Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 10293626)

I found Jaxies comment funny, nothing passive aggressive about that at all unless of course you think everything is about you :umm2:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293630)

tbf Jack the "xx" is far more passive aggressive than someone laughing at someone elses comment

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293604)

xx

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293653)

The comment was about me so...um? You know full well what you were doing



That was deliberate though. If someone's passive aggressive to me I will give it back like for like, same with people being patronising or baiting

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293653)

The comment was about me so...um? You know full well what you were doing



That was deliberate though. If someone's passive aggressive to me I will give it back like for like, same with people being patronising or baiting

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293655)

Oh so it's ok when you do it? :laugh:

Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 10293661)

I would have done the same if it were any member, I don’t single you out for special treatment, :laugh: I have seen you do the same thing on numerous occasions, so glasss houses and all that

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293665)

If people want to be passive aggressive or sarcastic or whatever I don't really care (it was Cherie who had the initial issue remember), I can do the same...but don't give out what you can't take

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293665)

When did I say that? :shrug:

I said if someone's passive aggressive to me, I will respond in kind. If someone patronises me, I will do the same. If someone baits me, I'll bait them back. If someone tries to have a civilised discussion with me, I'll be civil too. I've said this so many times over the years, the large majority of the time on this forum I follow other people's lead, they dictate how the conversation is going to go

If people want to be passive aggressive or sarcastic or whatever I don't really care (it was Cherie who had the initial issue remember), I can do the same...but don't give out what you can't take

Originally Posted by Vanessa (Post 10293576)

Lewis breathing : omg Lewis is so evil! Blah blah blah

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293667)

You were the one who took issue with the sarcasm, not me

Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 10293626)

I found Jaxies comment funny, nothing passive aggressive about that at all unless of course you think everything is about you :umm2:

Originally Posted by jaxie (Post 10293678)

I'm a funny gal! And so misunderstood. :bawling:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293669)

She wasn't passive aggressive in this thread towards you at all and that example you gave wasn't passive aggressive either

Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 10293675)

And were you not sarcastic? I m not denying it are you?

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293690)

I never said she was passive aggressive to me in this thread, but I don't agree with that at all

I made a sarcastic comment based on the content on this thread (which I would've done regardless of who made it), Cherie was the one who took issue with that so I was merely pointing out (flippantly, might I add) that if she didn't like sarcasm she could cut out her own passive aggression

I don't actually care whether she was, makes no difference to me. My point was don't give out what you can't take

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293699)

Ok but your example of her passive aggression let you down because that wasn't an example of passive aggression

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293703)

I don't agree with that sorry, jaxie (who was being passive aggressive to me herself in that thread actually, irony overload :joker:) made a mocking comment, Cherie chose to laugh at it but didn't engage with any of the counterarguments I was making to her and other people in that thread, I find that an example of passive aggression

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293703)

I don't agree with that sorry, jaxie (who was being passive aggressive to me herself in that thread actually, irony overload :joker:) made a mocking comment, Cherie chose to laugh at it but didn't engage with any of the counterarguments I was making to her and other people in that thread, I find that an example of passive aggression

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293707)

I agree that Jaxies comment was passive aggressive (sorry Jaxie :p ) but laughing at someones passive aggressive comment isn't passive aggressive itself. Cherie isn't obliged to engage in any arguments, I don't get why this would make her laughing at a comment passive aggressive

Originally Posted by Jordan. (Post 10293709)

You literally spend the whole of last night calling the majority of the forum embarrassing and ridiculous and now you wanna get high and mighty about people being passive aggressive towards you :joker:

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293725)

I would be more inclined to agree with you if she hadn't quoted my post, got a response and then ignored it and chose to laugh at mocking comments instead. That's not constructive, it's designed to irritate the person who is reading it



Can you explain how I'm getting high and mighty about people being passive aggressive towards me, or are you doing that TiBB thing where you're not reading posts properly?

I've literally just said I couldn't care less (this is the key phrase here, so please pay attention to it) if people want to be passive aggressive, or sarcastic, or patronising...makes no difference to me. But don't give out what you can't take, and this entire discussion began when Cherie quoted me asking me to cut out the sarcasm

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293725)

Can you explain how I'm getting high and mighty about people being passive aggressive towards me, or are you doing that TiBB thing where you're not reading posts properly?

I've literally just said I couldn't care less (this is the key phrase here, so please pay attention to it) if people want to be passive aggressive, or sarcastic, or patronising...makes no difference to me. But don't give out what you can't take, and this entire discussion began when Cherie quoted me asking me to cut out the sarcasm

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293732)

And the original post you made in that thread wasn't designed to irritate anyone who thought it might be rigged?(which lets be honest here, isn't exactly an out there thought) Seems like Jaxie was doing to you what you claim to do to others, responding with a like for like toned post

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293665)

I said if someone's passive aggressive to me, I will respond in kind. If someone patronises me, I will do the same. If someone baits me, I'll bait them back. If someone tries to have a civilised discussion with me, I'll be civil too. I've said this so many times over the years, the large majority of the time on this forum I follow other people's lead, they dictate how the conversation is going to go

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293745)

I wouldn't go as far as that, but I'm not going to sit here and pretend I wasn't boasting and mocking because I was, I found the whole thing absurd

That's not quite what I said though:



A conversation begins when someone responds to me, you can't have one on your own. If people start a civilised discussion (like Withano did) then I'll happily engage in a civilised manner (believe it or not I prefer that most of the time), if others want to patronise, bait or be passive aggressive then that's when I'll do the same back and respond in kind. But a conversation doesn't start until someone's quoted me! People don't have to, everyone on here should know what I'm about by now, what my thought processes are and what arguments I stand by, they're consistent and have been for almost a decade. Some people want to engage and that's cool, others just let me do me and that's fine as well :shrug: in all honestly I reckon 80% of the time it's others who quote me rather than me quoting them (i.e. starting up a conversation), I tend to just do my own thing these days

Originally Posted by Jordan. (Post 10293739)

You were the one who actually started the whole passive aggressive comments thing when you came into that thread last night making insults and looking down your nose at people for having "meltdowns" (ironic).

Originally Posted by Jordan. (Post 10293739)

I've still yet to see an example of where Cherie was actually being passive agressive back towards you cause posing a single smiley certainly isn't IT :shrug:

Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 10293725)

I would be more inclined to agree with you if she hadn't quoted my post, got a response and then ignored it and chose to laugh at mocking comments instead. That's not constructive, it's designed to irritate the person who is reading it

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 10293754)

Well fair enough but if you're going to go into the thread and make a general comment, aimed at no one but everyone aswell you're going to get peoples backs up instantly so it's your fault for setting that tone. What you're saying is you should be able to mock people in a general way but they should then quote you respectfully if they expect you to be respectful back.