I'm feeling very festive, I'm so happy with the thoughtful gifts I've gotten everyone. It will be my first Christmas with my baby too, he's going to love it which will be the most important thing for me. :love:

I feel your pain mock my mum passed in 2021
Every thing we love we lose

Congratulations to you and your partner

I'm sorry to hear about that Sheriff.:hug:

Does it start feeling more normal having Christmas go by without your Mother being around, if you don't mind me asking?

Thank you very much and Merry Christmas!

Every one is different
You are younger than me so that means your mum was younger than my mum and you must feel cheated that she has gone so soon

Put it this way Christmas will never hold any thing for me

My dad is struggling on each day so that’s another head fcuk waiting to happen

You are a good man mock

My Mom was definitely younger than the average person you would be expecting to pass away (as morbid as that sounds) but it's true that she was reasonably young when she passed away.

And tbh you're right, I still keep having the day play out over and over in my head, and even some of the days prior to that, it's definitely something that I feel like I should've paid more attention to, but only started to once it was too late for her.

And my Dad is the same, he tries his best for me and my Brother to put on a more relaxed persona, but I can tell that he isn't the same as he used to be.

And thanks Sheriff, I know that I am probably giving out too much personal information on this thread, but I truly appreciate that you've heard me out.:)

I hope that you and your Dad can find something to cheer about this Christmas, I know that I'm going to try on my end, but I don't think that It'll be a successful attempt.

Really sorry for your loss Mock.

I was 28 (11 years ago) when my mum died (she was 59), late 20's is still quite young to lose a parent, I find people don't really know how to place it, because it's neither the same as losing an elderly parent, nor the same as losing a parent in childhood/teens. Just a normal adult event - but one that came too soon. A weird middle ground.

The first few years were a bit odd, obviously everyone thinks more about family at Christmas, but it does start to become "normal" over time.

That said, my own kids were ages 4 and 2 on the first xmas after my mum's death, so I had that side of things to focus on as a distraction. Remember to talk to someone if you're feeling alone.

It’s never a bad thing to share the good and the bad days
Because you will see who share your values

Last night my eyes filled with tears thinking about my mum but I had to push it to the back of my mind to stay strong

We are all different but all the same

…yeah, I understand and relate to that also, we lost my dad quite some years ago and it was never the same again…not for us and absolutely not for my mom who has now also passed…when we lost dad, it felt impossible to get through that sadness of thinking of him in death but whenever I think of him now, I think of him in life and I think of the laughter and the great times and the person he was…and that does bring joy…like a sweet to the bitter…your dad has you and your brother and that will help so much to give him that ‘cheer’ that you hope for him….what I’m trying to say is no, it won’t be the same but hopefully there’ll be many moments of smiles for you all as well in the person she was ….:hug:…

I'm having a little cry now, reading these posts. I generally get on with things at Christmas and I can't say I don't have a nice time with Karl and his mum, they make it lovely for me. But my heart isn't healed and I sometimes get emotional even now, 14 years after my mum passed and longer for my dad.

Bless you all.

Love Kate xx

Must still be in the post. You know what Royal Mail are like.

You could of just private messaged me

Well I was feeling all jolly and festive until reading this thread :sad: thoughts with everyone missing loved ones

I have also been struck down by a cold which has me coughing a lot but otherwise isn't too bad. Hoping I can kick it next two days

I have a simple way of approaching Christmas and the New Year. Christmas is the time to eat a lot and have my 1 or 2 drinks for the year, enjoying a laugh with family. Hogmanay, is the evening to reflect on times past and those not with us today. On the bells, i pour myself a very expensive glass of whisky and look to the future

Oh Mock, there is no sugar coating it, this Christmas will be tough for you and your family, but you will get through it and there will be many first times until her anniversary and then you will start to heal gradually, but there will be moments something will remind you of her and it will catch you out and you just have to let the tears fall wherever you, sending you hugs Mock xxx

Merry Christmas, first time with a new baby in the home is special, enjoy it

It took me a while to work this out because when I was younger I was always in love with Christmas.

But Christmas actually ends just after the King's Speech at 3pm. Everything winds down to nothing by Boxing Day. I know people who actually take their tree and decorations down on BOXING DAY.

I hear people saying on the 27th, 'did you have a nice Christmas'.

It's the run up which is Christmas. About four weeks and then NOTHING. Over.

Yep I do enjoy it pretty much but it does feel flat when it's over, so quickly.

Yeah I hate that aspect to it as well, its supposed to be the 12 days of Christmas and as soon as Boxing day arrives the shops take their decs down, and you will see the creme eggs edging in....hate it....we will be taking our decs down on 28th this year as we are going away over NY

Indeed, Christmas day is the full stop on the Christmas season... not the peak.

…our tradition on Christmas Day when the boys were children…?…has always been to open Christmas Tree gifts after lunch so that the day is extended out that bit longer in opening them and then exploring them would generally take well into the evening…

Merry Christmas! Thank you, I feel so grateful to be celebrating with my little one.

we have christmas eve, 1st christmas day, 2nd christmas day here in my nation


we don't have boxing day


but tbh all the days leading up to new years eve are part of the christmas holiday time, for schools too i mean

Just done the food shop with middle girl, whizzed around in no time.