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Jords 13-09-2015 02:12 PM

I think its to do with personal opinion and up for debate - a couple of links on the internet is not concrete. Im happy for you to disagree that 'heterophobia' exists but Im more interested in your reasons not articles and blogs. Remember "homosexuality" once didnt exist...

Also just to add homophobia is more common because its in favour of social norms whilst heterophobia is the exact opposite - making it even more irrational.

Jords 13-09-2015 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kizzy (Post 8138820)
I wouldn't say homophobia was a 'phobia' in the true sense of the word either.
Just a made up word to describe fear and ignorance.

:suspect:

fear that is exaggerated and often irrational (because of ignorance)

Niall 13-09-2015 02:15 PM

'Heterophobia' :laugh3:

Fetch The Bolt Cutters 13-09-2015 02:19 PM

i don't know

source: idk

Smithy 13-09-2015 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jords (Post 8138826)
I think its to do with personal opinion and up for debate - a couple of links on the internet is not concrete. Im happy for you to disagree that 'heterophobia' exists but Im more interested in your reasons not articles and blogs. Remember "homosexuality" once didnt exist...

Also just to add homophobia is more common because its in favour of social norms whilst heterophobia is the exact opposite - making it even more irrational.

I generally don't get into serious debates on here because I'm nowhere near articulate enough to get my point across properly in writing :joker:

You don't have straight people living in fear of people finding out they're straight
You don't have straight people being bullied or attacked for who they are
You don't have straight people being murdered for being who they are

heterophobia doesn't exist, if a gay man is jealous of a woman, thats misogyny not heterophobia

Jords 13-09-2015 02:20 PM

for a bunch of gays yall narrow-minded on this subject nobody on this forum likes to sit down and go, hang on thats kind of a reasonable point do they

Its not common nor a big problem like homophobia but imo it exists.

I love da straight men and women :love:

Jords 13-09-2015 02:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Smithy (Post 8138845)
I generally don't get into serious debates on here because I'm nowhere near articulate enough to get my point across properly in writing :joker:

You don't have straight people living in fear of people finding out they're straight
You don't have straight people being bullied or attacked for who they are
You don't have straight people being murdered for being who they are

heterophobia doesn't exist, if a gay man is jealous of a woman, thats misogyny not heterophobia

BREAKING NEWS: Gay Murderer Kills 9 Men and Women for "Being Straight"

Does that really need to happen for heterophobia to be confirmed?

People generally dont murder others. A lot of homophobics do not murder or bully gay people... they make remarks, pull facial expressions and simply do not make friends with these people.

Liam- 13-09-2015 02:25 PM

I do think there are certain situations where heterophobia can exist, I get where people are coming from when they say it doesn't because straight people don't have to generally face being outcasted for their sexuality, but that doesn't necessarily mean that there aren't people out there who hate straight people, it's extremely uncommon but I do think it happens.

Let's put it this way, if a club didn't allow gay people in there, that would be classed as homophobia, so if a gay club refused to let straight people in (I know a load of straight people who go to gay clubs with friends) what would that be classed as? revenge? no it would be classed and a group of people being ostracised because of their sexuality, which in essence is the same thing as homophobia, so I do think hetereophobia has the potential to exist, it's just highly unlikely.

Ashley. 13-09-2015 02:26 PM

I think sexism towards men should exist. Heterophobia? Not so much. :laugh:

Liam- 13-09-2015 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Ashley. (Post 8138877)
I think sexism towards men should exist. Heterophobia? Not so much. :laugh:

:omgno:

Don't let the truth see that

Jords 13-09-2015 02:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Liam- (Post 8138869)
I do think there are certain situations where heterophobia can exist, I get where people are coming from when they say it doesn't because straight people don't have to generally face being outcasted for their sexuality, but that doesn't necessarily mean that there aren't people out there who hate straight people, it's extremely uncommon but I do think it happens.

