It depends on what the Mistress looked like.:hehe::joker:

You cannot have a happy marriage if you have a mistress, you may be married but happy, respect for yourself, true to yourself?

No

You would be nothing more than a shallow cad and your life a pathetic sham

Wow you know what i think now?

Two lines and you summed it up perfectly Joey :love:

Wow... what about women who have money and status what's their excuse? :laugh:

Exactly and as much as I find the OP insulting towards women, it's also pretty insulting towards all those decent men out there in marriages/long term relationships.

The term 'mistress' is quite out moded to be applied to any modern relationship, mistresses were taken without the consent of the wife and conducted in secret.
I don't think having a long term affair could or ever would add to a marriage, the deception and the divergence of feelings for both women would be detrimental to the marriage and if discovered could end it completely.
Personally I would not like to be the mistress, should the affair last there would be the distinct risk of developing feelings for the man you are sleeping with, added to that the need for a loving family of your own where you happily provide both a happy home life and a fulfilling sex life.
There should be no question of a divergence of roles, if that were the case we could go on forever selecting mates for specific roles... I could have Mr Monday for his bedroom prowess, Mr Tuesday the electrician, Mr Wednesday the gardener...
Hang on, I'm having a rethink....jk.

:blush:Thank you Niamh, unusual for me, I usually go on for pages.:joker:

lol that's the funny part, if these mistresses ever did end up as the wife, would they be happy then for their husband to toddle off with their new Mistress while they stay at home and do the dishes?

I know I'm getting quite emotive about this subject but I have witnessed the complete and utter devastation this kind of thing causes a family, not just the couple themselves but kids and brothers and sisters etc etc it's not pretty and for someone like the OP to come along all flippantly like that and not give a **** about the trail of destruction those actions, all in the name of meaningless "fun" can cause, actually disgusts me

I spent months upon months trying to help someone very close to me pick up the pieces of their shattered life after a situation very similar to this.

Yes me too, the notion that human emotion can be taken out of a situation like this is not realistic.

Tbf to Kate I don't know if she meant for it to come across the way it has done to some of the individuals on this thread, however I've also seen people that I know go through stuff like this (men and women in fact) and I wouldn't want to be some toy boy in some broken relationship between the Wife and Husband that just won't call it quits.

This thread is... well... :shrug:

No. I don't do sharesies... and if a man expected me to, he'd be gone.

This ^

I think this sort of set-up is only acceptable if it's an agreement made by the husband and wife. If so, who are we to judge?

However, if the guy is just cheating on his wife then that's not something I can agree with at all.

I would like to see a show of hands for all the ladies who volunteer to be the wives in Kates little set up..... Oh yeah me please I'd like to be the servant while you go off and **** my husband :umm2:

LOL...

Well this thread is rather horrifying

I am disgusted with what you are asking kate ? it is 100% out of the question- totally disgusting and just not right at all.

anyone who disagrees with me is as sensible as my poems.

every man and woman no's to keep everyone happy you have to have a little slap and tickle along the way so to suggest 1 mistress - well that is very low standards.

most of my pals have at least 4 but as I am in my prime I am proud to have 7 :laugh:


( ps if any of you out there are reading this - you no I am winding everyone up and you are the one for me. ):joker:

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What about the women who marry men earning less than them?

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This is what I always think when it comes to people who just can't stop themselves from cheating. Why bother entering a relationship in the first place?

Stay single and you can do and go wherever you please. :shrug:

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:joker::joker::joker:

:laugh::laugh::laugh: You are a joker Hog.

Yeah... this is pretty sexist.

'A man should have a wife for the family and a mistress for pleasure' honestly is one of the most disgusting misogynistic statements I've heard in a while. Women are not products that you can choose from and they are certainly not objects to be played around with. If you want to have a polygamous relationship, I have nothing against that so long as everyone is aware that this is happening.. but honestly the whole secretive side to this seems very unfair to both the women (and the children!), and especially since one woman is essentially being used for sex.

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Serial cheats ARE serial cheats because they have NO real confidence in themselves and are deeply insecure with an unconscious or subconscious sense of worthlessness.

They NEED the reassurance of being able to seduce other women to feed their poor egos, but BECAUSE they have only superficial confidence, they also NEED a woman permanently in their lives as a fallback, a bolster for the times they fail in their quest to seduce other women.

MATURE men who have no such insecurities and who choose to seduce as many women as they can, remain single.

I do not deny the possibility that the most solid of marriages CAN become endangered because one of the partners falls unexpectedly in love with someone else.

I know my view might cause anger or controversy, but I believe that this CAN happen - it might be rare, but it can and has happened and even if the man is too weak to resist this 'feeling', he should at least be man enough to admit the truth to his partner and move out and on to be fair to the injured party.

I hate 'sharing' and cheating, so I'm afraid I do not subscribe to the OP hypothetical scenario.

I have always had a maxim which I still hold:

'Do Not Worry About Being The First Lover She's Had, Concern Yourself With Being Her Last'.

...I guess that adults do have the luxury of making their own decisions and living with those decisions..but I've seen too many seriously damaged children who don't have that privilege and whose lives have fairly much been screwed from the off because of a parent only thinking about their own wants, to even take this thread seriously....