are you for real Mock? women have been raped....but you are happy with the fact that school letters have mentioned ...parents...... like wtf

It doesn't seem like a direct comparison to me - schools do that because they don't know who is going to be receiving the letter (as they're printed and sent out en masse) so it's a catch-all. It SEEMS to be that Oxfam is suggesting that people use "parent" in place of mother/father even in cases where it is known, on the basis of "not assuming gender". It's not really the same thing.

It really is the same thing, you're just trying to split hairs to push this ridiculous narrative. It's the NHS thing all over again when you were all losing your minds about the language when none of you actually checked the NHS website because you fell for the bait hook, line and sinker. The only part in the NHS guide to pregnancy that used a lot of the language you silly people were complaining about was in the section aimed specifically at LGBT parents. The outrage was never about these terms 'erasing' women because anyone with eyes and basic reading skills could see that wasn't the case, the outrage was that there was an LGBT section at all.

A child's caregivers have pretty much always been referred to as 'parents or guardians'. It's a catch all term that's only seen as a problem now because GCs love to invent nonissues to cry about. These people have nothing going on in their lives, clearly.

Oh I can't stand Oxfam after that particular scandal that you're on about, but I'm just agreeing with Dezzy that certain settings don't refer to gender and will be more formal/clinical with how they speak.