Let's put it this way, if a club didn't allow gay people in there, that would be classed as homophobia, so if a gay club refused to let straight people in (I know a load of straight people who go to gay clubs with friends) what would that be classed as? revenge? no it would be classed and a group of people being ostracised because of their sexuality, which is the in essence the same thing as homophobia, so I do think hetereophobia has the potential to exist, it's just highly unlikely.

Exactly its very uncommon for numerous reasons - being gay automatically puts you in a minority group, youre going against social norms that have been ingrained into us, you make friends with assumingly 'straight' boys and girls from an early age...

Its more the case of showing heterophobic tendencies rather than being a full-blown heterophobe.

Im interested in Jack_'s opinion actually.

Niall 13-09-2015 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jords (Post 8138846)
for a bunch of gays yall narrow-minded on this subject nobody on this forum likes to sit down and go, hang on thats kind of a reasonable point do they

Its not common nor a big problem like homophobia but imo it exists.

I love da straight men and women :love:

No no no, you misunderstand. It doesn't exist. It doesn't, cannot, has not, and will not exist.

Tell me when you've been mocked and had slurs shouted at you in the street for holding hands with someone? Tell me when people have rolled their eyes at you and your partner just for being together on a train? Tell me when you've had to sit in a room where everyone around you has spoken of their disgust and dissaproval of straight people?

Tell me when the government has had to vote to legalise you being who you naturally are? Tell me when you've had to explain to someone that no, one of you is not the 'woman' in the relationship? Tell me when most if not all of the TV shows and movies you watch have no representation of people like you and even when you are represented it's a negative two dimensional stereotype?

Everyday is straight pride for you. The entire world, it's systems and institutions are geared toward preserving your sexual orientation. Tell me one country where you can't walk around holding a girl's hand and not get mocked/arrested/killed? You can't because there aren't any. I can give you 79.

There's a reason why 'Heterophobia' is underlined in red when you type it - it does not exist. Someone may be prejudiced towards heterosexual people but no, they cannot be 'heterophobic' because that implies so much more than irrational distaste. It references systems of oppression designed to push you down, and those systems are simply not mirrored for straight people. There just aren't.

Firewire 13-09-2015 02:33 PM

NOT a Niall essay :love:

Niall 13-09-2015 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Firewire (Post 8138898)
NOT a Niall essay :love:

We all know it's needed.

http://media.giphy.com/media/roxf4KzJeKy7S/giphy.gif

Jords 13-09-2015 02:35 PM

sasspot :joker:

Niamh. 13-09-2015 02:35 PM

Good post Niall but tbf PDAs between men and wome are punishable in some strict Muslim countries :p

Kizzy 13-09-2015 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 8138914)
Good post Niall but tbf PDAs between men and wome are punishable in some strict Muslim countries :p

That's not an example of heterophobia though.

Niall 13-09-2015 02:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 8138914)
Good post Niall but tbf PDAs between men and wome are punishable in some strict Muslim countries :p

Like Kizzy said, still not 'heterophobia'. :smug:

Ninastar 13-09-2015 02:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Liam- (Post 8138869)
I do think there are certain situations where heterophobia can exist, I get where people are coming from when they say it doesn't because straight people don't have to generally face being outcasted for their sexuality, but that doesn't necessarily mean that there aren't people out there who hate straight people, it's extremely uncommon but I do think it happens.

Let's put it this way, if a club didn't allow gay people in there, that would be classed as homophobia, so if a gay club refused to let straight people in (I know a load of straight people who go to gay clubs with friends) what would that be classed as? revenge? no it would be classed and a group of people being ostracised because of their sexuality, which in essence is the same thing as homophobia, so I do think hetereophobia has the potential to exist, it's just highly unlikely.

Beautifully well said. I find it upsetting that people think it's not as big a deal when a white person/straight person/man etc etc receives hatred for who they are. Which is something they cannot help...

