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Beso 22-06-2020 07:50 PM

Or listen to my joke to smile for a second.

Kate! 22-06-2020 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by parmnion (Post 10868038)
Or listen to my joke to smile for a second.

Tell me the joke then loov. Xx

Braden 22-06-2020 07:52 PM

That’s awful, Kate.

If I were in your position and it was a friend I adored and spent a lot of time with, I would want answers. If they’re ignoring you, try not to think about it. That’s easier said than done but it sounds like they’re the one with the issue so don’t stress too much. It could be anything.

Kate! 22-06-2020 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Braden (Post 10868042)
That’s awful, Kate.

If I were in your position and it was a friend I adored and spent a lot of time with, I would want answers. If they’re ignoring you, try not to think about it. That’s easier said than done but it sounds like they’re the one with the issue so don’t stress too much. It could be anything.

Yes its bad Braden. I am really upset. Thank you for your kind words. Xx

Beso 22-06-2020 07:55 PM

No.

The moments passed

Kate! 22-06-2020 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by parmnion (Post 10868045)
No.

The moments passed

Bugger

Jessica. 22-06-2020 09:55 PM

It happened to me over five years ago and it still affects me, I know I literally did nothing wrong.

caprimint 22-06-2020 10:01 PM

There will be a reason for it, so something must have happened. Nobody does that randomly, whether it's a personal problem for your friend within herself, or whether it's something to do with you/your friendship or something that you've done (and are obviously not aware of).

I'm not really sure what other way you have of contacting this person if she's not picking up your calls, replying to your messages and just ignoring you altogether though? I'd probs just try every social media platform asking if something had happened/if I'd done something wrong, then maybe give it a short while before trying again. Or do y'all have any mutual friends that you could ask?

Kate! 22-06-2020 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by caprimint (Post 10868118)
There will be a reason for it, so something must have happened. Nobody does that randomly, whether it's a personal problem for your friend within herself, or whether it's something to do with you/your friendship or something that you've done (and are obviously not aware of).

I'm not really sure what other way you have of contacting this person if she's not picking up your calls, replying to your messages and just ignoring you altogether though? I'd probs just try every social media platform asking if something had happened/if I'd done something wrong, then maybe give it a short while before trying again. Or do y'all have any mutual friends that you could ask?

Thank you Stacey. What a perfect summation. It reflects just how I am feeling. Yes I agree. There is something. I just don't know what it is. Xx

JerseyWins 22-06-2020 10:44 PM

Oh no https://cdn.thisisbigbrother.com/cus...ar18312_69.gif

I was gonna say they could just be busy / dealing with something but they blocked you on facebook too? :o And how long has this been going for?

Never really happened to me aside from a best friend moving away when we were like 13 and not long after just stopped contacting each other with the long distance / kinda moving on to our own lives at that age. I've always either slowly drifted away from friends I wasn't as close with or I still have many of the same good friends I've had for years (some closest ones since literally childhood days).

This seems more like a sudden/personal issue has happened, probably a problem with them over you Kate, but you should try getting in contact in whatever way you can to sort it :love:

I like BB 23-06-2020 01:04 AM

It happened to me with someone. I would really want to find out why.

Cherie 23-06-2020 07:41 AM

Maybe someone else did something to her and she blames you for their actions because you interact with them?

smudgie 23-06-2020 08:14 AM

Maybe it’s nothing personal Kate.
Perhaps your friend is struggling with what’s going on at the minute.
Lots of people are finding it hard to cope with the pandemic and how it affects them, she might just want to switch off from everything around her for a while.
If you have other mutual friends, might be an idea to have a chat with them and see if they can throw any light on the situation.

Mystic Mock 23-06-2020 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Kate! (Post 10867922)
If your best friend suddenly out of the blue cut you off without a word when everything was fine between you.

If they didn't return your texts...didn't answer their phone...blocked you on facebook. Etc.

It would be like they had died.

Would you take it on the chin? Or move heaven and earth to find out whats wrong?

I would definitely like to know what I'd done to offend them so badly.

If the reason is something petty then I'd be glad to have nothing to do with them anymore.

Captain.Remy 23-06-2020 08:48 AM

Ghosting is never really nice, it's awful.
I would say like some users wrote previously: try to get an answer because something obviously happened, but move on if you don't get that answer. Don't stalk, don't put pressure on them, just try and stay level-headed even if it hurts so bad.

If someone did that to you, in hindsight it means they were not a good person to have in your trust circle anyway. Good riddance I say.

Cherie 23-06-2020 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Captain.Remy (Post 10868223)
Ghosting is never really nice, it's awful.
I would say like some users wrote previously: try to get an answer because something obviously happened, but move on if you don't get that answer. Don't stalk, don't put pressure on them, just try and stay level-headed even if it hurts so bad.

If someone did that to you, in hindsight it means they were not a good person to have in your trust circle anyway. Good riddance I say.

great advice Cpt R.

Crimson Dynamo 23-06-2020 09:05 AM

It's something you have done or your pal thinks very strongly you have done.

Iim sure it won't be to hard to ascertain what.

Livia 23-06-2020 09:52 AM

I'd do what I do on here when I find out someone I've been friendly with for years turns out to be a two faced ****. I'd clean the out of my life.

caprimint 23-06-2020 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 10868248)
I'd do what I do on here when I find out someone I've been friendly with for years turns out to be a two faced ****. I'd clean the out of my life.

Ahhh :skull:

Marsh. 23-06-2020 12:13 PM

They're probably a big old fake and a pathological liar Kate. Protect yourself. x

The Slim Reaper 23-06-2020 01:53 PM

I know this is personal to you Kate and real feelings are involved, but I always like these scenario threads. They always bring a wide range of differing opinions.

Ammi 23-06-2020 02:25 PM

...you know that I hope this becomes resolved for you, Kate...I’m thinking about you...:hug:...as a general though I would agree with Remy, that ghosting is an awful thing to experience and an indication of that person’s own emotional shortfalls...so it’s just moving forward and on from the friendship.../...I understand how simplistic that is though...

user104658 26-06-2020 03:12 PM

That's a tough call. I'd want to know the reason because I'm an over-thinker, but at the same time, I wouldn't continue to be friends with someone who would do that anyway. Even if I had done something and not realised it - I'm too old, jaded & frankly too busy to waste time being friends with someone who won't be direct. "Silent treatment" is nonsense, child/teen stuff and any adult who hasn't moved on from that mindset by 25+ isn't worth bothering with, with friends, relationships, or even family members.

... In my opinion :umm2:.

Jigs 26-06-2020 04:28 PM

This happened to me with a really close friend I made at uni. Only took a couple months after graduation for her to completely ghost me. That was almost 3 years ago and I never really addressed it but I don't follow her on any socials anymore because she used to pop up on my feed and my mood would instantly plummet.

I guess I chose not to address it because I knew I wasn't the one with the problem so that was some comfort at least.


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