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Jack_ 27-06-2015 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Amy Jade (Post 7935597)
I agree

Seeing people enjoy Helen's treatment of Brian has been deeply disturbing. I've no issue with people having different opinions but to actually enjoy a grown man welling up being called really horrific names and watch another person goade him and thoroughly enjoying ever moment of torment is odd to me.

Exactly. I could understand how people find and found Helen entertaining in all other instances, last year and this year. Hell, I could even have understood people finding that argument entertaining and acceptable had this particular scene not happened and she had just called him a murderer and a rapist, but to think that someone sitting there being goaded and belittled deliberately (as she admitted to) by someone who was getting enjoyment out of it is entertaining and/or acceptable is to me absolutely abhorrent. Something so uncomfortable and saddening is not justifiable in any way shape or form, and the fact that some people think it is is just disturbing.

Macie Lightfoot 27-06-2015 12:29 AM

why are people even engaging in this tbh? Like, Helen's behavior over both the course of this series and last series (and I'll throw in Marc's behavior too tbh; they really are two sides of the same coin) speaks for itself, and the few people who do like Helen will continue to do mental gymnastics to make it seem like she's permanently the victim who has done no wrong and how dare anyone do her wrong.

ItWasJustBanter 27-06-2015 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 7935613)
Exactly. I could understand how people find and found Helen entertaining in all other instances, last year and this year. Hell, I could even have understood people finding that argument entertaining and acceptable had this particular scene not happened and she had just called him a murderer and a rapist, but to think that someone sitting there being goaded and belittled deliberately (as she admitted to) by someone who was getting enjoyment out of it is entertaining and/or acceptable is to me absolutely abhorrent. Something so uncomfortable and saddening is not justifiable in any way shape or form, and the fact that some people think it is is just disturbing.

To be quite honest I was egging her on. I think she showed a bit of weakness there.

Jason. 27-06-2015 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by MB. (Post 7935561)
Can we just end on-season now please

This.

Glenn. 27-06-2015 12:35 AM

I'm screaming at the lengths people will defend Helen. I'm howling with laughter.

iToby 27-06-2015 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by ItWasJustBanter (Post 7935537)
It's not a level argument when he's physically much stronger than her and roaring at the top of his voice. She mentally destroyed him using the tools she has in her locker. I'm not saying that's right but she argued to her strengths, he argued to his and she won.

I hope he doesn't charge her too much for the space she's renting in his head. He will be haunted by her for a long time.

She struck me as more of a squatter type

ItWasJustBanter 27-06-2015 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Quasar (Post 7935640)
I'm screaming at the lengths people will defend Helen. I'm howling with laughter.

You should get that seen to.

Jason. 27-06-2015 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Quasar (Post 7935640)
I'm screaming at the lengths people will defend Helen. I'm howling with laughter.

I'm screaming at why people are still talking about her.

Her and Nikki have gone. They're history.

Move on.

Robodog 27-06-2015 01:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Quasar (Post 7935640)
I'm screaming at the lengths people will defend Helen. I'm howling with laughter.

Yes her saying that Brian looked like a rapist/murderer was an indefensible way to react to him shouting at her like that for the third time that week. No wonder people call her a villain!

She should not have sat there and said those words to him as he stood over her shouting; instead she should have followed Brian's example and acted exactly like him.

She should have stood up over Brian, pointed and screamed in his face, called him a 'vile human being', an energy sucking demon ('dementer'), said he was 'pure evil' and told him that he 'makes his money from being a scumbag' etc etc.

Not only that, she should have got so worked up as she shouted at him that she had to be physically restrained by the other HMs - just like Brian did for the third time that week.

Maybe she should have thrown her shoes and stormed off?

If only she had said and done ALL those things instead, exactly as Brian did - THEN she wouldn't have been called a villain at all. She would have been called a Hero, just like Brian was.

Brian showed us all how to behave that night. That's how heroes behave.

It's HILARIOUS as you say mate that people defend Helen in the face of such heroic behaviour from Brian. Brian's insults and shouting and pointing and physical intimidation are SOOOO much better than anything Helen ever said in retalliation aren't they????

