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Ithinkiloveyoutoo 21-04-2025 12:17 AM

Can't believe it's time to go back to work again soon on Tuesday :bawling:

Redway 23-04-2025 01:19 AM

The misconceptions of electroconvulsive therapy and its exaggerated risk, and the fact that it’s a treatment specifically for severe depression (and one or two mania and schizophrenia things, but primarily depression). That + neurosurgical procedures more broadly (transcranial/vagus-nerve stimulation) exist as options for depression in a world where it’s only OCD besides depression that gets neurosurgeries that withstand the scrutiny of the post-lobotomy era are a testament to how serious and severe depression often is (because people underestimate the potential severity and how acutely life-threatening, and not just by way of suicide, it can be). All comes down to this perception too many people have of depression just being about being sad or anxious, not recognising that it can be psychotic, literally immobilising (catatonic, even) and all manner of good stuff. Always banging on about schizophrenia and maybe bipolar manic-depression as being the main serious mental illnesses. I had a psychology teacher who was like that (schizophrenia was his niche) but that all changed when the syllabus got to the topic of serious depression and he brought up a case-study of a woman with psychotic depression recovering with ECT. I was there in understanding for what feels like a trillion light years before him but the guy was shook and took a lesson home from that. To not underestimate the severity of depression. It’s not just low mood, any more than mania is euphoria or “good moods”. It’s reality-testing, it’s self-perception, it’s massive motor changes, it’s hygiene, it’s sleep and appetite distortions, it’s general medical health. It can mimic dementia and leave people unable to eat, sleep or speak. It’s everything, and it can take people closer to hell in terms of torment than almost anything-else, even cancer.

As-for ECT itself, well. Me and kizzy have fallen out over this (not that we were ever really “in” with each-other like that in the first place) but I’m still gonna have to insist that it can bring people back from the half-dead/quasi-Lazarus. Some issues with temporary amnesia but overall it’s a safe procedure in more modern times and nothing like it was in the ’50s. And it works for mild to moderate as well as severe depression. The stigma attached to it (like MAOIs) is undeserved and outdated.

Ammi 23-04-2025 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo (Post 11634721)
Can't believe it's time to go back to work again soon on Tuesday :bawling:

…if you didn’t go back, you couldn’t look forward to your next break…now you have a whole new excitement for your next time away…have a great rest of the week…:love:…

Zizu 23-04-2025 06:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 11636883)
…if you didn’t go back, you couldn’t look forward to your next break…now you have a whole new excitement for your next time away…have a great rest of the week…:love:…


Yeah

Apparently Friday is the most popular day of the week … even though you are working your brain is looking forward to the weekend


Least popular time of the week is Sunday evening for the opposite reason

Mystic Mock 23-04-2025 08:57 AM

What would be the worst full name to have?

Jerk Hoff?
Manov Steel?
Or Zeke Kyle? Apologies over this one, I know that I'm probably crossing the line with this one, so I understand if I get infracted.:blush:

Or would there be a full name that's even worse?

Zizu 24-04-2025 05:52 PM

Any idea why Nescafe Gold Blend coffee which was about £5 a few months ago is suddenly anything from £6.50 to £8.99 !!!

Jessica. 24-04-2025 06:29 PM

How do some people find it so easy to keep their house spotless and laundry put away every day? Let alone with kids?

Ammi 24-04-2025 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637720)
How do some people find it so easy to keep their house spotless and laundry put away every day? Let alone with kids?

…your hours are spent in enjoying time with your little one and family etc and that’s much more precious than a tidy house…

Jessica. 24-04-2025 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 11637740)
…your hours are spent in enjoying time with your little one and family etc and that’s much more precious than a tidy house…

Yeah, that's true, I just wish it came naturally to me, everyone else just gets on with it but I feel like housekeeping is a constant dark cloud looming over me, it doesn't seem like that for everyone else.

Niamh. 24-04-2025 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637757)
Yeah, that's true, I just wish it came naturally to me, everyone else just gets on with it but I feel like housekeeping is a constant dark cloud looming over me, it doesn't seem like that for everyone else.

I absolutely hate housework too, you're not alone [emoji23]

Ammi 24-04-2025 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637757)
Yeah, that's true, I just wish it came naturally to me, everyone else just gets on with it but I feel like housekeeping is a constant dark cloud looming over me, it doesn't seem like that for everyone else.

…honestly, I feel that it does feel similar for many people, especially when trying to juggle it all with parenthood…we always feel that others are just sailing through, don’t we…but I think the closer truth is that most are going through the exact same stuff and thinking the exact same things that everyone else…etc…:hug:…

Ammi 24-04-2025 07:56 PM

@Jessica ….as little one grows up, a tidy house is not something he’ll remember with love and affection…spending time with his mom and giggling with his mom, that’s what will build his memories and hold his smiles…

Kate! 24-04-2025 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637757)
Yeah, that's true, I just wish it came naturally to me, everyone else just gets on with it but I feel like housekeeping is a constant dark cloud looming over me, it doesn't seem like that for everyone else.

It can be Jessica. I feel that way sometimes. For example right now I'm co hosting Tibb BB with the wonderful @Josiah who has been a Saint and a rock cos I've been knackered all the time since we started and he's listened to me patiently and understood I have to do housework and juggle everything. Yet I truly love the game so it'll be fine.

You've got a lot on your plate long term, I've been a parent and it's hard. I acknowledge where you are coming from completely my love.

