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Niamh. 10-09-2016 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8971737)
If you're not going to agree with me I'm afraid we're going to have to wrestle in the car park.

:laugh:

bots 10-09-2016 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8971737)
If you're not going to agree with me I'm afraid we're going to have to wrestle in the car park.

thats something i would like to watch! :amazed:

Livia 10-09-2016 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by bitontheslide (Post 8971740)
thats something i would like to watch! :amazed:

If it happens tickets will be on sale. Niamh and I aren't stupid...

Niamh. 10-09-2016 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8971742)
If it happens tickets will be on sale. Niamh and I aren't stupid...

Obviously :hee:

Tom4784 10-09-2016 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8971705)
It's brilliant prep for going to work. If you have to wear a uniform for work and decide to express yourself by wearing funky shoes, someone else will be doing your job by the end of the week. You have to follow rules in the workplace, unless you intend to be long-term unemployed, and then you can wear pretty much what you want and express yourself all day long.

I tackled this point earlier because I knew it would come up.

There aren't many workplaces that would care about what the shoes look like as long as they are black. None of the shoes in the pictures are at all 'funky' and few employers would bat an eyelid at them. Sending pupils home on a pedantic technicality does not prepare them for working life at all. It's silly to say so.

The Headtwat is being a pedantic mess to try to flex his authority and send a message but all he has done is bring bad press to the school and antagonised the parents and pupils because he's focusing on the insignificant details when he should be focused on doing his job and ensuring these kids get an education.

joeysteele 10-09-2016 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 8971762)
I tackled this point earlier because I knew it would come up.

There aren't many workplaces that would care about what the shoes look like as long as they are black. None of the shoes in the pictures are at all 'funky' and few employers would bat an eyelid at them. Sending pupils home on a pedantic technicality does not prepare them for working life at all. It's silly to say so.

The Headtwat is being a pedantic mess to try to flex his authority and send a message but all he has done is bring bad press to the school and antagonised the parents and pupils because he's focusing on the insignificant details when he should be focused on doing his job and ensuring these kids get an education.


I totally agree.

It is bad enough that some in Education allow children to be branded failures as to not learning quickly enough.
Here now to actually make an issue out of wearing a kind of black shoes, when all that was stipulated was that they needed to be black as to the uniform, and thereby by his actions now possibly affecting learning is just plain ridiculous.

Livia 10-09-2016 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 8971762)
I tackled this point earlier because I knew it would come up.

There aren't many workplaces that would care about what the shoes look like as long as they are black. None of the shoes in the pictures are at all 'funky' and few employers would bat an eyelid at them. Sending pupils home on a pedantic technicality does not prepare them for working life at all. It's silly to say so.

The Headtwat is being a pedantic mess to try to flex his authority and send a message but all he has done is bring bad press to the school and antagonised the parents and pupils because he's focusing on the insignificant details when he should be focused on doing his job and ensuring these kids get an education.

My three nieces were doing quite badly at their local school and my brother and his wife decided to send them to private school. They're not wealthy, they have good jobs and they've given up moving, holidays, an extension and all kinds of other stuff they were planning to send them to this new school. The old school was really lax about uniforms... the new school, you have to wear exactly what the school dictates, including shoes. My nieces are thriving... and their parents are paying. No one moans about the shoes. No one moans that they are not being allowed to "express themselves", on the contrary they are encouraged to follow their passions... my eldest niece is barely in her teens and is doing extra-curricular film studies and one of the others is learning street dance. But the uniform is non-negotiable. The school doesn't see uniform as an insignificant detail. They have all sorts of kids there, kids who have wealthy parents, kids who have parents working hard to pay their fees and kids on scholarships. They all wear the same. They are all equal. I see that as a positive thing.

Kizzy 10-09-2016 02:20 PM

But what relevance does that have to this situation, are the kids thriving because of the quality of the teachers the resources and facilities at their private school or the uniform?

