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Legend 04-07-2008 12:35 AM

I suppose your 'happy self' will only come back with time, if at all. You can't force emotions upon yourself, and essentially you can't change your personality, i.e. being argumentative.

It's just something you need to let play out, and not try and find a solution for because from past experience, when I've felt down [which still happens now for no reason whatsoever, the smallest thing can trigger it] then no happy box would cure it and take me out of that state of mind, as there is no solution to emotions being all over the place.

Don't force 'happy Conor' upon yourself, if 'argumentative, irritable Conor' is how you're feeling, and is how your emotions are forcing you to behave, then trying to counteract them with 'happy thoughts' is only going to make it worse in the long run IMO. Because then, your emotions will be definatly all over the place, and it's then when the 'happy Conor' will never be back, because you've gotten yourself to a point where 'happy Conor' is forced and something you can switch on for a couple of hours a day.

I think the best advice anybody can give you is to basically get on with it, and just try and enjoy your life as best as you can without putting on a pretence. Talking to friends/family won't help in regards to getting back to your old self, but it will make you feel better when you do feel like you need to explode ... I, deal with that differently, because mine turns into anger a lot, and the majority of the time I 'explode' by punching a wall ... it's basically depends on how you deal with it, and you said you cry a lot, so perhaps having a family member or friend to comfort is what you need. I'd just get more irritated and wound up if someone tried to comfort me, as I like to be left alone, but from what I know of you, I think you're someone who'd benefit from talking, and getting everything off your chest ... though at the same time just try to relax, enjoy life as best as you can and take it day as it comes.

Conzors 04-07-2008 12:38 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Legend
I suppose your 'happy self' will only come back with time, if at all. You can't force emotions upon yourself, and essentially you can't change your personality, i.e. being argumentative.

It's just something you need to let play out, and not try and find a solution for because from past experience, when I've felt down [which still happens now for no reason whatsoever, the smallest thing can trigger it] then no happy box would cure it and take me out of that state of mind, as there is no solution to emotions being all over the place.

Don't force 'happy Conor' upon yourself, if 'argumentative, irritable Conor' is how you're feeling, and is how your emotions are forcing you to behaviour, then trying to counteract them with 'happy thoughts' is only going to make it worse in the long run IMO. Because then, your emotions will be definatly all over the place, and it's then when the 'happy Conor' will never be back, because you've gotten yourself to a point where 'happy Conor' is forced and something you can switch on for a couple of hours a day.

I think the best advice anybody can give you is to basically get on with it, and just try and enjoy your life as best as you can without putting on a pretence. Talking to friends/family won't help in regards to getting back to your old self, but it will make you feel better when you do feel like you need to explode ... I, deal with that differently, because mine turns into anger a lot, and the majority of the time I 'explode' by punching a wall ... it's basically depends on how you deal with it, and you said you cry a lot, so perhaps having a family member or friend to comfort is what you need. I'd just get more irritated and wound up if someone tried to comfort me, as I like to be left alone, but from what I know of you, I think you're someone who'd benefit from talking, and getting everything off your chest ... though at the same time just try to relax, enjoy life as best as you can and take it day as it comes.
Aww Like.
Yeh i think your right. I need to get on with it.
But i dont like to, because then people will see this side of me, and think this is my normal side, and my happy side is fake or whatever. People have said that to me its like ARGH lol.

AngRemembered 04-07-2008 12:39 AM

:thumbs: spot on ....Legend :kiss::hug:

andybigbro 04-07-2008 12:40 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Legend
I suppose your 'happy self' will only come back with time, if at all. You can't force emotions upon yourself, and essentially you can't change your personality, i.e. being argumentative.

It's just something you need to let play out, and not try and find a solution for because from past experience, when I've felt down [which still happens now for no reason whatsoever, the smallest thing can trigger it] then no happy box would cure it and take me out of that state of mind, as there is no solution to emotions being all over the place.

Don't force 'happy Conor' upon yourself, if 'argumentative, irritable Conor' is how you're feeling, and is how your emotions are forcing you to behaviour, then trying to counteract them with 'happy thoughts' is only going to make it worse in the long run IMO. Because then, your emotions will be definatly all over the place, and it's then when the 'happy Conor' will never be back, because you've gotten yourself to a point where 'happy Conor' is forced and something you can switch on for a couple of hours a day.

I think the best advice anybody can give you is to basically get on with it, and just try and enjoy your life as best as you can without putting on a pretence. Talking to friends/family won't help in regards to getting back to your old self, but it will make you feel better when you do feel like you need to explode ... I, deal with that differently, because mine turns into anger a lot, and the majority of the time I 'explode' by punching a wall ... it's basically depends on how you deal with it, and you said you cry a lot, so perhaps having a family member or friend to comfort is what you need. I'd just get more irritated and wound up if someone tried to comfort me, as I like to be left alone, but from what I know of you, I think you're someone who'd benefit from talking, and getting everything off your chest ... though at the same time just try to relax, enjoy life as best as you can and take it day as it comes.
Thats really good Advice Ant!!

Lauren 04-07-2008 01:28 AM

4 pages of insults/arguments removed. If anyone else continues, warnings WILL be issued.

Rex=Legend 04-07-2008 01:34 AM

Where was I? Oh yeah.


...life is just a ride Conorz. Chill and go with it. You will be pass the bumpy part in no time!

Fom 04-07-2008 02:59 AM

Your just going through hormones, you cant stop them. I bet someone has touched upon this already haha.

But i have days where I buy things for everyone then other days where I scream at everyone, Im worse than a woman at that time of the month I really am. You just have to learn to cope really, it will go in time.