JamesBond 27-06-2015 01:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ItWasJustBanter (Post 7935604)
Arguments aren't linear. They don't start and stop and are forgotten about. He was nit picking at her all week, making up stuff that Marc had supposedly done (he didn't vote out Jade) and he was aggressive towards her.

She schooled him. She completely broke him down bit by bit and fed him to himself. She was well within her rights to too because he's an aggressive, attention seeker in dire need of anger management. How he has come out of this unscathed is beyond me.

100%

Lampfan 27-06-2015 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by BB6 (Post 7935648)
I'm screaming at why people are still talking about her.

Her and Nikki have gone. They're history.

Move on.

wasteman-oh!!

or something stupid

Glenn. 27-06-2015 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Robodog (Post 7935733)
Yes her saying that Brian looked like a rapist/murderer was an indefensible way to react to him shouting at her like that for the third time that week. No wonder people call her a villain!

She should not have sat there and said those words to him as he stood over her shouting; instead she should have followed Brian's example and acted exactly like him.

She should have stood up over Brian, pointed and screamed in his face, called him a 'vile human being', an energy sucking demon ('dementer'), said he was 'pure evil' and told him that he 'makes his money from being a scumbag' etc etc.

Not only that, she should have got so worked up as she shouted at him that she had to be physically restrained by the other HMs - just like Brian did for the third time that week.

Maybe she should have thrown her shoes and stormed off?

If only she had said and done ALL those things instead, exactly as Brian did - THEN she wouldn't have been called a villain at all. She would have been called a Hero, just like Brian was.

Brian showed us all how to behave that night. That's how heroes behave.

It's HILARIOUS as you say mate that people defend Helen in the face of such heroic behaviour from Brian. Brian's insults and shouting and pointing and physical intimidation are SOOOO much better than anything Helen ever said in retalliation aren't they????

Sure boo :hee:

jet 27-06-2015 01:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Macie Lightfoot (Post 7935628)
why are people even engaging in this tbh? Like, Helen's behavior over both the course of this series and last series (and I'll throw in Marc's behavior too tbh; they really are two sides of the same coin) speaks for itself, and the few people who do like Helen will continue to do mental gymnastics to make it seem like she's permanently the victim who has done no wrong and how dare anyone do her wrong.

:clap1: Exactly. It's amazingly difficult to comprehend why anyone could love Helen, but a small minority do, so that's that. As you say, why even engage? Majority rules, so let the few who admire her have her and good luck to them, they are welcome to her! :bored:

BB4fan 27-06-2015 01:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Ja$e (Post 7935584)
http://i.imgur.com/mvyBicl.gif

You try waaaay too hard.

As dies the cow in your avi every time she throws a fake tantrum for camera time.:hehe:

goldensunlight 27-06-2015 01:56 AM

This thread is far more entertaining than the Helen/Brian argument itself. :joker:

jaxie 27-06-2015 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 7935518)
People keep making these points about how Brian reacted to her and was shouting at her. Yes, he did, I'm not denying that. But there was one scene where he sat on the sofa in silence, clearly shaking and about to cry and Helen goaded him, mocked him, said 'I am going to antagonise you now' and smirked and got enjoyment out of the fact he was showing weakness.

It doesn't matter whether he was aggressive before that, or aggressive after that. That one particular scene he did nothing and she continued to abuse him. That is bullying. If someone is saying nothing and you continue to abuse them, you are being a bully. It doesn't matter if they later respond or responded before, if someone isn't saying anything and you don't realise that enough is enough, then you are being a bully. Which she was.

A level argument where two people are going at it, which they both were in other scenes, absolutely fine. But one person going at someone who is sat in silence. Unacceptable, regardless of who it is.

Well said Jack.