Niamh. 13-09-2015 02:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niall (Post 8138937)
Like Kizzy said, still not 'heterophobia'. :smug:

I didn't say it was, I was just pointing that one bit out lol. I agree with you though :love:

Jords 13-09-2015 02:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niall (Post 8138896)
No no no, you misunderstand. It doesn't exist. It doesn't, cannot, has not, and will not exist.

Tell me when you've been mocked and had slurs shouted at you in the street for holding hands with someone? Tell me when people have rolled their eyes at you and your partner just for being together on a train? Tell me when you've had to sit in a room where everyone around you has spoken of their disgust and dissaproval of straight people?

Tell me when the government has had to vote to legalise you being who you naturally are? Tell me when you've had to explain to someone that no, one of you is not the 'woman' in the relationship? Tell me when most if not all of the TV shows and movies you watch have no representation of people like you and even when you are represented it's a negative two dimensional stereotype?

Everyday is straight pride for you. The entire world, it's systems and institutions are geared toward preserving your sexual orientation. Tell me one country where you can't walk around holding a girl's hand and not get mocked/arrested/killed? You can't because there aren't any. I can give you 79.

There's a reason why 'Heterophobia' is underlined in red when you type it - it does not exist. Someone may be prejudiced towards heterosexual people but no, they cannot be 'heterophobic' because that implies so much more than irrational distaste. It references systems of oppression designed to push you down, and those systems are simply not mirrored for straight people. There just aren't.

Its a great post for sure but your focus is just on the very extreme of homophobia at a society level and not on an individual level... plus the use of a lot of rhetorical questions.

1 definition of homophobia plucked off the internet:

Quote:

unreasoning fear of or antipathy toward homosexuals and homosexuality
Lay-term.


Edit: heterophobia cannot exist at a society level because being heterosexual is the social norm, but I think it has its place at an individual level amongst homosexuals - be it a rare occasion

Liam- 13-09-2015 02:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chaos (Post 8138938)
Beautifully well said. I find it upsetting that people think it's not as big a deal when a white person/straight person/man etc etc receives hatred for who they are. Which is something they cannot help...

It seems to me that gay people have taken the history surrounding our sexuality and have taken it to mean that we deserve a higher podium to stand on because gay people in the past were treated awfully and some still are today, basically 'gays have had it worse so I can say and do whatever I want about straight people, it's not offensive because gays were treated worse' I don't buy into that mantra, nor do I think anyone should, hate is hate, discrimination against someone's sexuality -whether the sexuality is the most common one in the world or not - is discrimination.

'That guy can't come in this shop he's a ******' = discrimination
'That guy can't come in this shop he's a fleshy cave dweller' = discrimination

History is history, let it be history and accept that everyone can be hated on for anything these days and rather than try to disprove it because of some historical vendetta that is essentially blocking people's logical views of the world, accept it, not just gays are hated in this world, gays happen to be some of the most judgmental people in the entire world, we're not perfect.

Power to the straights.

Crimson Dynamo 13-09-2015 02:48 PM

I am going to stick with homophobia as I cant cope with being gay as well

Niall 13-09-2015 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jords (Post 8138950)
Its a great post for sure but your focus is just on the very extreme of homophobia at a society level and not on an individual level... plus the use of a lot of rhetorical questions.

1 definition of homophobia plucked off the internet:



Lay-term.

But that's simply not what it is. Dictionary definitions do not define the true nature of homophobia. Like I previously stated, the true natrue of homophobia is a deeply ingrained and systematic style of oppression directed at all people who aren't heterosexual. That, my friend, is the definition of homophobia. What you've got there is something that references only part of a deeply ingrained societal issue. No such issues exist for heterosexual individuals.

And if you do believe that 'heterophobia' exists, then you believe that people of colour can be racist to white individuals? Because the logic around heterophobia uses precisely the same logic as that.

Niall 13-09-2015 02:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 8138943)
I didn't say it was, I was just pointing that one bit out lol. I agree with you though :love:

i know, I was just messing. :laugh: :love:


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