Originally Posted by Kizzy (Post 8156512)

There was a thread on that on which many were disgusted that that was hacked and yet nobody likes a cheat.... :shrug:

Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8156525)

Unregulated hackers are not the morality police. Who are they to decide to expose cheats? People don't want MI5 to have more powers but some are happy to have a faceless, unregulated group of hackers expose people's private business online? Seems like a bit of a double standard to fit an agenda to me.

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier (Post 8153245)

If either me or my wife developed feelings for someone else we'd just be honest about it. There's no point not being, to be honest.

Also, I (both of us) think that this "emotional cheating" thing is utter bollocks, you should be able to have as many people in your life as you want who you can turn to emotionally and be emotionally close to, and whether they're male or female shouldn't matter. You only get one life... Closing yourself off to close relationships seems like a needless waste. If your partner having emotional closeness with someone else makes you feel insecure then you have problems already. In my opinion.

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed (Post 8156577)

I didn't say the hackers were doing the right thing. I just explained what they did before giving my opinion of the site and then, in another paragraph I said...

...As far as I'm concerned, people who are prepared to cheat deserve to get caught.

Its ok though Kirk, as per usual, I expected that retort ;)

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey (Post 8156568)

Have cheated on women in the past when i was younger and just did'nt care tbh.Have never and will never cheat on the woman i'm with now.I think most people have cheated when they're young like in their 20's.Some people just don't grow out of it.I have as i would never want to risk losing what i have now.

Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 8156617)

did you get caught?

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey (Post 8156632)

Once but i wriggled out of it,Me and my gf at the time never trusted each other again though and it only lasted a year.Was very young though.Cba with all that now.I think i probably never found anyone i felt close to until now.Been with my misses 8 years now so was 26 when i met her.Before then i was immature and just did'nt care about all them feelings n ****.It was all about getting the penis away.lol.

Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 8156664)

well i'm glad you've improved as a partner.

It's a very arrogant and selfish thing to do to someone.

don't you worry about karma? the indian mentality would be that you will be betrayed by your partner, the universe needs justice.

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey (Post 8156676)

It has happened to me twice :bawling:
I think from my experience that relationships don't work properly until people mature and get all that sex with multiple partners out of their system.Everyone i know who settled down young has had relationship problems.I did'nt properly 'settle down' until i'd had some fun and it seems to work better.Not so much curiosity.

Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8156525)

Unregulated hackers are not the morality police. Who are they to decide to expose cheats? People don't want MI5 to have more powers but some are happy to have a faceless, unregulated group of hackers expose people's private business online? Seems like a bit of a double standard to fit an agenda to me.

Originally Posted by Kizzy (Post 8156709)

If you are stupid enough to have your details on sites like that then you take the risk of them being hacked... it's the internet, it happens.
The difference there being it's your choice, the proposals that security services have everyones data is not our choice is it?
So although you've manipulated this scenario to meet your agenda it hasn't worked has it? Because the flaws are apparent.

Originally Posted by the truth (Post 8156746)

never cheated, its a horrible thing to do, but have been cheated on once , pretty unpleasant

in the longer term you say to yourself at least I found out now, imagine id married her with kids and then discovered she was a serial cheat

the trouble often comes when people consume a lot of booze, their brains get frazzled and theyre not fully in control of their actions. if someone kisses someone in a drunken stupor and you find out about it, they use the defence sorry I was off my face on booze.....but is that really a legit defence?

Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 8156759)

kissing is not cheating... cheating is sex.

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 8156858)

that's subjective

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 8156876)

lol Northeren Monkey

but yeah I would consider a kiss cheating ( a proper kiss) obviously cheating to a lesser degree to sleeping with someone but still cheating

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed (Post 8157683)

If I ever found out that my man had, had an affair or even a one night fling, I could never trust him again and when trust has gone, so has the relationship.

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier (Post 8159763)

But what if you were "on a break"