...hugs are such an intimate connection and not awkward at all to feel that relationship with someone...the trust in ‘sexual’ is such a huge thing and I think in talking and sharing as you guys are, you’ll see how ‘not awkward’ it actually is to not feel that’s part of a relationship you feel comfortable with...

Then you would be still straight, lesbians are women...but if she chose to sleep with you she would not be a lesbian she would be bi.

I'm a 'none of your God damn business' far to much of this over sharing going on. I remember when your sexuality was like your politics, strictly private.

Sex isn't assigned, you can't assign a biological reality. A transwoman will always be male, no matter what surgery she has.

Kizzy I was joking.

This is transphobic baiting at this point and I have no idea why mods on here allow it. I guess they share similar views?

what exactly do you want the mods to do? permaban him for having an opinion on the matter? maybe you should try and counter argue it instead if you feel he is so wrong

Well for me, I don't feel comfortable deleting people who say 'sex is a real thing, and is unchangeable'. Especially when apparently everyone agrees sex and gender are very different things? So people remain their sex, but change 'gender'. Honestly, 'sex assigned at birth' gives me images of a sinister sorting hat that is brought into the delivery room and babies are just decided on nothing, that this one is male, this one female, etc. Sex is noted. In some rare cases of intersex people this can be mistaken, but its not this totally random thing that is 'wrong' so often that some like to make out it is.

Though that will surprise noone, coming from me.

I actually find it odd that apparently, its now deemed transphobic to say sex and gender are different, that was the 'mainline' view for years and years until the last few months it seems, the view that transactivists said was 'the right one'. Basically my view is, oliver is correct in that sex cannot be changed. BUT, people can be whichever gender they chose/are.

Others can disagree, and will.

(Anticipating 'but transphobia is against the rules' responses, this is entirely true. However, saying sex is a real thing isn't transphobic. Repeatedly purposely referring to a transwoman member as he, or a transman member as she, would be deemed transphobic. Saying you believe sex is real and not some arbitrary assigned process, should not be deemed transphobic, and surely, should be able to be argued against by those who disagree, rather than hidden)

(Ontop of all this, I am aware that many still use gender to actually mean sex, which complicates things further. But generally speaking, its been accepted for a while among transactivists and such anyway, aswell as 'the enemy' radical feminists, that sex and gender are different.)

It's not transphobic, it's objectively correct :shrug: I wouldn't deliberate misgender an MTF or FTM, but factually speaking they'll always be their birst sex.
Funnily enough I'm on a similar page. Leastways, I'm an "everything but" kinda gay, aha

Fixed that for you :hehe:

So Demisexual is a step too far? :joker:

I identify as Iggysexual and it's hatespeech that you left it off :hmph:

Robosex.

I'm questioning my own sexuality lately. Well have felt this way for a while actually. I suppose I could easily have ticked asexual in the poll as opposed to heterosexual.

I mean I do have a sex life but I'd be as happy with a cup of tea and a biscuit really. And lots of cuddles. I like affection and am quite a touchy feely person..I like to demonstrate it.

I think that’s called getting on a bit Kate :tongue: sex drive lessens for most as we get older ..look at LT hanging up his boots :hehe:

Seeing as there is no multi-choice option, I went with Other; I'd consider myself a mix of the two options on top. I am heterosexual in more or less every way but may sometimes have thoughts about the same gender, however I never truly feel that way about a man in the same way I would a woman.

I went into this thread hoping bicurious to be one of the options based on what I am describing but alas :laugh:.

Does every thread these days turn into a transgender row? Have a day off

Also, fully fledged homosexual x

What happened to the love buzz hugs

I’m also on board with the cuddle thing, those ‘we went all night’ people are weird, one and done with an even 6 hours kip will do me tah

:joker: I think you are right Cherie xx

:oh:

im not paying for online dating in a flipping pandemic lockdown

it should be free at the moment

That's not an argument anybody made?

You were discussing how people LOOK and how ATTRACTIVE others may or may not find them. Now you're changing the goalposts and making yourself look silly.

Gay

Demisexual, engaged to a man.

Two spirited omnigendered Demisexual with tendencies of pansexuality

I’m not here to echo those transphobic sentiments but what makes demisexuality distinct?

She only feels sexual attraction to someone she loves I think.