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Black Dagger 16-11-2024 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Oliver_W (Post 11575349)
Good luck Dag :D

Rearrange the letters of UNEMPLOYED, you get OPPORTUNITY :dance:

Love that ahahaha

smudgie 16-11-2024 05:58 PM

Get that application in for the apprenticeship Black Dagger.
In the meantime find something you will enjoy as a tide you over.
The world is your oyster young man.

Cherie 16-11-2024 06:56 PM

job hunting is tough but stick with what you know and something will present itself, if you want something different go for social care maybe? good luck BD

Black Dagger 16-11-2024 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by smudgie (Post 11575383)
Get that application in for the apprenticeship Black Dagger.
In the meantime find something you will enjoy as a tide you over.
The world is your oyster young man.

I think I will you know! It’s a totally different kind of thing than what I’ve ever thought to do. I used to love writing growing up but never took it anywhere

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Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 11575434)
job hunting is tough but stick with what you know and something will present itself, if you want something different go for social care maybe? good luck BD

I did do some adult care work when I was 15 for work experience and did enjoy it. I wouldn’t be opposed to that field again! Thank you x

caprimint 17-11-2024 12:43 AM

Catsitter :flutter:

Maru 17-11-2024 01:43 AM

Good luck Daggers :love: Bots gave you a great perspective. Change is always scary, but without it, things don't get better and we can't grow. It's OK to feel down and to be a bit moody about it all. Just don't let the events themselves take away your personal drive and always be open to better opportunities to enter your life than what you had before. It's much easier to be rigid and end up stuck emotionally.

Ammi 17-11-2024 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninastar (Post 11575246)
You know my situation where I had to give up the last 7 years of my life and start over in a completely new state. It is so overwhelming. And comments from family members/friends sometimes make it worse.

It took me two weeks to find a job here. It wasn’t the best but it led me to the place I work now (which I ****ing love) and I feel like it happened for a reason

Sometimes starting with less than what you had before is kind of like humbling??? And you end up appreciating more. That’s how I feel anyway. I took a job that doesn’t pay the best, just so I can work my way up and get a better position.

Are there any places you can see yourself working where you can like earn better opportunities?

Thimkibg ob you, friend!!

…I think what Caitlin has said is very true also, BD…that sometimes paths can be unexpected and not the direction you thought etc…but that they can lead you to something great that you wouldn’t have found, had you not gone through those bumpy times as well…and we may not want those bumps etc but they do have purpose because getting through them adds to our skills, if you like…(…I’m glad that you’re in a job that you love, Caitlin…:love:…and that you’ve found sense in it all because that’s the person you are, who will find that…:hug:…)…

…I’m liking the sound of the apprenticeship, BD…it’s something that you’ve felt drawn toward in the past…?…and if it’s presenting as something that’s open to you now or shortly…?..then maybe it’s drawing you toward it as wanting to be part your future…?….

Black Dagger 17-11-2024 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by caprimint (Post 11575551)
Catsitter :flutter:

Omg dream job 😍😍

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Originally Posted by Maru (Post 11575561)
Good luck Daggers :love: Bots gave you a great perspective. Change is always scary, but without it, things don't get better and we can't grow. It's OK to feel down and to be a bit moody about it all. Just don't let the events themselves take away your personal drive and always be open to better opportunities to enter your life than what you had before. It's much easier to be rigid and end up stuck emotionally.

Thank you for the words Maru. Means a lot! I’m not bitter at how this has gone down. I’m very much to blame for a lot of what led me to me having my hands forced and resigning. It’ll help me continue to grow as a person!

Black Dagger 17-11-2024 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 11575565)
…I think what Caitlin has said is very true also, BD…that sometimes paths can be unexpected and not the direction you thought etc…but that they can lead you to something great that you wouldn’t have found, had you not gone through those bumpy times as well…and we may not want those bumps etc but they do have purpose because getting through them adds to our skills, if you like…(…I’m glad that you’re in a job that you love, Caitlin…:love:…and that you’ve found sense in it all because that’s the person you are, who will find that…:hug:…)…

…I’m liking the sound of the apprenticeship, BD…it’s something that you’ve felt drawn toward in the past…?…and if it’s presenting as something that’s open to you now or shortly…?..then maybe it’s drawing you toward it as wanting to be part your future…?….

I just think it’d be a bold career path and why not. If it doesn’t work out then there is no harm in saying it just wasn’t right for me.

Niamh. 17-11-2024 08:59 AM

Best of luck with job hunt Lucas :love:

Ammi 17-11-2024 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Black Dagger (Post 11575669)
I just think it’d be a bold career path and why not. If it doesn’t work out then there is no harm in saying it just wasn’t right for me.

…yeah, Non, je ne regrette rien …I think is so much the better vibe than ‘should have…’…and if it isn’t right for you…?…then following that path may still lead to something that is right…we don’t always have to reach that final destination because that final destination may be on the way, you know…(…just by the by…one of my sons took a ‘bold career path’ change because he wasn’t happy with his direction at that time…there were so many reasons he could have found to say, hmmmmmm no…but he didn’t….?…and it’s brought him to everything in a work life that he could have hoped for…)…and our working lives are so very long so if we have opportunities to make them what we hoped for…then, yes…yes, yes, yes…

Cherie 17-11-2024 09:09 AM

I think we need to know more about how naughty you have been at your last job :fan:

Black Dagger 17-11-2024 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 11575686)
I think we need to know more about how naughty you have been at your last job :fan:

I mean getting diagnosed with depression and anxiety and working about 12 days since June didn’t help lol.

