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MB. 08-10-2016 05:05 PM

Dump him and watch Survivor Vanuatu

MB. 08-10-2016 05:05 PM

jk well done

Firewire 08-10-2016 05:30 PM

I want a boyfriend

TomC 08-10-2016 05:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Firewire (Post 9004610)
I want a boyfriend

Same

Ross. 08-10-2016 05:40 PM

Let's set up Jonathan and Tom on a blind date

Babayaro. 08-10-2016 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ross. (Post 9004617)
Let's set up Jonathan and Tom on a blind date

Tom being the blind one

VanessaFeltz. 08-10-2016 07:26 PM

I am jealous of you tbh i legit tried to be friends with one of the guys i THOUGHT was attractive but he has the most sour face i have ever seen on this planet earth (also he made this very awkard but if i got into it, it would take pages)

but slay tom yass get it

y.winter 08-10-2016 07:27 PM

These are some really good news Tom. I'm happy for you.
As Jamie said - don't overthink it. Let things will happen.

TomC 09-10-2016 04:03 PM

Well, had our first kinda date.

Not sure what to think. Like I've never been on a date before, but I feel we had good conversation, even obviously if it did stop at times. There wasn't any physical contact and at the end he said 'I'll see you at some point' or words to that effect.

How soon after can you text after the first date? And should I take a lot of heed to how his first messages are?

TomC 09-10-2016 04:18 PM

Also we didn't really talk about anything serious

EspeonBB 09-10-2016 04:24 PM

Awww I'm really happy for you Tom <3 Glad you're enjoying uni

Samm 09-10-2016 06:39 PM

If he kissed you then he obviously likes you, text him

Samm 09-10-2016 06:40 PM

look into his star sign as well sis

TomC 09-10-2016 06:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Samm (Post 9006569)
If he kissed you then he obviously likes you, text him

Quote:

Originally Posted by Samm (Post 9006571)
look into his star sign as well sis

But we were both kinda drunk haha, and my personality is a whole other story

And I did, were compatible <3

Jamie89 09-10-2016 07:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TomC (Post 9006336)
Well, had our first kinda date.

Not sure what to think. Like I've never been on a date before, but I feel we had good conversation, even obviously if it did stop at times. There wasn't any physical contact and at the end he said 'I'll see you at some point' or words to that effect.

How soon after can you text after the first date? And should I take a lot of heed to how his first messages are?

I'd text straight after the date to say I had a good time tbh :laugh: That probably breaks all the 'rules' but I don't think you should over-think or worry about stuff like that, it's just a text, and if he likes you it'll be nice for him to get. What do you mean about how his messages are though? It's hard to gauge from texts how someone feels, so I'd only really take heed from your actual conversations with him as to judging how he feels/how things are going etc.

EspeonBB 09-10-2016 07:45 PM

Yeah I agree with Jamie I would text him as well

TomC 09-10-2016 08:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jamie89 (Post 9006889)
I'd text straight after the date to say I had a good time tbh :laugh: That probably breaks all the 'rules' but I don't think you should over-think or worry about stuff like that, it's just a text, and if he likes you it'll be nice for him to get. What do you mean about how his messages are though? It's hard to gauge from texts how someone feels, so I'd only really take heed from your actual conversations with him as to judging how he feels/how things are going etc.

I mean we started messaging again in the last hr and if it wasn't for something I'd seen I'd be really positive at how good his messages are.

He liked a FB article entitled 'why is it so hard to find a guy I like as well as fancy' :umm2: Really disappointing tbh.

Perhaps I should say 'I had a nice time today' or something like that and see how he responds to that?

Maru 10-10-2016 03:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mokka (Post 9001185)
:laugh3:

way too OTT... but super funny Maru :hehe:

Her post deserved it :laugh:

Ammi 10-10-2016 04:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TomC (Post 9007123)
I mean we started messaging again in the last hr and if it wasn't for something I'd seen I'd be really positive at how good his messages are.

He liked a FB article entitled 'why is it so hard to find a guy I like as well as fancy' :umm2: Really disappointing tbh.