Xxxx

Jessica. 24-04-2025 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 11637761)
@Jessica ….as little one grows up, a tidy house is not something he’ll remember with love and affection…spending time with his mom and giggling with his mom, that’s what will build his memories and hold his smiles…

The thing is, I grew up in a neglect situation where neither children nor environment were taken care of and the environment part left a big mark on me so I feel really guilty and feel like the child would remember it, even though my home is not neglected, there are things that get left on the back burner.

Jessica. 24-04-2025 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 11637759)
I absolutely hate housework too, you're not alone [emoji23]

Thank you! It can be so daunting!

Jessica. 24-04-2025 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Kate! (Post 11637783)
It can be Jessica. I feel that way sometimes. For example right now I'm co hosting Tibb BB with the wonderful @Josiah who has been a Saint and a rock cos I've been knackered all the time since we started and he's listened to me patiently and understood I have to do housework and juggle everything. Yet I truly love the game so it'll be fine.

You've got a lot on your plate long term, I've been a parent and it's hard. I acknowledge where you are coming from completely my love.

Xxxx

Yours and Josiah's friendship is beautiful x

Ammi 24-04-2025 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637881)
The thing is, I grew up in a neglect situation where neither children nor environment were taken care of and the environment part left a big mark on me so I feel really guilty and feel like the child would remember it, even though my home is not neglected, there are things that get left on the back burner.

…but that’s it, they’re on the back burner…they’re not being neglected and I understand completely but try not let it build in your head into something that has such a strong association for you because we’re all familiar with that back burner situation, even if we don’t have a little one to care for like you do…you’re being a very wonderful and capable mom and what your little one is going to feel is the love and care that you’re giving…

Jessica. 24-04-2025 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 11637910)
…but that’s it, they’re on the back burner…they’re not being neglected and I understand completely but try not let it build in your head into something that has such a strong association for you because we’re all familiar with that back burner situation, even if we don’t have a little one to care for like you do…you’re being a very wonderful and capable mom and what your little one is going to feel is the love and care that you’re giving…

Thank you so much! :love: Baby is thriving and I'm so proud, I'll try to relax.

Redway 24-04-2025 10:01 PM

That Tina O’Brien’s actually in her 40s.

For what it’s worth, by the way, Jessica, I think you’re doing just fine.

Kate! 25-04-2025 02:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637886)
Yours and Josiah's friendship is beautiful x

Ahh I have a little tear in my eye.

Yes indeed. 13 years I've known him. He's a wonderful person. We are talking him visiting the UK next year to visit someone special and factoring in a side trip.to meet with me and Ness.

Maru 25-04-2025 04:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637757)
Yeah, that's true, I just wish it came naturally to me, everyone else just gets on with it but I feel like housekeeping is a constant dark cloud looming over me, it doesn't seem like that for everyone else.

Learn Modern Feng Shui. I'm 100% serious.

https://www.youtube.com/@DearModern
https://a.co/d/1kAwP6y

I checked out his book from the library. It's very easy to read.

Ammi is obviously correct lol. You'll find also when baby leaves the demanding food/nappy/nap schedule phase and you as the mum have decided they are fundamentally and developmentally where they should be, you'll also have thrived/developed with them. All that energy you learned to develop so you could focus on little one, a good portion will free up as the demands continue to lessen, so your little child is going to be ready and waiting to point a big giant light into your life onto areas that need the most focus. That will include things like well-being and being more creative around productivity. Something about that shift in energy really clears up prioritizes and that can help you restructure to make the little stuff less impactful and more trivial. You may find the cleaning won't be as painful since it's more centered around making the space work more for you and family when you're more focused on the bigger picture stuff. But yeah, I spend a lot of time outdoors in the sun outside doing lawncare with child and pups and DIY stuff as I can when my house was frustrating me... which is often, because I'm still physically working on it...

Mystic Mock 25-04-2025 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Zizu (Post 11637709)
Any idea why Nescafe Gold Blend coffee which was about £5 a few months ago is suddenly anything from £6.50 to £8.99 !!!

Inflation is one reason.

And the main reason is corporations love to financially bankrupt people.:laugh:

Mystic Mock 25-04-2025 04:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Redway (Post 11637942)
That Tina O’Brien’s actually in her 40s.

For what it’s worth, by the way, Jessica, I think you’re doing just fine.

I agree.

The fact that Jessica is concerned about her situation shows that she's doing a better job of being a parent than a lot of parents out there.

Mystic Mock 25-04-2025 04:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Kate! (Post 11637974)
Ahh I have a little tear in my eye.

Yes indeed. 13 years I've known him. He's a wonderful person. We are talking him visiting the UK next year to visit someone special and factoring in a side trip.to meet with me and Ness.

That's great news.

Ammi 25-04-2025 04:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Jessica. (Post 11637934)
Thank you so much! :love: Baby is thriving and I'm so proud, I'll try to relax.

…(…it might not feel like any reassurance…)…but my son’s partner goes through exactly the same thoughts and stresses etc because being a parent brings a whole new meaning to multi tasking …but hearing that little baby giggle and watching them play and seeing them thrive and feel safe and happy and love spending time with you is something that we can’t catch up on in the way that we can with household chores etc…as he gets older, his world will expand beyond his parents but atm though…it’s all about you and helping him to grow into the amazing person that he’s going to be…


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