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[QUOTE=chuff me dizzy;9951512]I agree it is the best,but I raised my eldest 2 children alone for most of their childhood and their youth,until I married my 2nd husband when my son was 22 and my daughter 20 ,I have never had any trouble at all with them, they never got into trouble at school or outside, strict but fair parenting is the answer and there must be a line of being the parent and them the child ,sadly today a lot of parents are more interested in being on Facebook with their mates all day ,one of my biggest bug bears is seeing parents pick their kids up from school texting as they walk home while little kid run on in front or lags behind them .. PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN ask them what sort of of day they've had, what they had for dinner,the buck stops with the parents, not schools ,not social media, not video games ,social service, they are YOUR children its up to you to guide them[/QUOTE]
:clap1::clap1::clap1: A SCORCHINGLY excellent post, Chuff - CRAMMED with COMMON SENSE and TRUTH. |
I have to agree with much of what has been said about parenting. That is the most important foundation in any kid's life and can make all the difference in regard to whether they get into trouble of any kind or not. I think a good solid home and some discipline weights the advantages for children.
But there are also outside factors that can influence, even when children have had a good stable upbringing and also having a rubbish childhood doesn't always mean you are destined for the dark side either. With regard to stop and search specifically it is far from the ideal solution to knife crime but if that's all that is on the table, because how can you police peoples intent, then so be it. Some action is better than no action. |
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Searching people without cause for suspicion is beyond the pale, it makes me sad to see how little people care about their own rights to endorse it. A person cannot support things like Stop and Search and then pretend they care about their rights or the sacrifices others have made to preserve them. It's irreconcilable. |
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You are so right. You can be a great parent but if your child gets mixed up with the wrong company then anything can happen. You can teach your child right from wrong but they can be drawn into wrong doings with a fear of being 'weak'. It's tough being a parent and as good as you think you are..out of your sight who knows what they are getting involved in..getting influenced in...even getting bullied into something they know is wrong but don't have the maturity to get out of it. |
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I saw an interview about this yesterday ,two policemen talking to a gang of youths,while one was talking the others were making gun gestures and giggling behind,so there is no respect from these people for the police ,they have no respect for anyone,I'm not sure a larger police presence will make much difference,but it's worth a try,but given the climate and mindset of these gangs if they want to kill,they will and no amount of police will stop them.I also noticed all of the gang had their faces covered !!
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That, combined with a complete lack of understanding that freely handing over these rights to the state doesn't necessarily stop "when you say so". Totally overlooking the fact that one day they'll probably be like "Oh OK well yes, THIS one is a step too far for me" but because of earlier compliance en-masse, the response will be "lol too late, this snowball is well and truly rolling now". |
..I think respect for the police also comes with community policing from an early age as the ‘first solution’...so that small children don’t see police as the ‘enemy’, as it were but... they do see the importance of policing is society and respect it..and that community policing progresses to teen years etc the police being active in community projects and focus for young people...all working together and all respecting each other...
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Apart from the obvious invasion into personal privacy, the act of stop and search is demeaning to the individual. It implies guilt whether proven or not.
If we could put 100% trust into the police and know that they always acted with the best intentions, then at a stretch it could be seen as acceptable. Unfortunately, the police are not made up of 100% saints. Some of the biggest crooks in the land find their way into the police force. I could also see this type of activity being contracted out to the private sector, which opens it up even more to abuse. While it may seem like a quick fix, I think it would ultimately lead to more problems than it solved. It's never a good idea to implement new procedures to combat a single type of event, because it never ends up working out that way. The knock on effects would be considerable |
Funnily enough when I was out and about yesterday I saw two vehicles pulled over by the police :omgno: could have been they just had a tail light missing though...
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My brother was stopped and searched countless times when we were younger and living in London. He never once asked "is it because I'm Jewish?". The fact is that knife crime and other violent crimes are, in a lot of cases, black on black crime.
I'd like to see more black police officers and more accountability from the families of underage young people caught up in this kind of life. Everyone gets blamed, the government, the police... but never the parents or parent that is responsible for their child till they're 18. |
Occasionally at my sons College they have those arches that you walk though that pick up if you are carryng a knife, he says most of the students are happy to walk through it..and as a parent I don't have an issue with it either, I don't want to think of my son sitting next to someone who is carrying a knife in class
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Fair enough, though if you get pulled over at the airport if you want to proceed you have to put it, and if you don't then its bye bye your holidays, the uptake at airports is 100 per cent, is it so much to ask to stop some kid being murdered? it would take a few seconds out of your day. |
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I want to cut out knife crime as much as anyone else, but stop and search isn't the solution. |
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education in the future, though tbf knife crime has been spoken about for years in schools and that hasn't really helped |
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"Excuse me sir, can I search you for illegal items?" "No." "OH then I assume you ARE carrying illegal items :suspect:" I agree with the above; much harsher penalties for those who are caught, combined with searches if there is good reason to suspect someone is carrying a weapon (like it's been spotted, or a tip-off), would make a far better deterrent than random stop and searches. |
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