…I mean, she did say and acknowledge that maybe the guy was ‘just trying to be nice’ but that it was an unnecessary thing to say …because it was an unnecessary thing to say to a stranger who he has no idea of their life experiences etc and whether him saying that might make them feel weird, and she said that it did feel weird…she’s also surely just highlighting something that might more commonly happen to a female and how it might make them feel etc, which is is a good thing because whether it’s intended as ‘a compliment’ or not, its being said to a complete stranger which just isn’t necessary to say and is looking from it completely from the perspective of the ‘sayer’/not the person that it’s being said to ….whether the lady is an influencer or whatever/it’s an good thing to highlight…

You are too deeping ammi
She has no interest in any one else apart from herself

…well…surely one of the purposes of a content creator is to create content of discussions/highlighting things that people can experience etc…and all she’s asking in this particular content is…’is it necessary to approach a complete stranger…’…when you have no idea how it could/would be perceived…and no, it really isn’t necessary/whatever the intention, it really isn’t necessary to voice that to someone …

…but personally though…?…I think that I’m just deeping enough…not too much/not too little…

This type of question and others like it are done to death all across the internet
It’s not being done to help others , it’s a look at me come and defend me slag that man off who gave me a compliment

I’ve told strangers they smell nice and it’s always met with a smile and thank you
You can look for a negative in every aspect of life

It's pointless, Ammi.

@thesherrif443 thinks "gays should shut their hypocritical mouths" when it comes to women safety, but thinks if women wear certain clothes they are asking for unsolicited attention from straight men and it's fair game. :shrug:

As a female with lived experiences, etc, with other females... it is incredibly f-ing common for women to get together and talk **** when one of them receives compliments from an ugly guy. I have heard it all. "He's nasty", "eww", "gross", etc. (and far worse tbh) Women can be very brutal.

Maybe it is different in other places, but when women set their mind on someone being repulsive it absolutely completely changes how they personally perceive and treat a dude and it's common they talk about him behind his back. It sucks. He doesn't even have to be conventionally ugly. He just has to rub women the wrong way that they perceive as a repulsive trait. Excess egotism causes that reaction sometimes.

I have seen women do the 180 also where they meet a new colleague with whom they have the worst possible first reaction ever. He doesn't even know and starts talking to them differently in just some other way that just works for whatever reason and then in a month they're dating...

Emotions are a powerful thing but they're not 100% reliable and so I don't see every little hissy fit as worth getting worked up over to such an extent we need to remap all our perceptions of reality to match up with how every potential scenario would play out. We are not mindreaders and that's OK.

…I’ve read a little about her a d I’m glad for her that she’s overcome some stuff in her life to become the content creator that she may be but that’s by the by…for me, she’s not the focus so much as what she’s saying, which I agree with…that it wasn’t necessary to say and could make someone feel weird/creeped…and not to get all political but if that ‘sayer’ was a recent arrival in the UK etc and felt that it was ok to approach a young lady that they didn’t know to express how attractive they felt she was….hmmmmm…

…anyway, I have to rush/I'm travelling home in a few moments…

I see my comments from another thread that got closed is still hurting you
Gay men don’t get to say what straight women should accept when it comes to trans women

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I thought the same.

Funny how it's quiet from the 'keep women safe' group when there isn't a trans person or migrant to hate on at the same time.

But straight men get to say what women should accept when it comes to straight men (who are women's biggest threat to safety)?

Interesting.

(Also why just straight women? What about lesbians, or do you not see them as women either?)

Being late is a crime but speeding is

We can see things differently and give other examples where it would be seen differently
We have to remember men and women tell lies to get what they want!

I don’t do white wash when it comes to women
I’m talking individual examples

Don’t try and put your words in my mouth it won’t work with me

You said this:

Women have a right to wear what they want but some wear clothes to get a reaction If you are wearing something that everyone can see what’s in your knickers then don’t be surprised if someone says something.

That's speaking generally about what women choose to wear and how they should expect men to say something to them if men deem it the kind of clothing that gives them a free pass to do so.

