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Originally Posted by Liam-
(Post 11296156)
‘Gays protect other gays’
This site is horrific, completely irrational people that can’t stand people not falling over themselves to agree with them.
Me and Glenn, time and time again, have justified why we have the opinions we do, which we didn’t have to do at all, but we did, yet this forum, as usual, descends into homophobia as a tactic to belittle and demean people that don’t follow the status quo, it’s sickening, funny thing is, Smudgie agreed with what I said, has she been attacked, ridiculed and interrogated? No and it’s clear to see why.
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I don't think it's about protecting anyone but I do think there's an impulse -- a very understandable impulse, given the history of false accusations -- to bunker down when it seems like someone who has recently come out as a gay man is being accused of something like this. A worry that it's more fuel to the fire of how homophobic people stereotype gay men (which unfortunately I have to concede, it is).
With that in mind I can appreciate that throwing around words like "nonce" and "paedo" is short-sighted, damaging and flippant and also inaccurate -- the correct term would be ephebophilia (sexual attraction of older adults to adolescents and late teens) and I have in the past been quite hard-line on not misusing the term "paedophile" is it means something very specific (and very grim) so my apologies for that.
HOWEVER all of that said, I stand by my opinion that Philip's actions are not only wrong and predatory but that they do still constitute grooming. Full adults can be groomed, it's not specific to children, and teenagers can 100% be groomed by an adult in a position of perceived influence. There is no question in my mind that this applies here. And I personally believe his pursuit of this boy began when he was an adolescent. There's no excuse (at all) for Philip in his 50's to be exchanging DM's with a 15 year old. It's completely inappropriate and the fact that it later became a sexual relationship is massively concerning.
The stretching and reaching to defend it is not a good look and honestly does more harm than good in terms of the stereotyping, because to most people, seeing men (any man, gay or otherwise) looking at this situation and saying "Meh that's totally fine, the kid was legal so there's no problem" is a massive red flag on that individual.
I'm really sorry to say but yes I do think that being gay men (and worried about people making those links that have always been historically made) is part of why you and Glenn are so defensive of this situation and I actually do understand why you're doing it on those terms.
That's actually me giving you the benefit of the doubt and thinking, why would people who I think are generally fair-minded people despite my disagreements with them be defending this.
If I thought it WASN'T because of this... if I thought you genuinely hand-on-heart believed that there was "nothing wrong" with how Schofield pursued a young person he'd known since adolescence for a sexual relationship "because it's technically legal" ... then I'd actually be being uncharitable. If I believed you
actually believed that I'd have you on a watchlist. Maybe it's slightly more understandable as (I think) you're still quite young yourself but if you still believe it when you're 50 I'd have some major questions.