so when did he tell his wife then as they have never had any secrets?

I keep wondering why now ??

My 2nd dad (my dad's husband) didn't come out til his mid 40s, after 20 years of marriage and two kids, there doesn't have to be a reason for it, sometimes it just takes that long for people to admit it to themselves

I always thought he was anyway.

I think there was an expose brewing too. Maybe he's had relations with someone or been somewhere that would arouse suspicion and therefore was being blackmailed by someone. It seemed odd that Holly stated the importance of noting "your hand isn't being forced here" because, if anything, that made it seem like it is!

Bless him though. He said he's not looking for same-sex love but I think he's reached a point in his life where he does want it. Why else leave a 27 year marriage if you have no plans to find someone else?

I hate how people are slating him for finally showing courage

Because of my upbringing and my religion I have never been able to be my true self. I havent got the courage to reveal it to anyone and my family would respond a lot more different to what phils did

I would be disowned

Its a bit different as im bi but I have to keep that a secret and I love my wife and kids to bits. So its not the exact same as phils position but I know how he feels

Oh Jake. :love: bless you.

are you sure they dont all know already?

Because as much as I understand that it must have been very difficult for him he chose to bring someone else into his lie without their knowledge (I presume she didn't know) and that's very unfair, what right does he have to do that to someone? Make their whole life a lie just because his was? If I was her I'd be thinking things like, was he disgusted everytime he slept with me etc

Tbh I was thinking Phil was bi aswell, I guess it just doesn't make sense to me that he's suddenly decided to come out gay ,the timing is weird.
No offence Jake :shrug: .

If he's known for all this time ,was his marriage a lie? . They always seemed happy . Seems strange & his family just accept it. Aren't they shocked?.

:love: we’ve got you

No they dont know and I will never reveal it. Because I dont have to. Its not going to affect my marriage or my life I dont need to act on feelings that are in the back of my mind. I can live my life the way im living it. But I understand how phil must have felt having to tell his family

Also, you're bi not gay Jake, he's saying he's gay which means he isn't attracted to women.

Thats what makes it different I suppose. If he is gay then I guess his marriage was a lie. Whereas in my situation I love my wife and am sexually attracted to her. 3 kids in the space of 4 years confirms that :joker:

On BB3 she was gay.

Sounds like he told his wife a few years ago.

I feel for you, does your wife know?

Your situation IS COMPLETELY different , you are attracted to your wife so it's not a lie, Especially if you had more kids. Does she know your bi or is that secret? . But either way you still fancy women so it's not like Schofield.

And yet he always made it seem like he fancied women, he always seemed happy . Must be a weird marriage he had ,what happens to his wife now ?. Is it over now .

No she doesnt know none of my family do.it may hurt them for no reason because I dont have to act on my feelings so I can keep it a secret...people knew on here though I think

I'm really proud of him and I love how supportive his wife, daughters, and extended family are.

One thing that keeps running through my mind is maybe Phillip came out to Steph before they got married, and they decided to keep it under wraps until now.

:love:

Just be careful it doesn't become an issue in the future Jakey.....at least you have an outlet here to talk about things.

Ah, not sure how I feel about that. I suppose if you wereto act then you would reconsider?

Ehhh??? :conf: , why would she still marry him if she knew ? .

I dont plan on acting on it. I have religious reasons but I dont judge anyone as I know people cant help how they feel, I cant help it but I dont have to act on it but I get how it feels to keep a secret from people for so long

So you have told all of us and not your wife?