If Tomasz/Isaac is anything to go off, it is that it does, in fact, get better

Should've kicked his ****ing head in Anthony!

cordial to the point when they inevitably say something problematic (happens a lot)

i've blacklisted HEAPS of str8's during lunchtime discussions including;

"i'M whItE BuT i caN StiLL saY tHe N wOrd"
"F*ggot this, and F*ggot that"
"Women are property"

deadass everybody bar the asians at my school have said some fooked up problematic shit at one point or other

I remember being really upset bc on my second day of high school I got called gay and when a high school team I was in found out we would be going away one of the guys said to my face "ugh if we're sharing rooms I'm not sharing with Ant because... yknow" and like. We'd be in separate beds. He'd know if I tried to do anything. And I think he knew that I wouldn't do anything bc he was clearly saying it as a jab and not like a concern like "oh ant's gonna feel me up!!" like. ok. in fact on that trip a teacher (who was drunk) asked me if i was gay like. huh

I was gonna but my boyfriend already flipped him off and they got angry and I was like "we're in the middle of a retail park and he's wanting a response so I won't give him one" but I got home and I swear I was nearly crying which was dramatic bc I never get insecure about my sexuality

it was so weird after I left high school bc I met straight guys and they weren't repulsed about me at all which was kinda sad bc I've just grown up with straight guys doing jabs at me. The only guy friends I did have ended up being gay so I never really had a friendship with a straight guy and it was really weird bc being friends with a straight gu is different from being friends with a straight girl/any girl. Like with my gal pals I'd kiss them and hug them and be really affectionate and say "i love u!!!" and I just didn't feel comfortable doing that with a straight guy. And I'm a p affectionate person and even with my gay guy friends we've talked about how much we've platonically loved each other and been up all night talking and it's never meant anything romantically. It's just weird how I don't feel comfortable doing that w/ the straights

Aww I'm sorry to hear that :hug: That guy was probably a closeted gay himself and was attempting to impress his friends.

Tbf some straights still find us disgusting but those are usually ****ed up about sex and/or gender identity so :shrug: We are only one of many other problems they have.

Same. They used to joke about it in some classes too and never get told off or picked up on it either...

Straights that can have conversations with you about guys like they do with fellow straights and girls are the best

Doubt these exist

I was in the jacuzzi at the gym with these rugby lads and they were talking about girls they like and then they got me involved asking what the equivalent of a tits girls is with gays, what kind of guys I like and then if I like bum boys (he realized what he said and then quickly corrected himself to ass guys) it was so cute :bawling::bawling::bawling:

They do, I’ve known some!

Inclusive straights are adorable, especially if they’re new to it :love:

They can go too far though, one of mine once asked me about rimming and I zoned out like, no ma’am google that.

:laugh2:

does this thread apply to the ones still in t'closet ??

we love an inclusive thread

I guess so, how you feel in general around straight men and if you’d feel comfortable to be out around them? :think:
Oh poor you not being able to give your opinion or being able to relate to our oppression:sad:

Yes its dreadful you poor person

don't be nasty

some threads address people with particular experiences

It wouldn't surprise me :joker: there's this one homophobe I know who's camp as fook. Not trying to stereotype but I've seen twinks stroll in pickle park with less flamboyancy

Maybe it's because I don't necessarily "seem" gay but it's never been an issue, to the point I don't even know why it would be, if that makes sense?

tbh that's a safeguarding issue - adults who are responsible for kids shouldn't be drinking, and that's completely inappropriate to ask.
(I'm not throwing accusations around, but any other adult who heard that would be obligated to report it)

There was another teacher with her :joker: they were the only teachers on the trip with us. I actually found it kinda funny.

We were all 14/15 and they told us to go find some restaurant to eat at and they both went to a pub to watch the football :skull: then we went back to the accommodation and she kept using gay as an insult so she turns to me like "Ant does that offend you? Are you... yknow?"

Oh okay, that kind of puts a different slant on it :joker:

I still don't think the headteacher would've been fine with what happened :laugh:

Maybe not, tbh I still disapprove with the drinking around kids :nono: but then I'm practically Mother Superior about these things, so

:smug:

I've never really had gay friends until my last job (and while I'm still in touch with him we don't really see each other), my social circles have always consisted of girls and straight guys.

Lol of course they do. One of them is my oldest friend actually, we've been friends since we were 4 and he has a gay cousin too so he's ridiculously comfortable discussing anything with me, even suggesting we go to the gay village on a future night out because I've never been to a gay club and he wants to help me get a boyfriend :joker:

At school we were pretty much half and half (I went to an all-boys school): there were about 8 of us in our circle of friends and 4 of us have come out as gay or bi since school. The other 4 were/are straight. It's never been an issue lol

Of my friends now I still would say it's about half-half. I only really begin to shut out straight guys if I pick up a sense that they are weird around me, or judging me, or are just flat-out homophobic :laugh: Otherwise I don't really see why this thread would be a question.

If I'm completely honest, I find straight guys kinda hard. It's probably more due to my own insecurity/paranoia. I had male friends at school in the closet :skull: At uni ALL of my closest friends are female (like my 10 closest uni friends at least probs) but I do have some male friends and get on w males great in the right circumstances. I think I'm almost more self-conscious because I have so many female friends?

Deffo getting better.
I mean, take just one fact: all opinion polls say vast majority agrees with gay marriages. Something like that would be unthinkable years ago and suggest a sea change in opinions on gays.

that's not nice

anyway I don't have friends

:joker:

:skull: @ the live call

All my friends are mostly girls and gays