I don't think the video was well planned. When I saw her hitting him around the head and pulling his hair and taking some real swipes at him, I was zoomed in on her actions. The problem is, she was fairly quiet and so her aggression went somewhat under the radar. He was screaming which immediately brought a lot of attention to what was happening. His loudness sounded very aggressive and at times it was hard to understand what he was shouting.

can you give me an exmple of a time where physical/violent retaliation is the most appropriate course of action. I cant think of any.

Honestly? I would of been horrified.

It was more than "lightly pushing a guy around". Sure, the guy's retaliation was more aggressive (in the first instance, not so much in the last one yet that wannabe hero still felt the need to jump in only when he retaliated), but the woman was still being plenty aggressive. As for focusing on "his wrongdoings", I find it hard to believe that people would be as forgiving if a man was "lightly pushing around" his girlfriend just because he suspected her of being unfaithful and putting all the blame for the situation on her faults. The only one ever to blame for violence in a relationship is the instigator of the violence, male or female irregardless.

Actually, that reminds me of another one of these experiments I saw (one where the level of aggression from both parties was pretty equal). One woman walking past while the woman was being aggressive did a little fist pump and when asked about it afterwards said "I just assumed he deserved it". Yet in the very same experiment, nobody voiced anything close to that attitude when the roles were reversed.

I know people ever bringing up the situations where men are disadvantaged is taboo on here for some reason but it isn't always unwarranted and to do so doesn't make someone a woman hater or a "meninist". Where domestic abuse is concerned, clearly there's still an issue in regards to the way female-on-male aggression is seen and I think it's good for it to be talked about. Actually, it isn't even confined to domestic abuse, the number of times I've seen a woman slapping a man (and not "lightly" either) used for comedy on TV and film is ridiculous.

take a look at sharon osbourne

exhibit a - laughing at a man who has his penis cut off and is bleeding to death on a mainstream feminist show, shown to tens of millions

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kkmanLIAdXI

its ok for her to throw water in the face of simon cowell and louis walsh too
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hG63QbbzoIk

another of her shows , she interviewed female murderers in prison and told them they were right to do what they did and deserved to be released


another social experiment discussion
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QFvEzIzQwg



this is a great video , judge pirro kicks ass
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSj4lvbS_3A

heers feminists on rolondo fighting against having any shelters for battered men
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOJIAp7sYU4

Told you it was the feminists fault again NM

heres another woman who lied for 10 months about domestic abuse and he went to prison etc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZXbl9_l38M

Yes..an equal experiment would prove the point that this one is attempting to prove much better I think.

Though it does seem to be acceptable for women to hit men. On TV you see it all of the time...often in a 'funny' sense too.

I mean, this was more the point I was making.
The social experiment means nothing because of the reason I left from within your first paragraph, and it would be interesting to see a video like the one you saw to have a discussion on this properly.

I only see that being used in a funny sense when the female is obviously weaker than the male, and the punch is used playfully.
I dont think many would see comedy in a female bodybuilder punching a skinny nervous looking male.
I think it will be hard to find a decent comparison, but I'd imagine people would react similarly

Oh yeah, usually big men being slapped by much smaller women and such I agree.

Still think we shouldn't normalize it to the degree we do though

But the part of my first paragraph you left intact was in reference only to the first section of the experiment. The last section had the woman being the more aggressive party in my opinion (and he's hardly some big burly muscle man is he?), and yet still only the man's retaliation spurred intervention. I thought that was worthy of discussion.

I dont entirely agree, the female was the one who was pushed to the ground in a way which would suggest she was no longer able to defend herself, whereas the man stays calm and on two legs whilst blocking her hits throughout.
Its just a terrible social experiment made by children, for children. I dont think this it says anything about human behaviour. It would (still) be interesting to see an experiment which does.

Heres another one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gOyrYThlOag

Poor men. :(

heres some harder line facts and personal stories of domestic violence against men, the women justified it by sayingt he men werent giving them enough attention

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rCV8W7J-to

40% of victims of domestic violence are men, imagine how much more that would be if men came forward and there were actual shelters, charities and support networks for male victims as there are for women

So, you're saying men are the secret majority of domestic violence victims?

That's not what I saw. He ends up on the ground at one point and is yanked by his hair more than once. And "no longer able to defend herself" is an odd way to refer to the one instigating the aggression. I absolutely think her actions were more jarring in that part.

I get your reservations about the first section (although I completely disagree with his response in any way diluting her actions) but I think the last section is definitely worthy of discussion.

Bottom line for me is, I think people would have stepped in if they felt as if there was a possibility of this man becoming physically injured. This experiment did not portray this man is such a way, but it did portray the woman this way twice.

Any social commentry about this video is purely based on an uneven and misleading experiment rather than conclusions that can be drawn about human behaviour.

It would be interesting to see if a well-made social experiment would yield similar results.

Yes, in my teens.
If you didn't hit back you would get more of it on a regular basis.:shrug:
Forget about grassing people up for a drunken argy bargy as well, life wouldn't have been worth living.
I suppose the rough side of life must have been really tougher back in the day.

as usual youre lying again

Lying? I asked you question? :unsure: