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18-10-2013 10:42 AM |
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Originally Posted by Toy Soldier
(Post 6436434)
I can only assume you didn't read the post? It's not about "the real truth" - it applies even if what they're saying is 100% true. It's not about them beating themselves up or punishing themselves either. It's not about them AT ALL.
It's about not shying away from the fact that what they did was reckless, selfish and borderline neglectful. It's about refusing to further the myth that its not partially their fault due to a parental failure. It's about not letting selfish parenting become "normal" - not sitting silently while people pretend that what they did is in any way within the bounds of bare-minimum responsible parenting, not saying "what they did was fine, they just got unlucky" because it's bull****. They failed their child and SHE paid the ultimate price, not them. If saying that out loud as often and as loudly as you can means there's even SLIGHTLY less chance of other parents failing their children in similar ways, then it's worth saying. And if the McCanns happen to stumble across these sorts comments and "feel bad", then I'm afraid that's a price more than worth paying. Because its not about them or their feelings. In the context of what potentially happened to that girl - things that are unspeakably worse than her dying a covered up accident - their feelings are utterly irrelevant.
It's just an extreme example of the same **** I've been encountering for years. You can't criticise a parent, a grown adult, for ANYTHING that might "make them feel bad", even if that criticism being public might help countless children. Oh no. We must preserve "peoples feelings" at all costs. It's bull****.
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Oh no, I did read your post. I don't think (or at least I don't remember seeing) anyone at all has said they were right to leave their children like that, but then what?
What comes after that? I'm sure what they did that night has altered the way many people parent. I'm sure these weren't the only couples in Portugal that night doing that kind of thing, and they definitely weren't the only people in the world doing it. I'm not a parent, and I often admire parents of young children that get anything done at all. I'd be a nervous wreck.
What they did was negligent, no argument, and no one is defending them on the basis of saving their feelings, and the government didn't get involved to help protect them, and there is no evidence of foul play. They made a decision that has 99.9% cost their child her life.
I believe she was abducted, as there is genuinely no good reason or evidence to believe anything else, and unless there is someone out there willing to steal a child for sexual reasons, or because someone can't conceive, then this doesn't happen.
With the numbers of people in the world, there are bound to be some loonies out there. We all hope that we manage to get through life without their paths ever crossing the paths of the people we love, but not every family will get their wish. Bad s**t happens in the world.
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