SexualHeroics 04-07-2008 07:28 AM

First thing you need to understand is it’s a dog eat dog world out there and you will have to get stuck in sooner or later, this is what you are preparing yourself for now, even though you don’t know it yet.

Take for example the getting grumpy and questioning teachers and disagreeing with people. This is a great trait to have. Only idiots trudge through life believing everything they hear and conforming to what’s happening around them. You should always question things, always ask for clear and logical answers and if the answers you’re getting don’t seem right to you, scream, shout then smash up the nearest piece of furniture and demand a new set of answers that you can agree with.

Then there’s your friends. Sounds like these boys are beginning to feel a bit manly in the exuberance of youth, telling you how things should be, mouthing off a bit too much and thinking they can take you on for some? Well let them have it. Next time one of them gets gobby challenge him to an armwrestle or a game of mercy, or hell - just bodyslam him to the pavement, watch him **** (although that should be reserved for special occasions). Make sure you don’t lose any armwrestles or fights though cause then you’ll look like a pussy infront of the chicks. To prevent losing fights pick some good kung-fu/karate/fighting moves from a Bruce Lee film or Rocky or Rambo and practice them at home every day.

As for the crying, I’m not really sure what to say about that, that’s pretty gay really, but don’t fret. Once you’ve won a few armwrestles and had a few more arguments, maybe picked a few fights with people giving you funny looks, you should start to feel better about yourself and that crying should clear right up. If it doesn’t, maybe you could use it to pull girls. Some girls really dig all that crying and sensitive stuff, it’s worth a shot! Just tell them some dross about how their beauty brings a tear to your eye or something like that. (Don’t use the line “You’re so fit it brings a tear to my Jap’s eye”. This will only get you a slap, trust me)

I saved the best until last and that’s this eating thing, which you like to call comfort eating. Well I don’t know what you’re complaining about, because eating is ****ing awesome. If anything you should be eating more. *Interesting Fact* - If a teenager eats 5 pieces of steak a week, by the time you’re 20 you’ll be able to smash paving flags in half with one headbutt – Women would then find you 75% more attractive than normal. You should set yourself a challenge every day to eat 4 meals and make up a 5th meal comprising of things stolen off other people’s plates under their very noses. This should get you all the food you need in a day and could also help you getting in a few well earned scraps to brush up on those moves.

I know these tips will work for you so I don’t need to wish you good luck because you won’t need it. Just be sure to practice those moves.

Bells 04-07-2008 11:21 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Angiebabe
I don't think Ive ever read such a wonderful post before on any forum I've ever been on, but reading that from you Ash was simply stunning.
Thanks so much Angie - that really does mean a lot. :hug: - I've just been through so much of the same stuff myself, that I think it's necessary to let others know how I coped. Having no older siblings or anything, I usually just suffered in silence - which is not too wise.

GhettoSuperstar 04-07-2008 11:45 AM

Buy yourself something perdy! :hugesmile:

Tom 04-07-2008 12:44 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lauren
4 pages of insults/arguments removed. If anyone else continues, warnings WILL be issued.
How authoritative :tongue:

Conzors 04-07-2008 06:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by SexualHeroics
First thing you need to understand is it’s a dog eat dog world out there and you will have to get stuck in sooner or later, this is what you are preparing yourself for now, even though you don’t know it yet.

Take for example the getting grumpy and questioning teachers and disagreeing with people. This is a great trait to have. Only idiots trudge through life believing everything they hear and conforming to what’s happening around them. You should always question things, always ask for clear and logical answers and if the answers you’re getting don’t seem right to you, scream, shout then smash up the nearest piece of furniture and demand a new set of answers that you can agree with.

Then there’s your friends. Sounds like these boys are beginning to feel a bit manly in the exuberance of youth, telling you how things should be, mouthing off a bit too much and thinking they can take you on for some? Well let them have it. Next time one of them gets gobby challenge him to an armwrestle or a game of mercy, or hell - just bodyslam him to the pavement, watch him **** (although that should be reserved for special occasions). Make sure you don’t lose any armwrestles or fights though cause then you’ll look like a pussy infront of the chicks. To prevent losing fights pick some good kung-fu/karate/fighting moves from a Bruce Lee film or Rocky or Rambo and practice them at home every day.

As for the crying, I’m not really sure what to say about that, that’s pretty gay really, but don’t fret. Once you’ve won a few armwrestles and had a few more arguments, maybe picked a few fights with people giving you funny looks, you should start to feel better about yourself and that crying should clear right up. If it doesn’t, maybe you could use it to pull girls. Some girls really dig all that crying and sensitive stuff, it’s worth a shot! Just tell them some dross about how their beauty brings a tear to your eye or something like that. (Don’t use the line “You’re so fit it brings a tear to my Jap’s eye”. This will only get you a slap, trust me)

I saved the best until last and that’s this eating thing, which you like to call comfort eating. Well I don’t know what you’re complaining about, because eating is ****ing awesome. If anything you should be eating more. *Interesting Fact* - If a teenager eats 5 pieces of steak a week, by the time you’re 20 you’ll be able to smash paving flags in half with one headbutt – Women would then find you 75% more attractive than normal. You should set yourself a challenge every day to eat 4 meals and make up a 5th meal comprising of things stolen off other people’s plates under their very noses. This should get you all the food you need in a day and could also help you getting in a few well earned scraps to brush up on those moves.

I know these tips will work for you so I don’t need to wish you good luck because you won’t need it. Just be sure to practice those moves.
Aww Thanks Like.

Thanks everyone ;)

Lauren 04-07-2008 06:18 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Tom
Quote:

Originally posted by Lauren
4 pages of insults/arguments removed. If anyone else continues, warnings WILL be issued.
How authoritative :tongue:
:whistle: Sometimes.


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