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It’s not a vibe I’ve got from him
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I see him bending over for the right man.
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I can’t see it myself.
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Plus the OP isn't questioning the motives of Nathan and Dean hanging around the girls and not so much with the straight men. So to me it does just seem like it's an unfair attack on Khaled. |
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As a man, some toxic masculinity examples I see regularly from men are:
Now some of these are acted out by women too, so you may ask what makes these examples of toxic masculinity rather than just toxic behaviours, and I think it's the intentions behind them - most of these sorts of actions when acted out by men are because it makes them feel like less of a man. The actions are linked to the maleness, rather than despite it. People who behave like this often define manliness with physical strength, power and a set of binary rules from long ago. and nothing more. Don't get me wrong, I am an advocate for men, I think there are many things that men are victim to in society that harm them and often these are directly from women. I also think toxic femininity exists, too and can be equally damaging. |
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I also think some others in your list are outdated and just not the common behaviours of the majority of men these days and are mainly pushed as a thing now by anti male feminist aligned platforms. |
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I do also agree that many of these sorts of behaviours are dying out thankfully, but I do also think that the rise in popularity of people like Andrew Tate is creating a bit of an uptick in toxic behaviour in young men. But I do understand your points, too. |
Outdated mumbo jumbo.
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…I really like your post/thoughts a lot and it’s provoking lots of thoughts for me so I’ll just take a few bits of it for now, if that’s ok…I’m sure there is mocking and ‘shaming’ of men for expressing their feelings by some but having worked in a primary school environment for most of my working life…?…what I do see is that even in today, there is often still a difference in some of the terminology in a hurt child, for instance…?…and I’m meaning specific to gender…so for instance, there is an inconsolable in that moment child, who is overcome by a physical injury they’ve incurred…?…both children of the same age with the same injury so we could say that two pains are equal and both children requiring equal comfort while their injuries are being assessed etc…?…(…I’ve often found…)…that the terminology for a boy child…(…from some adults because not one size fits all, obviously…)… would/will lean more toward being brave and how amazing they are for being so brave etc…?…whereas with a girl child, the language and terms are just soothing in a different way with no mention of bravery, you know…?…just an understanding of those tears and that feeling of being overwhelmed …I don’t know if I’m explaining this well…but there is a ‘conditioning’ that still happens …it’s often very subtle at a young age but it’s still there… …anyway, just a thought/observation, if you like that was provoked by your own thoughts… |
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Oh, completely. The reason this behaviour exists it because boys are taught to repress emotion from an early age. It's society's fault, not specifically men's, and it's damaging. But as men we should understand this is a toxic behaviour that benefits nobody and do what we can to change it. |
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I just think that toxic behaviours are usually pretty universal and gender labels for them are usually (not saying you at all) just an attempt to other or distance the observer away from them ("it's that group, not my group"). I don't think they serve a real purpose beyond that. I talk to so many feminists that insist that women are the vehicles of perfection and incapable of bad thoughts or intentions and that it's all on the evil men. They don't even recognise the existence of 'toxic feminity'... they use the label of male toxicity to absolve themselves of all responsibility for their own behaviours. And yeah, it's good to talk about these things :) |
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Same, good talk. |
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Even the noun description of Machismo talks about the person having "strong or aggressive masculine pride" which fits your description of Toxic Masculinity quite well imo. |
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He is a huge problem with how he is able to get so many young men onboard. |
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…it’s all terminology and labelling, isn’t it…that muddy’s it all and creates the divides…(…I know/being a female I may be a bit biased…)…but surely the majority of people or hopefully the majority of people are feminists because it’s a term and belief of equality in genders…and when it’s often applied as if it’s just a female descriptive, to me that feels as though it feeds into a divide that isn’t accurate…
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You've definitely got me thinking on this particular topic though, which I'm grateful for.:) |
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