a friends place god she was so dirty. dungeon, whips sex toys polls. happy days

Someone having a vile house wouldnt stop me being friends with them tbh. I would just find any excuse possible to avoid going to their place.

Yes...you don't live there, why do you care? Why you would effectively break off a friendship with someone and lose out on so many benefits like someone to call on when you're in need of help or advice, someone to go out with, someone you share stuff in common with etc etc just because you don't like the state of their house is beyond me. Surely you distance yourself from people that are rude, self-obsessed, nasty, untrustworthy...the usual things, not because of their house. Like...just don't go in it? Make excuses, not end a friendship :shrug:

you stopped talking to someone because of the state of their house?

I have a friend who actually lives in manchester but i am still pals with him

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Yes. :conf2:

I'm not going to make excuses and lie to her am I? It's better if we're distanced to be honest...

bizzarre.

You dont need to lie..if shes a friend and she invites you round..just say 'no because your house is minging'

Maybe she was just having a bad week or something and couldnt be arsed to do housework. Might not always be like that :laugh:

To you.

To me, it was the right thing to do.

I can be pretty untidy, but my house is clean. I can't stand a dirty kitchen or bathroom.

I would not tell her, that's just horrible. :o She doesn't seem to care anyway, she hasn't called me or anything since it happened so it must not bother her either. :shrug:

No, you could tell that her house was disgusting. It wasn't a case of not doing housework.

You don't have to lie just drop into the conversation...

"Oh I can't go out today I'm cleaning my bathroom with strong bleach and other products. I can't stand a dirty bath can you?"

No its not, you could say it in a nicer way but its a good thing to tell people things like that IMO. I had to tell a friend she stank of BO once, as everyone was talking about her behind her back. Was a horrible convo but it helped in the long run.

It also give me some insight into her state of mind...if she doesn't care for her house, what does she care for? :flutter:

You could have had a quiet word with her?

:hmph: Us Mancs are good people, your lucky he's friends with you

Do you mind me asking how old you are? Because if your friend lives with her parents then this is even worse...not really her fault is it now?