hello mock, its all selective. plus she is not her step mum, she does live with them.

I suppose you do have a point, I wouldn't stand for it if it was me personally though.

Hello to you too btw TheSheriff.

Sincerely Marsh - you have such a brilliant sense of humour and such a razor sharp wit, anybody who wouldn't share a laugh with you about anything must be a right miserable bastard.

Glad you got it more or less sorted anyway, and always remember, that there are a hell of a lot of times when we don't get on with our own real birth parents, so the occasional 'tiff' with a step parent's understandable and not the end of the world.

This is unbelievable. Your mum may be hurt by the collapse of her marriage - and rightly so - but to issue you with such an ultimatum is very, very wrong.

You have two parents and will always have two parents, and if you still have a loving normal relationship with your dad, and providing his new wife is not the 'bitch from hell', then you must accept his relationship with her unless you wish to put him in the intolerable and unfair position of having to ultimately choose between his new wife or his child.

Try to have a word with your mum ITILYT, and explain to her that you're only being civil to your dad's new partner for his sake and in no way are you 'letting her in'. Reinforce the fact to your mum that no one could ever replace her as far as you're concerned and that being 'civil' to your dad's new partner is just that - tolerance without acceptance, politeness without affection.

I hope it goes well for you.

A step-parent is somebody who is married to a childs mother or father, so yeah, she's her step-mum

Glad it's a bit better now Caitlin :love:

They're not married jake.

Unfortunately though there's not alot you can do about it, it's terrible when you don't like a family member or good friends partner but ultimately it has to be them that decide to finish it, pushing the issue might only drive a wedge between you and your dad. Maybe you could try and spend time with him on your own without the g/f more instead?

I'm not married to my partner but I class myself as his other children's step mum and they do me too.

I am almost obsessive in making sure they all get the same from us though that our son gets. They are included in everything we do too.

I would never ask my partner to choose between me and his kids, I would lose every time (I hope).

I - obviously - didn't know this about you Annie, but from what I do know about you, I'd have put my shirt on at Ladbroke's that given just this situation, you would act exactly as you are doing.

Your partner and his children are lucky and if only all 'step parents' were as you.

:flowers:

Had a stepmum for about 12 years - my dad and her have recently broken up and he's with another woman now who is just as nice, but she will always be my stepmum. They had a child together and her two kids from a previous marriage will always be my brother and sister... we've grown up together and I wouldn't think of them in any other way other than my family. My whole family get on anyway - mum and stepmum have been best friends for years, some people say that's strange but it's actually really cool - I've never been put in a position of guilt between them, we even spend boxing day all together.

That's mint.

I do think step parent/step child relationships will be different when your parent meets that person after you're an adult though, you're never going to consider that person a care giver towards you or a substitute parent like you might if you were a child when them and your parent got together.

Post of the thread! and its the same for both the step child and the step parent, obviously if the child is young and dependant its a totally different thing to when the "child" is an adult and earning their own money. At some point all parents have to step back and let the person make their own way in life, we can't subsidise our children for ever! :fist: Its one thing giving Christmas/Birthday gifts but a total other thing to commit to money being given every month, there has to come a point in every parents life when we say if you want X, you have to pay for it yourself!

I agree with you but it sounds like Caitlins step mother went about it in the wrong way completely. She shouldn't be interfering in her partners relationship with his children like that. If she had an issue with the amount he spends on his children when they're apparently struggling themselves then she should have taken that up with him in private imo and let him deal with it himself.

:worship:

I acknowledged that she went the wrong way about it earlier in the thread :inamood:

:laugh: my apologies

In the true spirit of Christmas I forgive you :laugh: (love you Nimah).

thanks again to those who see the real issue here.

if you guys think that this is about me being upset about my car insurance not being paid... I think you need to read through my original post again.

I do not give one flying **** that I have to pay my car insurance. I am more than able to.

When I say I have no money, I mean that of course, money is tight. As it is with many people...

But I also have a mother who doesn't work and my dad who is meant to pay for the bills of the house and the mortgage etc... but he doesn't.

I know he's struggling. It's sad, and I really dont want that. But when my parents have been to court numerous times over how their money from the past 22 years should have been split, he should pay the agreed amount.

But he doesn't. He spends it on stupid stuff, like I already mentioned

this woman bought her 3 cats ****ing stockings with his money.

at first she was like 'nooooo, we can't, you have no money!!!!' but then she went on to be all huffy about it, until he bought them.

and to the people doubting this woman is nasty, even though it's obvious from what I've already said, she's been married 3 times already, and I've had people who have been involved with her message me on FB and wish me luck, lol.

So yeah, I know I can't do nothing about it. And yeah, perhaps she's just a lovely woman who I haven't given a chance... But I've not seen that side of her yet.

Last year when we went back to the states, she lied about me and my dad took my aside and said I was being awful, when I wasn't. I was so heartbroken that he believed her, that I had my first ever panic attack.

So please, when you say you don't know 'the other side of the story' or that 'maybe shes nice', just stop. You have absolutely no idea what you're talking about.

/rantover

Oh definitely. Aint that the truth.

Yes, I can always tell within the first few minutes whether I'll get along with someone. If they can't laugh at life in the face then I may not get along too well with them. :laugh:

Caitlin love - In my opinion - it was evident from your first post that you weren't at fault here, and that your dad's GF was, so you don't need to explain any more than you have already, and from what you have said already, my sympathy is with you and your sister.

I hope the problem gets resolved quickly, but I wouldn't blame yourself in any way if it doesn't. :wavey:

No need to swear! You posted on a public forum if you only want opinions that you agree with should say so at the beginning of the thread! Just because you don't agree with an opinion doesn't make it wrong! just one that you don't agree with

/exits thread.

thank you KIRK (not marsh!!!) :love:

dont let the door hit you on the way out xo

:unsure:

You're welcome! :smug:

lmfao

ffs

not you!!!!!

i meant Kirk!

sorry kirk