Originally Posted by Kazanne (Post 9217932)

I have a 13year old that is permantly stuck with one particular girl,they have sleepovers together all the time and take selfies,etc,I know mine is younger than yours but it may just be a girlie thing and if it is anything else,she will tell you in her own time I'm sure.Don't worry too much.

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 9217972)

I agree that LIttle Mix are a very bad influence and Ron if you can bin all the records she has by them I would, also burn posters etc

Originally Posted by Jamie89 (Post 9217379)

None of that stuff you mentioned makes her a lesbian, she sounds just like any other 16 year old girl to me. If she is though she needs to tell you in her own time and not be asked or pressured about it. And if she is, and the sleepover is a secret ploy to spend the night with her girl friend, then would you not rather have that happen in a safe place like your house rather than who knows where? I know it might make you uncomfortable but compare that discomfort to knowing that she's snuck out in the middle of the night and you not knowing where she is or what she's doing or what kind of danger she might get herself into.

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218030)

Are you gonna tell her not to learn to drive at 17? Not to drink alcohol at 18? Or is this only about sex? I find it a bit odd that you'd restrict her from doing things which she is legally allowed to do? In my opinion, you need to accept that shes aged, and you cant really stop her from doing any of these things no matter how hard you try.. because to everyone else in the country, shes old enough to do them..
a pharmacist wont need your permission to sell her condoms, a driving instructer wont need your permission next year, and a bartender wont need your permission the year after that. Its just the way life works.

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 9218032)

Are you kidding me? I hope you have your own daughter some day and come back to me then :laugh:

There is not a hope in hell my daughter would have permission to have a boyfriend stay over and I would kick her ass if I found out she was having sex

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218030)

Are you gonna tell her not to learn to drive at 17? Not to drink alcohol at 18? Or is this only about sex? I find it a bit odd that you'd restrict her from doing things which she is legally allowed to do? In my opinion, you need to accept that shes aged, and you cant really stop her from doing any of these things no matter how hard you try.. because to everyone else in the country, shes old enough to do them..
a pharmacist wont need your permission to sell her condoms, a driving instructer wont need your permission next year, and a bartender wont need your permission the year after that. Its just the way life works.

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218036)

But then whats the alternative? If not your house then where? I feel like its almost trading a parents discomfort for their childs discomfort. Its sort of inevitably gonna happen.

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers (Post 9218038)

If only being a parent was as simple as that Withano. It's not so black and white and it's a bit naive of you to think it is. R.

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 9218040)

No where preferably. It's nothing to do with my discomfort by the way, it's to do with the fact that she's 16, she's still in school, she still has me paying for her to live so she can't afford to look after a baby should she fall pregnant. She isn't emotionally ready for sex and she certainly isn't emotionally or financially ready for the risks that come with it.

Of course it will happen at some point but 16 is too young imo, I honestly don't give a s**t what the legal age is (and it's 17 here not 16)

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 9218040)

No where preferably. It's nothing to do with my discomfort by the way, it's to do with the fact that she's 16, she's still in school, she still has me paying for her to live so she can't afford to look after a baby should she fall pregnant. She isn't emotionally ready for sex and she certainly isn't emotionally or financially ready for the risks that come with it.

Of course it will happen at some point but 16 is too young imo, I honestly don't give a s**t what the legal age is (and it's 17 here not 16)

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218042)

Does she know that you have this 'not under my roof' rule anyway?

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers (Post 9218051)

Absolutely, it goes without saying.. I'd like to think she wouldn't disrespect me and her mother like that - but teenagers don't always tell their parents the whole truth... R.

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218048)

I actually agree its too young, I think America has one up on both our contries as far as this is concerned.. but her peers and her school is telling her differently, they are (boys especially) fully aware of when they can legally have sex with no legal repercussions, theyve been aware since their first sex ed class at 11.

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218053)

It doesnt go without saying at all, you assuming it does is naive of you. My advice is dont tell her you have this rule anyway, I dont think it will be beneficial for the reasons I've listed above.

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 9218032)

Are you kidding me? I hope you have your own daughter some day and come back to me then :laugh:

There is not a hope in hell my daughter would have permission to have a boyfriend stay over and I would kick her ass if I found out she was having sex

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 9218064)

too bloody right

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers (Post 9218062)

I think it does go without saying. She has a sister who had a boyfriend when she was growing up. She knew that the boyfriend was never allowed to stay over. She knows better to ask. R.

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218073)

She has long hair LT, stop being silly.

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 9218074)

Not all have short hair i think

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers (Post 9217344)

Thank you for all your advice . You're all right I shouldn't jump to conclusions . It's like not she's cut her hair short yet anyway .

Appreciate your advice nice to know if I have a problem I can ask you all . Have a good night forum . R.

Originally Posted by Withano (Post 9218070)

Well, struggling to see why you needed advice in the first place. All kids should know (almost by default) that their parents are fine with homosexuality. If you fear that yours may not, it would be good to let them know somehow. But it seems like they will never have sex ever until they get married and thats definite, no more to say on that, she did after all have a sister with a boyfriend, who also definitely never had sex.