I may have skewered my system issues as well by making out my laptop was playing up but it was just me turning it off and rebooting whenever I got overwhelmed. Obviously misconduct and unprofessional but a lapse because this time last year I was going for a leadership role so they knew of my potential. I just got in my own head the last few months and the fact I was absent a lot just made me just think I wasn’t good for the company. My manager who I got on with said the door would be open if I was in a better state in the new year but I’m weighing up my options for now.

Black Dagger 17-11-2024 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 11575672)
Best of luck with job hunt Lucas :love:

Thank you Niamh :love;

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Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 11575682)
…yeah, Non, je ne regrette rien …I think is so much the better vibe than ‘should have…’…and if it isn’t right for you…?…then following that path may still lead to something that is right…we don’t always have to reach that final destination because that final destination may be on the way, you know…(…just by the by…one of my sons took a ‘bold career path’ change because he wasn’t happy with his direction at that time…there were so many reasons he could have found to say, hmmmmmm no…but he didn’t….?…and it’s brought him to everything in a work life that he could have hoped for…)…and our working lives are so very long so if we have opportunities to make them what we hoped for…then, yes…yes, yes, yes…

Love that for you all! Yes yes yes indeed!

Ammi 17-11-2024 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Black Dagger (Post 11575744)
I mean getting diagnosed with depression and anxiety and working about 12 days since June didn’t help lol.

I may have skewered my system issues as well by making out my laptop was playing up but it was just me turning it off and rebooting whenever I got overwhelmed. Obviously misconduct and unprofessional but a lapse because this time last year I was going for a leadership role so they knew of my potential. I just got in my own head the last few months and the fact I was absent a lot just made me just think I wasn’t good for the company. My manager who I got on with said the door would be open if I was in a better state in the new year but I’m weighing up my options for now.

…so even ‘at your worst as an employee’…as in being overwhelmed with your anxieties and depression…your manager still saw and appreciated your worth and value as an employee and would keep that door open for you, absolutely….which is a pretty great thing and I hope that helps you in realising your own self worth and self value…:hug:…

Cherie 17-11-2024 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Black Dagger (Post 11575744)
I mean getting diagnosed with depression and anxiety and working about 12 days since June didn’t help lol.

I may have skewered my system issues as well by making out my laptop was playing up but it was just me turning it off and rebooting whenever I got overwhelmed. Obviously misconduct and unprofessional but a lapse because this time last year I was going for a leadership role so they knew of my potential. I just got in my own head the last few months and the fact I was absent a lot just made me just think I wasn’t good for the company. My manager who I got on with said the door would be open if I was in a better state in the new year but I’m weighing up my options for now.

oh bless BD, hope you are getting the right help, medication, exercise etc to get you back on the right path, sounds like you have a great manager there, dont underestimate your ability to turn this round for yourself x

Black Dagger 17-11-2024 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Cherie (Post 11575872)
oh bless BD, hope you are getting the right help, medication, exercise etc to get you back on the right path, sounds like you have a great manager there, dont underestimate your ability to turn this round for yourself x

I am on a CBT course atm that is helping and I’m making sure I’m still walking and leaving the house while I’m not in work or I’d be in my own head all the time and not want to go anywhere.

Positive steps only!

Ithinkiloveyoutoo 17-11-2024 05:33 PM

I'm sorry to hear that and I hope you find something soon. I have a steady job however with the cost of living crisis, I was struggling so I took on a side hustle. If you want to find out more message me lol for real.

rusticgal 17-11-2024 08:00 PM

In the meantime get UC…your GP can also cover you with a FIT note. My son has been going through this for the last 7 months.

Vanessa 17-11-2024 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by rusticgal (Post 11576153)
In the meantime get UC…your GP can also cover you with a FIT note. My son has been going through this for the last 7 months.

Yes and you can get UC even if you're working. It really helps.

MTVN 17-11-2024 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo (Post 11576084)
I'm sorry to hear that and I hope you find something soon. I have a steady job however with the cost of living crisis, I was struggling so I took on a side hustle. If you want to find out more message me lol for real.

It's giving pyramid scheme

Black Dagger 17-11-2024 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by rusticgal (Post 11576153)
In the meantime get UC…your GP can also cover you with a FIT note. My son has been going through this for the last 7 months.

Yeah I’m looking into JSA/UC tomorrow. I think they’ll sanction me at first because I resigned from a job role but I will explain to them my reasoning and that I’d have been sacked over the weekend regardless.

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Originally Posted by Vanessa (Post 11576186)
Yes and you can get UC even if you're working. It really helps.

Will look into this 💙

Black Dagger 19-11-2024 05:12 PM

Got an interview tomorrow yay.

Friendlykev92 19-11-2024 05:18 PM

The very best of luck In your Interview tomorrow

Black Dagger 19-11-2024 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Friendlykev92 (Post 11577475)
The very best of luck In your Interview tomorrow

Thank you!


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