Perhaps I should say 'I had a nice time today' or something like that and see how he responds to that?

..I'm a bit confused Tom...so you're feeling a little deflated because you think it means that he hasn't liked you/didn't feel any connection with you..?...I don't do Facebook but I would imagine that people just like stuff if they can relate in any way or have related in any way so that might be just equally something he's felt in the past rather than the present...you've only had one date so he isn't really going to feel his whole world is completely different straight away but that doesn't mean that wouldn't come in time either with getting to know each other more and more and spending more time together...?...and his texts have all been positive and those texts have been directly to you/related directly to you, whereas the Facebook thing is more of a general thing and isn't aimed at you...so I would go with the texts I what you feel they say and tell you....and yeah as Jamie says, I would text him and just say that you really enjoyed spending time with him and it would be nice to do something again...maybe if you have a party or anything coming up soon, you could ask if he would like to come as well..?...

..it all sounds fairly positive though and a good vibe from him....ooooo and a kiss as well/yummy...:laugh:...good luck and try not to overthink or read too much into the Facebook thing because the texts and your own contact with him is really the 'telling' stuff....

TomC 10-10-2016 12:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 9007595)
..I'm a bit confused Tom...so you're feeling a little deflated because you think it means that he hasn't liked you/didn't feel any connection with you..?...I don't do Facebook but I would imagine that people just like stuff if they can relate in any way or have related in any way so that might be just equally something he's felt in the past rather than the present...you've only had one date so he isn't really going to feel his whole world is completely different straight away but that doesn't mean that wouldn't come in time either with getting to know each other more and more and spending more time together...?...and his texts have all been positive and those texts have been directly to you/related directly to you, whereas the Facebook thing is more of a general thing and isn't aimed at you...so I would go with the texts I what you feel they say and tell you....and yeah as Jamie says, I would text him and just say that you really enjoyed spending time with him and it would be nice to do something again...maybe if you have a party or anything coming up soon, you could ask if he would like to come as well..?...

..it all sounds fairly positive though and a good vibe from him....ooooo and a kiss as well/yummy...:laugh:...good luck and try not to overthink or read too much into the Facebook thing because the texts and your own contact with him is really the 'telling' stuff....


Yeah you're right, I'm gonna try not to read into it.

Is 2 days a good amount of time after to mention a second date?

Ammi 10-10-2016 04:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TomC (Post 9007890)
Yeah you're right, I'm gonna try not to read into it.

Is 2 days a good amount of time after to mention a second date?

...if it feels right and it's what you're feeling, that you want to see him again..then it's the perfect amount of time to mention it, Tom...(good luck..:love:..)....

TomC 10-10-2016 05:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ammi (Post 9008314)
...if it feels right and it's what you're feeling, that you want to see him again..then it's the perfect amount of time to mention it, Tom...(good luck..:love:..)....

Thank you Ammi :love: I actually do feel quite interested, just not sure if he feels the same...

Crimson Dynamo 10-10-2016 05:41 PM

can someone confirm

we have 3 active Toms on Tibb at mo

T*
Tom
TomC

is that correct?

TomC 10-10-2016 09:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet (Post 9008369)
can someone confirm

we have 3 active Toms on Tibb at mo

T*
Tom
TomC

is that correct?

Yes LT.

We've been having quite a lot of fluid, but friendly conversation. Hoping i get a good response tomorrow :fc:

Ammi 11-10-2016 06:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TomC (Post 9008353)
Thank you Ammi :love: I actually do feel quite interested, just not sure if he feels the same...

...only time will tell you if he feels the same, Tom...I think we have to risk hurt as well and someone not feeling the same to be able to have opportunities for the good stuff as well and someone feeling the same as we do...to find those connections...there's that thing of how would we know when something/someone is right if we hadn't experienced wrong as well...it's all about experiencing and pursuing what our hearts tell us and the just seeing where it leads...(you'll only be sure/one way or the other...)...if you pursue another date with him...and even a 'bad' sure is better than an uncertainty of..what if../what ifs are the only regrets in life....I really do hope that it all goes well for you...:love:..


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