Ammi 27-06-2015 07:05 AM

...one thing I find so bad with all of this, is that it's so difficult to define 'bullying' as being a clear cut thing so in BB context it's just 'perceptions' etc...but one of the first 'clear cut' type things is whether someone feels bullied...and Brian isn't the first person to have felt bullied by Helen...it's also that thing with someone like Brian/that slight vulnerable part of him...and yes he does have balance with other parts of his personality and hasn't always been the best himself in the house...but he does have a vulnerability about him as well..so I think that bullying is called more easily because of that..as it was with Jale as well...but much less so with Ashleigh...because she often looked so miserable and could 'b*tch with the best of them' etc..so basically everything Helen said to her was just 'justifiable' stuff..I find that personally extremely disturbing as a message to be given out....that a bullied person has to have a 'victim' type personality for bullying to be called or percieved....

bots 27-06-2015 07:23 AM

I have a big problem with the legends and the legends week for several reasons. Firstly, they were not normal housemates, they were each paid a fee to bring a particular type of behaviour to the house - manufactured drama.

Secondly, the producers manufactured the conflict between the legends for ratings. It had nothing to do with the standard housemates, they hardly showed them at all over the 2 weeks they were there (with the exception of golden boy Marc)

Thirdly, BB knew exactly how the whole thing was going to pan out if they continued to put the legends in positions of conflict, and gave them tasks to deliberately ignite the flames.

Fourthly, BB could have intervened at any time to calm things down, like they have done throughout this series. The 2 noteable occasions they didn't intervene, Aaron ended up booted out and Helen trashed - even though Brian had behaved equally badly throughout his time there.

If situations happen naturally and someone behaves terribly, then yes, they deserve condemnation, but not when it is specifically manufactured to happen. In that case, the only people that deserve any blame whatsoever are the producers

Denver 27-06-2015 07:52 AM

They both left the house now so I honestly don't know why more threads are being made on it

jegmeister 27-06-2015 08:20 AM

If Helen loves honesty so much
 
she would have appreciated that interview from Emma. Instead of being biased as some on here claimed, Emma was being honest with her about her behaviour. I should have thought Helen would appreciate that.

Unless, as with everything with Helen, it only ever applies one way.

JeanP! 27-06-2015 08:26 AM

Oh my god. She is out of the house. Get over it
Even her haters cannot stop talking about Helen <3

JeanP! 27-06-2015 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Robodog (Post 7935733)
Yes her saying that Brian looked like a rapist/murderer was an indefensible way to react to him shouting at her like that for the third time that week. No wonder people call her a villain!

She should not have sat there and said those words to him as he stood over her shouting; instead she should have followed Brian's example and acted exactly like him.

She should have stood up over Brian, pointed and screamed in his face, called him a 'vile human being', an energy sucking demon ('dementer'), said he was 'pure evil' and told him that he 'makes his money from being a scumbag' etc etc.

Not only that, she should have got so worked up as she shouted at him that she had to be physically restrained by the other HMs - just like Brian did for the third time that week.

Maybe she should have thrown her shoes and stormed off?

If only she had said and done ALL those things instead, exactly as Brian did - THEN she wouldn't have been called a villain at all. She would have been called a Hero, just like Brian was.

Brian showed us all how to behave that night. That's how heroes behave.

It's HILARIOUS as you say mate that people defend Helen in the face of such heroic behaviour from Brian. Brian's insults and shouting and pointing and physical intimidation are SOOOO much better than anything Helen ever said in retalliation aren't they????

+287338383

ebandit 27-06-2015 08:29 AM

well? i've been so happy to talk about helen 'cos finally she got what she deserved

.......there is no defence for so much that helen says.......supporters can only deflect

Mark L

Jamie89 27-06-2015 08:30 AM

I agree that Helens behaviour was absolutely awful but I think the reason people are generally more worked up over her comments are for two reasons. Firstly (and it's sad to say but) her antagonistic behaviour is something we've come to expect from big brother contestants, and especially where Helen is concerned it's nothing new. So as terrible as it is, it isn't really shocking.
Secondly, when she made her comments, I think they struck an emotional cord with people. I for one found it upsetting that not only would someone say those things to another person but also that there were no real repercussions for it.
It's not really a question of which was worse, her behaviour or comments. It isn't a competition, they were both awful. It's just that her comments were more shocking and unexpected in the context of what we're used to seeing on the show and so of course, would provoke more of a reaction from us.

smudgie 27-06-2015 08:49 AM

I wonder if she will get her job back behind the bar on BBOTS now.
Surely that will be very telling, if she does, then BB obviously condones her behaviour.

jegmeister 27-06-2015 09:20 AM

One thing you always get from Helen is a string of straw man arguments. She hopes that by flinging out accusations of bullying against others, it will deflect people away from her own behaviour. Fortunately, this time BB producers had the balls to challenge her properly on it. And about time too.

