Nope. Barely moderate at all these days but its always been a rule of mine, if under the influence in some way, stay the hell away from the admin side :p

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Update on this MESS
 

Basically, i dunno if im looking for advice, still a bit baffled even though things are pretty clear now.

So we went no contact, she reached out a month a go, we've been going back and forth arguing (both don't wanna be with each other anymore, both can't let go). She is with this dude playing online, chatting, whatever almost every waking second they're not working/sleeping. 3 months, every day, 4-12 hours a day. Texting when at work. That's THEM, not me and her.

She wants to be friends with me, i said ok, and of course asked if she was in a relationship with him yet, she say's no, but that they are very close friends. She is at his beck and call 24/7, i know that much. And as most people said before, yeah she really likes him, she admitted that. She does wanna be with him, but wonders (kinda hinting for me to answer) why yes, he's with her all the time, but hasn't made a move yet. She said he's never brought up sex, and is never flirty. She tries to flirt sometimes, he just brushes it off. Also, they met ONCE in person before she went to Hull (where he lives) with her friends, they met for a morning, this was 3 months ago. He's a very, very outgoing person i know that much, and he's good looking, anyone can see that. I told her it was strange, and my honest opinion to her was (and this killed me because i still have feelings for her) that he obviously does like her, he spends so much time online gaming with her, and that maybe he's just taking his time. She just said 'thanks' and we argued more as to why we didn't work out.

Anyway, i dunno, it means nothing to me in the sense that she's admitted she wants to be with him, but is being with someone sometimes 12 hours a day, for 3 months, and NOT making a move too long? Has she been friendzoned? I dunno what to think. He knows she likes and wants him fwiw. I dunno what to tell her because i can only base on how i would act. And i know it's never taken me 3 months, when spending so much time with them, to know if i like them, like that or not. I've always known in the past.

Jeez just let it go Swan, far too much drama

Swan you need to just move on , and you probably won't like this but I think staying 'in contact' or whatever odd dynamic you still have with her is unhealthy . I think it's best to not engage anymore , it's her business what she wants to do with this guy whether they eventually date or not.


There's no point arguing with them , just wish them the best and carry on with your life. I think you got way too invested in this person, and you will never get over them if you continue to hold onto them .



You have an inspiring quote on your sig by Bruce Lee ,I think you should practice it . That's my advice anyway.

Spot on, all the advice Swan needed was right there in his sig this whole time! :love:

it sounds like this guy just wants a gaming mate tbh and she is hoping for more, but that is not your problem, your problem is that she is not into you at all and is just using you, so delete her, and move on

Yeah all sound advice, i know you're all right. Thank you. Letting go was a lot harder than i thought, but it really is the only way forward i know.

Boring i know, me and her are just friends now, she's asked me for advice, dunno what to tell her?

4 months, not flirting or move.

Maybe he's taking his time?

Sorry, it's confusing to me. Im not interested in her, we realised we are better ad friends.

I think he's interested, and that's what i tell her.

She was being silly and jokey during a game, and he said "im gonna have to turn your volume down in a min"

Sounds like a wanker.

That sounds like someone having fun to be honest, not. W*nker

Nah, she was being silly and jokey, and HE said he had to turn her down because it was annoying him.

Are you sure he didn’t say it in a jokey way like ‘haha had to turn you down you were that loud’

Nah he's really 'straight' and she said he said it in a serious tone, and that she was on eggshells after that.

I think he's interested so i tell her that, she's not so sure....
4 months, no flirting or sex and they game together daily.
He messages her a lot.
She is at his beck and call 24/7
But he met hr IRL and since then he's been 'cold' but with her daily gaming (he has nothing else)
I think he'll go for it, don't want her hurt. I did like her, but we were friends before, and are friends now, and she comes to me as a bloke for advice. I dunno what to tell her?
She tries to flirt and he shoots her down, she flirted/made a joke about sex and he said "im trying to talk to you normally"
I dunno, it's all mixed.

A man’s messages may be negative pre-9pm then positive post-9pm

Solid advice, very, very solid X

youre very welcome, very, very welcome

x

This is still ongoing? Cut the ties man. Not that I can really talk on that subject anymore as I am very hung up on some guy who is ghosting me like **** :laugh:

I think you still really like her and can’t let go….but you need to and move on :wavey:

Not really now, we've tried to be friends, it's not really worked out. She is still pretty hung up on this dude, yet he's still not made a move, and yeah almost 5 months now. She asked me for advice, as i offered, i dunno what to tell her. I think he likes her the amount of time they spend gaming and chatting, but yeah five months and nothing sexual, no flirting on his part is strange. I dunno though, letting go has been hard, and trying to be friends didn't work, not spoke to her in a couple weeks now.
Yeah that's what im doing now, gone on long enough :wavey:

…..and you deserve better. :wavey:

Really struggling, loved her so much (drunk, sorry)

:hug:.....:flowers:

Why is it so hard to let go? Christ!

Swan you still haven't moved on ??? , oh dear you need to stop torturing yourself like this.

Take up some hobbies or something to put your mind on other things. And as i said before just CUT TIES completely with her, as you're only making things more difficult in the long run.

you like the attention

It's hard losing your first real love, or anyone you've invested feelings in. I remember reading something once and it made a lot of sense, it was that everyone comes into our lives for a reason. Either they have something to teach us or we have something to teach them.
Some are around for a long time and some not, the impact of some leaving can last a long time. You can't let it impact on the new people entering your life as it would prevent any positive message from them to you or you to them.

It's hard to learn to love and harder to move on. Take the good from it and let the rest go.

Don't worry I'm not going to sing :)

I would recommend you stop drinking for a few days

Snipes like this never helped anyone least of all anyone with a drink problem.

Everyone does not come into our lives for a
That is illogical bs

When loves a one way street, the street will always lead one way.

Dont become a warning sign.:nono:

Swans not a teenager.

That advice is for any age, not everyone falls in love in their teens.