Originally Posted by DemolitionRed (Post 9730116)

In my working role I’m expected to behave professionally on all levels. There is though, always a certain level of sexuality that goes on. People flirt, though not openly and certainly not to the point of awkwardness. People over dress for meetings and women play the weak and vulnerable whilst men play the heroic masculine male from time to time. Everyone though, knows not to cross the line. We all have a job to do and we all have deadlines we are expected to meet.

We have this one gay guy who works in our team. Not so long ago, when he started, you wouldn’t of known his sexual preference. He was quiet, diligent and friendly. A couple of months ago he told us all he was gay and that was well accepted by everyone. Shortly after that his voice went up a couple of pitches and he started using camp mannerisms, that was fine too, though the sudden change was a little amusing. He’s now a complete diva and makes constant sexual innuendos towards some of the guys and puts on this silly feigned act of fainting when he sees a paramedic or police officer. He’s become this extrovert performer and its starting to feel like we have this loud, rude, crude drag queen disrupting and causing chaos within the ranks. Nobody says anything because nobody wants to be accused of being homophobic.

This got me thinking. Hetrosexual men and women know not to behave in a sexual manner within the workplace. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but we all know the potential consequences. Camp men don’t appear to have those same rules and when they start acting up, like this guy above, nobody has a clue how to handle them.

Any thoughts greatly appreciated!

Originally Posted by Toy Santa (Post 9730252)

The problem here is that you have someone who has been suppressing / altering their most basic personality in the workplace, and now has decided to be more open, which will have been a weight off his shoulders and allowed him to be more himself. The problem is, he has thus far been "faking" his work persona (everyone has one) and so now has no idea how to be himself, but also in "work mode"... and has gone way past the "balance point" into being inappropriate for work.

Honestly I would say as it was only a couple of months ago, it's worth giving him time to find that balance before making it "a thing"... if it carries on then it can be mentioned sensitively.

Originally Posted by Isaiah 7:14 (Post 9730320)

Why did he need to tell anyone at work who he likes to have sex with?

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey (Post 9730639)

You state that the men and women flirt with one another, I'd put "feigned act of fainting" in the "banter/flirting" bracket and don't see how it's anymore or less acting in a "sexual manner" than any other forms of flirting? Unless it's crossing the line and he's putting his hands on people inappropriately or saying graphic things. :shrug:

Originally Posted by santasingsadingaling (Post 9730938)

But in the act of fainting he is saying "oh look at me, im sexually available to this stranger"

You dont want that when your eating your pieces.:nono:

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve (Post 9730198)

Well tbf Brillo, the reason why people are afraid to complain about stuff like this is because homophobia was (and still is although not anywhere near as badly) an issue. If weren't for "PC" in the work place homophobia could still be rampant

Originally Posted by thesheriff443 (Post 9730664)

To be honest I would rather have some like this to work with than some boring person who lives for the job.

Wont be long before he has been made to feel silly and turns into mixture of tears and snot. Job done.

Originally Posted by Brillopad (Post 9730977)

the majority of people feel that way now.

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey (Post 9730970)

No it's not, it's saying in an exaggerated and comical way "I find this person attractive"... like most forms of flirting.

It's probably OTT and unnecessary in the workplace, but it's no different to other flirting.

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey (Post 9731019)

The majority of people don't feel that way now.

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed (Post 9731011)

When it involves peoples health and even saving peoples lives its kind of important we take work life seriously.

Originally Posted by Brillopad (Post 9730977)

But PC has gone too far, the majority of people feel that way now.

Originally Posted by thesheriff443 (Post 9731093)

You are complaining about his personality not his ability to do his job.

Originally Posted by Brillopad (Post 9731078)

They do.

Originally Posted by santasingsadingaling (Post 9731028)

The point of the thread is that its making people feel uncomfortable.

Originally Posted by thesheriff443 (Post 9731093)

You are complaining about his personality not his ability to do his job.

Originally Posted by Brillopad (Post 9731078)

They do.

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey (Post 9730970)

No it's not, it's saying in an exaggerated and comical way "I find this person attractive"... like most forms of flirting.

It's probably OTT and unnecessary in the workplace, but it's no different to other flirting.

Originally Posted by thesheriff443 (Post 9731093)

You are complaining about his personality not his ability to do his job.

Originally Posted by Candy Cane (Post 9731439)

If a female feigned fainting when a male walked in, would you find that acceptable :umm2: it's a work place not the local am dram society

I worry for anyone who is in a professional environment who feels that is acceptable :laugh:

Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 9731306)

Based on what exactly? Not everyone in the world thinks like you do.

The world is becoming more inclusive, not less.

Originally Posted by Brillopad (Post 9731761)

Not more inclusive of PC madness such as any man having the right to self-identify as a woman and freely use the female bathrooms over and above the right of actual women born women having the right to object.

Apart from anything else there is a clear safety issue there which is conveniently being overlooked in all the PC madness and so-called inclusiveness.

PC will eventually hang itself with its constant demands because it just keeps pushing and pushing to ridiculous extremes. Give them an inch and they take a mile.