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Originally Posted by GoldHeart
(Post 11369067)
All this is backfiring on Jordan, he should never have played Matty & Henry against eachother. Yes Matty pushes boundaries...but Jordan encourages him , he's always hot & cold with him giving out mixed signals.
Jordan is a player and loves the attention,but he's also behaving really weird in general .... maybe he's a bit of a narcissist ? . Does he not realise how cringy this is coming across.
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He's obviously a narcissist when all his explanations begin and end with how he perceives himself. It's just a matter of where on the spectrum. The constant chat about how he needs to micromanage his behavior and boundaries around other people is the other tell as he is maintaining a mirror. This is maybe intended to keep others off-center. He's self-aware enough to give an adequate explanation for most things, but not necessarily empathetic enough to change his behavior until it becomes an inconvenience. The flipping back and forth between love bombing and than cold behavior is a passive form of control. It's like pay attention to me, not just give me a little bit, but give me ALL your attention... all the time...
He actually admits he has some kind of history because he keeps saying he's surprised that he doesn't get a more negative reaction. That's a confession in itself, but because people can be made to question their own instincts by giving the impression that the admission is a heart on the sleeve moment, he can pass his behavior under the radar. By saying things like "I'm mean to everyone", it's saying others shouldn't expect more from them, which is a cop out. It may not be intentionally manipulative, but he's at least honest.
All this being said, he still is one of the more interesting HM's in the house though because he's not a passive influence. He is clearly his own biggest influence (and possibly obstacle). Time will tell however. Especially with the the Henry/Matty situation, if he starts to play victim or not...
Being a narcissist doesn't always make a person evil. It's possible to be a self-absorbed person and still be capable of kindness and self-reflection... (see: Olivia)...
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