The spirit of unbridled gossip.

Whether I’ve said this one already or not, jealousy’s a big one. Not a good look or a healthy feeling.

You would hate Liverpool.
Leave me be.
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Some people think it’s just them in this life. Noisy eating doesn’t really bother me (it’s when people act like it’s their God-given prerogative to spit while doing it that I have a problem) but overly loud talking and taking the piss with the way you chew gum drive me up the wall. My ears are plenty-sharp as it is without someone projecting like they’re speaking into something with the magnitude of a microphone for both lips or all four walls. I’m far from hard of hearing and that includes stuff I don’t want to hear. Stuff I’m not really trying to listen to but someone’s broadcasting it with the windows wide-open or with 101 volume.

Envy

Stubbornness - I know that I can be stubborn over silly stuff, but I'm talking about when it starts harming others is when it bothers me.

Manipulation

Deceitfulness

Not Being Willing To Forgive - We all make mistakes, what this type of person never realises is that it could be them on the brunt of a mistake, and they would want to be forgiven. Obviously if it's something truly heinous (criminal activity for example) then I understand not being so forgiving.

Greed - One of my main reasons why I hate Politics in real life.

Judgemental people - I ****ing despise it when an individual doesn't like someone because they have a hobby that this person isn't particularly interested in. Or something that is generally harmless, but someone will pull you up over it.

And my last one is hard to put into words, but it's in the other option on the poll. And that would have to be people who claim to be accepting of everyone and everything, and they never have a negative opinion or controversial opinion about anything, it almost feels like they are watching what they're saying or doing because they want to always be seen as a "good" person, they're also very cautious to make any jokes too, because they're worried about offending anyone in the room with them. To me I find it unnatural and genuinely makes me feel very uneasy around an individual like that because you never know what they're really thinking about anything.

People who judge others for resting. It’s a basic human right and essential for properly good health (and not falling half-asleep behind the wheel and potentially causing damage to someone or more other than yourself), not a privilege or a luxury. Trying to suppress people’s individuality and forcing them to be like you (similarly) is a no-go. Everyone’s their own person.

I agree with what you’re saying about judgemental people. But not forgiveness. You don’t owe people that if they’ve really crossed you, and it doesn’t have to be heinous criminal activity. You choose the people who are worthy of your time and set your own boundaries. Especially if the person’s narcissistic, you’re under no obligation to forgive and forget just to remain a decent person. There are people whose hate of them I’ll probably take to the grave because they just don’t deserve my forgiveness. I’ll tell you that for nothing.

Toxic positivity, by the way, is one way of putting what you’re trying to describe in your last paragraph.

Tbf I understand your point, I think it's when I see people falling out over Political opinions on sites like Twitter and they don't forgive each other is probably more the basis of what I was thinking of, but I do get that we all have different boundaries.

And thanks btw Redway, Toxic Positivity is the perfect word to describe it in the last paragraph, it's something that's bizarrely getting more common within society, and it really creeps me out, it's probably harsh I know.

For me the worst traits have to be: manipulation, gaslighting, falseness, dishonesty, deceitfulness, aggression, inconsistency, bullying, cruelty.

I also find it difficult to tolerate people who are shallow, self-absorbed, overly loud, attention-seeking and erratic.

Great question, by the way.

Yeah, people who fall out over political nonsense are beyond ridiculous but when you’re confronted with people who’ve stolen from you, smear-campaigned against you, disrespected someone you care for deeply, they did the dirty with your other half, tried to make your or their issues your identity, betrayed you, all that good stuff. You have the right to draw the line and never get over it, even if you do eventually forgive.

Added to the bucket-list of loudness are people who can’t keep your confidence or preserve your dignity relatively because they don’t respect you enough or they just have the excuse of an exuberant, high-energy extravert who has little filter. There’s a difference between giving it too much of that and actually being a malicious gossip so I wouldn’t hate the person but sometimes a heart of otherwise rightfully-entrusted gold can be attached to a mouth that’s runny and gossipy. And unless they love you enough to practically be trusted with your life, 7/10 they will let you down via indiscretion. It’s just a matter of time. So I’m always a little wary of people who talk too much and worry what I might’ve told them in the past if I don’t think they’re capable of preserving the dignity. Doesn’t mean we can’t still be friends but I’ve got to be careful around you.

People who are always quick to point out what’s wrong with others instead of what’s right, also. It’s alright when you straight-up don’t like the person or you have reason to find them annoying but when you’re supposed to be for people, I dunno. I dunno. I just feel like there’s enough negative morale in the world without every other word that comes out of your mouth about them being a slagging off because so-and-so doesn’t seem to be as pristine in one area of their life as you. That would fall under the banner of being overly judgmental, maybe even a little pharaisical about it, too. Every single person has at least something right with them and without stroking the egos of people who aren’t in the room it’s nice to hear a bit more of that sometimes, if you truly like them. Again, it’s not the person I hate in these instances. Just this trait of being overly judgemental to people who by-and-large are just trying to do life and get by respectfully and quietly. I want to be really careful with the way I word all this because a lot of the people who do these things and have these attitudes are actually really, really good people but at the end of the day nobody’s perfect. There’s always going to be something about you that someone else doesn’t like or rubs them up the wrong way low-key.

I only marked a couple but when it comes right down to it my only real dealbreaker is honesty. Just give me both barrels and I'll probably like you, whether I agree with you or not, if it's real then I can at least respect it.

I'd take a nasty hard truth over a pretty platitude any day of the week.

Yeah, I agree, I can not stand liars or being lied to

That’s not what you said , in bed , last night!!


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People who think that shouting all the time just to talk is good communication. I’m very-much about my peace and quiet so when someone’s forcing an over-loudness on their environment and bleeding your ears just because they have no volume-chill, I get pretty annoyed. It might not be obvious because unlike them I have chill but I HATE people being too loud in their voice and movements. Especially when the mood’s grumbly and moany rather than just happy-exuberant ‘I have no chill so allow me’ loudness. When someone’s just souring the air with constant whinging at ultra-high amplitude, I want out.

People who are extra-loud tend not to know how annoying they are. And this whole thing feeds into the lack of self-awareness that some of us are talking about. Every little thing you shout and make too much noise, and you wonder why people would rather not be around you for too long.

And women putting blind trust in some dude they’ve known less than 5 minutes in big 2023. You believe a stranger at your own risk. Have some self-fortitude, sister.

Suspect we all exhibit most of these traits at one time or another

I don’t think we do but whether we do or don’t is besides the point. You can recognise traits in yourself that you know aren’t conducive to your best self and hate them even more when you see them in others in a more exaggerated way. So even at that it wouldn’t be hypocrisy.

Mm not sure, this thread lists judgemental-ness as a bad trait but you could say this whole thread is judgemental

That's why I chose not forgiving in the poll because I think we should always forgive these traits in others and know that they exist in us too :hee:

Also I always do this :omgno:

I thought all blokes did it ..


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Only when you run with the idea that all those traits are present in us on any level worth talking about.

Agreed mate

Andd I’ve just realised that I listed manipulation twice in my poll.

You see there you are guilty yourself of manipulation in the poll options