If Helen is honest as she claims, she would admit her own behaviour. She might say that she too wasn't happy and explain why. That is not the point. She can't pretend she didn't call Brian a rapist and murderer. She did and should have apologised properly if she was genuinely being honest.

Goading and baiting is just as bad as shouting and finger-pointing. In fact, in my view it's worse because it's calculated. We all lose our temper at times. It's a natural thing when we feel strongly about someone. But in a civilised society there are social limits. And Helen crossed that line in her behaviour by her goading. Brian's behaviour was uncomfortable to watch at times and he is far from perfect but that is not the same. And quite frankly only someone who is biased and completely unreasonable would not see this.

The bottom line is this why did she say "you're playing into my hands" if she was scared of him as she claims. Surely, the logical approach would be to avoid him and have nothing to do with him. It is a lie - pure and simple. She is not scared of him. She hates him. And her goading and baiting shows this.

And it is exactly the same with Nikki - Helen lied again by saying that she is fake. One thing that Nikki is not is a fake. She is a huge diva, an annoying pain at times and an idiot but she is who she is and is exactly the same as she has always been for all these years.

Helen's claims simply aren't backed up by the facts in any of these incidents. If a large number of the public think you're a bully, then we have 2 options. Either an outbreak of collective bias and hysteria has broken out and people are all lying for the sake of it (and all think Helen is wonderful) or just possibly it's because it's because most people can see that her behaviour is unacceptable. Most reasonable people would see that it must be the second option that applies here.

Griffin5779 27-06-2015 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Amy Jade (Post 7935609)
Helen saw he was angry and I don't blame him, he was being called horrific things.

She continued to try abd push him further abd tip him over the edge.

She then claims she was intimidated by him. I don't believe her, had she really been intimidated I doubt she would keep prodding.

he had been over the top angry for days before helen comment..and bitching calling helen and marc horrible things. I challenge you to produce examples of "horrible" thing helen said before her Murder/Rapist comment..and i'll easily out do them triple with Brian comments

Stankleberry 27-06-2015 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Quasar (Post 7935571)
nothing more needs to be said. All assumptions to suit your agenda.

Charging at someone to the point where other people need to physically hold you back is insane, and if you're a large man doing it to a woman it's completely insane and would normally be deemed "unacceptable behavior", certainly. I guess some people get a free pass for some reason, huh. What could the reason be.

Kazanne 27-06-2015 10:05 AM

Nice to see Helen is still the topic of conversation on here,lol, Helen was a great housemate,she didn't bully anyone,she's not liked by some,Ah well,who really cares ? I enjoyed watching her,bit sick of people TRYING to force their opinions on people.

jaxie 27-06-2015 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 7935575)
It's usually vitriolic enough to be miserable year after year, but I have been honestly so appalled over the last few days at the reactions to this incident. I'm ashamed to be a part of a fan base of a programme that includes people who think such behaviour is justifiable. This show is the pits.

This is troubling me too. I am feeling like I have little in common with many on the forum, you think to yourself how can people support this sort of thing. In the past I've enjoyed the mix of people and the banter but increasingly I feel quite disillusioned and separate.

jet 27-06-2015 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by jaxie (Post 7936226)
This is troubling me too. I am feeling like I have little in common with many on the forum, you think to yourself how can people support this sort of thing. In the past I've enjoyed the mix of people and the banter but increasingly I feel quite disillusioned and separate.

I know just how you feel. I got to that point last year which is why I hardly bother to come here or post any more, and so many others have fled too. :sad:
The Helen enablers just wore them down, sadly.

rionablue 27-06-2015 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 7935575)
It's usually vitriolic enough to be miserable year after year, but I have been honestly so appalled over the last few days at the reactions to this incident. I'm ashamed to be a part of a fan base of a programme that includes people who think such behaviour is justifiable. This show is the pits.