And by the way, I totally agree that men (gay or straight) don't get decide what women should and shouldn't accept, however my opposition on here has been the overblown, anti-trans rhetoric that makes out trans people are this huge threat to society and particularly women.

I am totally on board with trans women not competing in sports should their strength, grip, speed levels not be in line with biological woman's. I've always maintained that after having years of HRT the physical ability of a trans women often matches that of a biological woman and levels the playing field and then it shouldn't be an issue.

My argument hasn't ever been "women need to accept this, says a gay man" it's been "lets contextualise why there are oppositions and see if it's rooted in truth or if it's rooted in decades of anti-trans media peddled by right-wing outlets".

You will find women will be inclined to tell another woman to go and put some clothes on if they are walking half naked or everything on show

I explained that 90% of Facebook clips are staged / fake and this looked extremely ‘acted out’ …

There are thousands upon thousands of content creators who are ‘making’ similar clips on a daily basis - they are just moneymaking little edits … that one alone has over 5 million views from what I recall - that little performance alone would probably make her a small fortune

I try to avoid it for that very reason

Sometimes you will see 3 or 4 clips featuring the exact same scenario - acted out by 4 different people (all attractive women more often than not - oddly enough- make of that what you will ) !

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One example shows a creator with a global audience earning around $1,000 for 1 million views, with a RPM (revenue per mille/thousand views) of around $1.
However, another example mentions potential earnings of $1,000 to $10,000 for 1 million views, showcasing the wide range of possible outcomes.
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Also
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Many staged and fake video clips on Facebook circulate because they can be a source of views, engagement, and potential revenue for content creators. Some creators stage videos for publicity, aiming to capitalize on controversy or public interest in drama. Others may use staged videos for monetization, either through direct ad revenue or sponsored content.
Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Monetization:
Facebook doesn't directly pay creators for showing ads on videos, but they encourage boosting posts with ads, which can drive views and engagement for staged content.


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The truth is trans women have raped abused and sexually assaulted real women when they have been put into real women only places or given access to real women’s spaces
Trans women gays lesbians and any one under that umbrella are no threat to me and I don’t have a an issue with those groups

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Definitely agree the vast majority of these types of stories are staged or they didn’t happen and they are there to highlight or protect women

I have never seen that really except from family members because on average most women don't lack so much self-awareness that they have never noticed certain looks will generate different reactions. It's not like there isn't entire industries surrounding clothing, styles, etc for the purposes of exploring such super powers and that the power of makeup and camera filters that enhance ones curves isn't also a thing.

Still, there is this increasing focus from third parties who like to insert their own interests into matters that are probably best handled by the individual. Lumping all women or trans, etc, into victim categories for the sake of winning arguments online is just tiresome. One can't argue against the emotions of another person anyway. Especially when the emotions are being narrated based on perceptions of the feelings of someone who is giving some personal account. We can express an opinion but it's not like we can dissect it internally.

If women really had a problem with the entire argument then it wouldn't even be so controversial logically. Anyway, it's not even about our feelings, it's what some third party deems we might actually be feeling so I understand why the lady in the Tiktok can be seen to be exploiting hysteria (edit: or maybe just hysteria related sympathy) for self gain... I don't care whether she believes it or not but find it a bit amusing she's going to be upset about being told she is attractive by strangers when she has a Tiktok that no doubt solicits such comments from strangers (which automatically helps her metrics)... if she has one exercise video on her feed, her entire argument is toast.

The initial question asked was ..

Was she overthinking what had happened to her !!

My take is that she wasn’t overthinking or ‘deeping’ the situation because it NEVER happened to her !!

She’s a content creator … simple as .


If I could be bothered looking through FaceWipe … there will be another 50 women who have acted out the same scenario.. probably word for word


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The only thing the video is "giving"

is narcissism

sadly

The only problem with this thinking is that it can stop people wanting to interact with each other, if they're constantly scared to try and strike up a conversation with someone.

For example, some lonely people (men or women it doesn't really matter) might be looking for friendship and might compliment someone's appearance as an intention to break the ice with that other person, and hope to make a friend.

I mean tbf, only the guy in question will know what his intentions were.