Originally Posted by Redway
(Post 11680351)
People in life will project what they want to project onto you, even if they have very outdated or maybe never even really in-date leverage against you, and that’s why it’s so crucial to call out and dismantle those projections when they’re rooted in racism. Because when someone tries to pin old, false or harmful narratives onto you and refuse to let it drop, narratives that reduce you to a stereotype (e.g., young black males being inherently disposed to violence) or a single story, they’re not just misrepresenting you, are they, really? They’re feeding a system that thrives on keeping people divided and unequal. Letting that slide, or pretending it’s harmless, is what allows those attitudes to persist. So yeah. It’s very important to be on the stamp-out, even if and when you’re surrounded by racial bait; whether that’s as a white person, a person of colour or anyone in-between. And that’s something that starts closer to home than a lot of people realise. Every single one of us (even if we’re of colour or ‘racially ambiguous’) is capable of having unchecked biases, however innocent and non-hypocritical we think we are. It might not be intentional or malicious but nobody’s perfect. It’s a personal journey, though. People who’ve decided they’re against you or your cause can call you whatever names they like along the way but all that white noise shouldn’t matter as long as you’re trying to be a good person and examine yourself every once in a while.
I think with me my own personal journey is analogous to that in some ways. I never go into detail about the ins and outs of it all on places like this, because it’s personal, but let’s just say I’ve been caught in the middle between various ethnicities and cultures, and I’ve seen how tensions can play out from person to person in very intimate ways over the years, so I know, and being firm about your boundaries when people seek out to intentionally bait and misrepresent you, whether it’s based on the colour of your skin, some other extraneous variable or they just don’t like you (or they don’t like who they think you are, whether that’s a realistic picture of you or not) isn’t something I play with. If that makes me seem abrasive to some, so be it, innit. It’s important for people of all races to tap into that self-preservation and know that your inherent value, worth and interpersonal positivity isn’t dictated by what some stranger thinks, whether they tell you to your face that you’re any number of racially-fuelled insults they want to hurl at you, or trying to attention-seekingly bait you and make it clear that they don’t like you for whatever reason. Whether they’ve got the guts to tell you that to your face (and it doesn’t take much guts; it’s not a sign of courage to be revered) or not, whether they do or they don’t, is irrelevant and neither here nor there as far as your internal compass and value as a person are concerned. But that doesn’t mean that conversations shouldn’t still be had about people’s biases and so-on. It’s just about balancing whatever rationalisations they bring to the table with the self-knowledge that you have tremendous worth and value as an individual, and someone somewhere is going to appreciate that about you.
TLDR: I’m basically just saying that it’s important never to lose sight of who you truly are and what you bring to the table, even if opening the can of worms about where some people’s biases (some founded, some - like racial ones - absolutely not) come from can make you internalise a lot of hatred that has nothing to do with you as you truly are.
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