I don't like the passive aggressive tone forming in here...

*leaves quietly*

oi! wait for me...

it'd be interesting to see who was hit and who wasn't and see if there's a correlation as to whether they agree with it or not... but I wouldn't want to raid into peoples privacy or anything. idk. i feel awkward posting this. ama post it anyway.

Hi... I'm 08marsh... and I'm a victim of smack via slipper.

i can remember only 3 instances where my parents used phsyical violence(spanking) as a form of discipline, and it was definitely wrong. Talking to friends later in life i found out that they had much more physical violence (spanking) in their households.

Any physical violence is always unacceptable. But it is ESPECIALLY unacceptable when the violence is directed at someone who is at a physical disadvantage and/or has no means of defense.

hitting a child is no different than abusing an old person in a care home, or disabled people.

Hiya I'm kizzy I was slapped on the legs...And I slapped my kids on the legs.
Luckily they are not yet in therapy, its about perspective I feel not berating all parents who have/would chastise their children via a tap.
Those who fail to see the line between a tap and abuse ....well...

If you cannot find a way to gain respect from your children other than violence, then you have no right being a parent.

Violent parents are no different then violent cops.

Dearie me... ok...

I was hit when I was young, it didn't happen much.

I think a slap (a light slap) on the arse, legs or hand isn't comparable to actual violence.
I don't know whether it's vastly different in America, but to compare them to violent cops is an overreaction.
Unless, you're referring only to those who literally fight with their children.

I was smacked as a child. Had the belt used. Had the cane at school on many occasions. I don't necessarily agree with it though. Although I definitely do not agree with using a belt...

It has been said that the cane, for instance, was a deterrent, and the threat of it created better discipline, as kids were afraid of it. I don't think that was entirely true for some, and it definitely depends on a persons way of thinking. Some might be **** scared of said punishment, but others would not be arsed (excuse pun). It never worked as a deterrent for me, it just made me more rebellious. Yet on another child, it would have had a very different effect.

You go on like they're beating them to within an inch of their life or something.

well to a child it feels that way. and it undermines a parent's athority imo, because usually when a parent get's violent it shows the child that the parents are losing control. if a parent can't hold themselves to a certain standard then how can they demand children do?

A child should not do the right thing just because they afraid of violence.
A child should do the right thing because they have been taught that it's the right thing to do.

He may be extracting the urine a bit I feel inone?

Plenty of children have been hit and they don't turn out to be violent maniacs. And the ones that did would've probably turned out like that anyway

i'm not.

No, not all, but most. It's been proven in study after study that children that experience violence in childhod are more likely to be violent adults. That's a fact. NO debate at all about that.

You learn how to be a person from your parents. If you learn violence from your parents, you will probably be a violent parent. fact. period. full stop. In the same way that men who see their fathers abusing their mother are much more liking to abuse their own wives, and doaughters who see their mother being abused are much more likely to be beaten by their own husbands. It's true.

It's a cycle.

What was considered violence in this study?...

What do you class as violence? Does a tap on the hand equate to violence say?

Absolute nonsense. If that was the case then all our parents and grandparents would be violent and they came from a lot tougher generation than us. It all depends on the person at the end of the day.

I got occasionally smacked and turned out decent but I dont think I could do it myself. Admittingly I think its a thoughless method but sometimes it does need to be used as a last resort (nothing before!)

If you don't know what violence is then i suspect you have some very supressed emotions about it.

Acting out physically against another human being is violence. People who use force instead of words, that is violence.

A slap on the hand is not violence. The way you're going on about it is as if the children are being beaten.