I can't send him a card Cherie. The charity don't pass things on and there's no other way for me to contact him.

Hang in the there Kate
it is not nice to have this done

Is there no one within your circle who can advocate on your behalf or know more details, friends, other family members?

Maybe you could start with trying to build bridges with your brother if they have turned him on you. I'm assuming he still has contact with his uncle?

I think deep down you know the reason why he doesn't want to see you or you have a good guess. You have to be truthful to yourself and admit that fault, if there is one.

Did you tell him you were moving in with Karl? He would only have been 21 so that's a huge decision to make if you didn't involve him. Does his father have contact with him? Is the father Karl? Does your son feel abandoned? Why was he not happy you moved in with Karl? Was your son living with you? How far away was it? Did you ditch him for Karl? What happened at the funeral?

Just trying to understand the much bigger picture to offer you some advice.

Ask yourself these questions.

I think you might be able to do something about this if you are able to identify exactly why he does not want to see you.

People ALWAYS say something. I don't know why he's ghosted Kate. But it's quite sad. But I don't know the full story.

I'm sorry to hear this Kate.

I honestly think that every family has some drama to some extent, especially when things like new partners come into the fold.

Yup…sadly.

I know. Sometimes I wish I didn't have any family and in was all by myself.
I love them all, but not the drama that comes with it.

yep