Originally Posted by Nicky91 (Post 10072710)

i got stomped on my head whenever i did throw a tantrum, and that made me cry a lot


not just slapped but a stomp from my mom or dad's fist, so now i know that i should behave, and count to 10 whenever i am tempted to throw a tantrum once again

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier (Post 10072711)

Yeah... My parents grew up when the belt / cane was still around and both have said that as you got older and started to "notice" and understand these things... It became really clear that some of the teachers genuinely got off on the whole thing. Very disturbing.

Anyway, on the general thread topic, no to physical punishment. It's unnecessary, ineffective and straight up lazy. When the punishment fits the crime it works much better, e.g. You and a friend trash the bedroom, you ain't doing anything else until it's back the way it was.

Tech bans are also pretty effective around here.

We also once made her go to a neighbour's door and apologise for her and her friend shouting "rude stuff" out of her bedroom window at her... She was mortified, it was brilliant. She bawled for half an hour solid about it before composing herself enough to actually do it. Hasn't so much as whispered out the window since :joker:.

Also I think I've mentioned before, my wife sits her down for "long talks". Looong talks. About morality and the sort of person she wants to be when she grows up. She HATES them :hehe:. She gets so bored that her eyes practically gaze over. I think she'd rather be smacked. It works as a threat too; "Ahem, do we need to have a long chat about this?" - - "NO! Please no not that, I'll stop right now I promise!"

Originally Posted by Alf (Post 10072712)

It all changed whilst I was in primary school. The incident I'm talking about happened when I first started school, so that would have been about 1982 or 83. I think coperal punishment was abolished round about 1988 time.

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy (Post 10072724)

Kids need to learn right from wrong and how to behave early on in life or they end up brats ,my children used to get a tap ( A single tap ) on the backside if they did anything really wrong, I prefer a slap to ending up with some of the youths roaming the streets like we have now who were never taught right from wrong

Originally Posted by Eddie. (Post 10072691)

Growing up in an Asian family unlike most/if not all of you, the beatings have made myself who I am today, so I agree that slapping is an appropriate punishment.

Though don't overuse it...

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072725)

No one used fck around in a class with a teacher that could draw the belt well

that was for sure

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10072726)

No one is denying that, you can teach them how to behave without violence though.

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10072726)

No one is denying that, you can teach them how to behave without violence though.

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072733)

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


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Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072733)

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


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Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072738)

felt tip

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072737)

and he drew on my schoolbag

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072733)

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


sorted

Originally Posted by Eddie. (Post 10072705)

It really all comes down to your family background on whether or not you consider beatings as an appropriate way to punish a child...

I guess.

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy (Post 10072732)

A slap on the bum is hardly violence

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072738)

felt tip

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10072745)

umm what is it then?

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier (Post 10072743)

Not that I necessarily think child on child violence is a great thing either, though it's pretty inevitable, but... It's a totally different situation :shrug:

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 10072748)

I was 37 at the time