I agree Jack but look at all the Helen love and Marc love, two vile disgusting human beings but a clearer example is that Hazel was in the WRONG in many peoples eyes when it came to the incident with Daley. And in many of the other sexual encounters if they happen the woman is for the most part blamed. I try to live a good life and I have bad language the same as many other people but the comments that have come out of Marc's and more importantly HELENS mouth have disgusted me to the core. I assumed most people would agree but they don't. We just have to let everyone have their say on these forums and stick to what we believe in ourselves. Love your posts by the way :wavey:

ebandit 27-06-2015 11:09 AM

............i'm sure that the majority too shake their head in disbelief

Mark L

Kazanne 27-06-2015 11:11 AM

Well I for one will support who I want and ignore the backhanded comments about how 'terrible' Helen supporters are ,I really don't care , people acting as though they have never done or said anything wrong is laughable , so you can hint at us all you want,I am not a sheep,I support Helen and proud to say so.

jet 27-06-2015 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Kazanne (Post 7936253)
I support Helen and proud to say so.

Her latest in a long line of brainless twitter insults must have you near to bursting with glee and pride. I'm happy for you that your support for Helen enhances your life.

Kazanne 27-06-2015 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jet (Post 7936403)
Her latest in a long line of brainless twitter insults must have you near to bursting with glee and pride. I'm happy for you that your support for Helen enhances your life.

Thankyou:wavey:

Tarryn 27-06-2015 12:57 PM

She said some totally nasty & unacceptable things BUT she does not regret them.
There is nothing anyone can do to change this woman.
Even if she said sorry to Brian she would not mean it, so what's the point :shrug:
BB probably made it clear to her before she went in the house to stir it up.
Job done.
Do I like the woman ?, no but I don't have to concern myself with her anymore.
Is she pure evil ?, no. Just a bit of twat.
If Helen had gone in there & been Miss Nice everybody would have slated her saying she is fake.
I detest her behaviour but unfortunately the one thing that woman is not is fake.
I'm just glad she's gone.

Jack_ 27-06-2015 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by JeanP! (Post 7935995)
Oh my god. She is out of the house. Get over it
Even her haters cannot stop talking about Helen <3

This thread was made on a night when Helen was asked to account for her actions by the production team. Perhaps tell them that she's 'out of the house'

But please don't tell me what to do, thanks babe xo

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Originally Posted by Kazanne (Post 7936138)
Nice to see Helen is still the topic of conversation on here,lol, Helen was a great housemate,she didn't bully anyone,she's not liked by some,Ah well,who really cares ? I enjoyed watching her,bit sick of people TRYING to force their opinions on people.

Yes she did bully Brian in the scene I described in the OP, I'll wait for your defence of it if you think it wasn't bullying.

And it isn't an opinion. It's a fact.

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Originally Posted by Kazanne (Post 7936253)
Well I for one will support who I want and ignore the backhanded comments about how 'terrible' Helen supporters are ,I really don't care , people acting as though they have never done or said anything wrong is laughable , so you can hint at us all you want,I am not a sheep,I support Helen and proud to say so.

I've done things wrong in my life, but I have never bullied someone by mocking and goading them when they're in front of me shaking and saying nothing. Because I have a conscience and know that's clearly unacceptable. Perhaps you have though, who knows.

jet 27-06-2015 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Jack_ (Post 7936522)
I've done things wrong in my life, but I have never bullied someone by mocking and goading them when they're in front of me shaking and saying nothing. Because I have a conscience and know that's clearly unacceptable. Perhaps you have though, who knows.

:clap2: There are people in this world who not only find mocking, goading and insulting behaviour acceptable (and that awful woman is still at it on twitter) - they glory it it, relish it and enable it. They don't appear to appreciate kindness and decency (too boring!) and they don't seem to care about what is acceptable and what isn't as long as they get their kick - and unless it's directed at them personally - and most are probably too long in the tooth to change. :hehe:

sungrass 27-06-2015 01:59 PM

Its best not to talk about Helen anymore. There are good and evil people in the world and you wont change anyones mind- but it hurts the good people more to see people like Helen do their work.

TBH Im really tired of talking about it.


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