Johnnyuk123 10-09-2016 02:35 PM

Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

Jay28jay2 10-09-2016 03:12 PM

In my school we have to wear polishable black shoes. Some of those don't look polishable so i've got nothing to say about this

bots 10-09-2016 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

Johnny speaks the truth!

kirklancaster 10-09-2016 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

:laugh::laugh::laugh:

"Gretchen and Kurt, and Fritz and Hans
Get ready for ze Mods to hand out ze Bans"

:joker:

Cherie 10-09-2016 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

:hee:

Vicky. 10-09-2016 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

Oddly enough, we also have normal lives away from this forum...shocking I know :eek:

Main issue with this for me is...the shoes pictured are not what anyone (rational) would describe as fancy or OTT for school. They are just black shoes. Asking specifically for black 'leather' shoes makes it more expensive, and it is also not clear whether they expect real leather?! Which would be a ridiculous ask.

I would have an issue if someone went in with pink shoes instead of the specified black, but I do not see why the school gets to decide on the actual style of shoe (besides saying, for example, no trainers)

Niamh. 10-09-2016 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

:laugh2:

Maru 10-09-2016 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.

Because society has been preaching rules can be changed when it no longer suits you.. just go on facebook/twitter/media and complain... the school system is right to provide solid structure... when you're out in the world, you can wear whatever you want and do/live however you want... but in school your parent's aren't there to move the goal posts to accommodate for you or to twist arms so you can wear your favorite shoes... you're there to learn to follow instructions and deal with new obstacles... not to complain every time you receive a little bit of humiliation for acting out when things don't go your way... the headmaster is right not to bend on the parent's whim

To me it is just shoes, so why fuss over it, just return them to the store and get others? It wouldn't be any different if you picked up the wrong type of instrument for class or incorrectly lined paper... I made mistakes like that every year, we forgot something we needed and we had to go and exchange something for the right one :shrug: That's life.

Tom4784 10-09-2016 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8971846)
My three nieces were doing quite badly at their local school and my brother and his wife decided to send them to private school. They're not wealthy, they have good jobs and they've given up moving, holidays, an extension and all kinds of other stuff they were planning to send them to this new school. The old school was really lax about uniforms... the new school, you have to wear exactly what the school dictates, including shoes. My nieces are thriving... and their parents are paying. No one moans about the shoes. No one moans that they are not being allowed to "express themselves", on the contrary they are encouraged to follow their passions... my eldest niece is barely in her teens and is doing extra-curricular film studies and one of the others is learning street dance. But the uniform is non-negotiable. The school doesn't see uniform as an insignificant detail. They have all sorts of kids there, kids who have wealthy parents, kids who have parents working hard to pay their fees and kids on scholarships. They all wear the same. They are all equal. I see that as a positive thing.

I'd say their success is more to do with little things like a higher quality of teaching rather than what they are wearing.
Uniforms only benefit the school, it doesn't benefit the students and it benefits NO ONE AT ALL to pick over the smallest details of someone's shoes when they fit the basic criteria of what's asked of the students.

The headteacher is being a snob that is abusing his authority for no good reason. He needs to remember that he is an educator and not a detective for the Fashion Police.

Uniforms in most schools are just a ****ing racket to squeeze money out of parents anyway.

arista 10-09-2016 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123 (Post 8971903)
Rules are rules and there to be followed....and NOT debated. All mods know this so why some are siding with the parents is pretty confusing to say the least.


Yes Johnny
Printed Rules to Every Fecking Parent



All Good parents got there kids
in.

Maru 10-09-2016 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by arista (Post 8972508)
Yes Johnny
Printed Rules to Every Fecking Parent



All Good parents got there kids
in.

And orientations :laugh:
"How dare those bastards hold an orientation without us!"... everyone every year

Livia 11-09-2016 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 8972502)
I'd say their success is more to do with little things like a higher quality of teaching rather than what they are wearing.
Uniforms only benefit the school, it doesn't benefit the students and it benefits NO ONE AT ALL to pick over the smallest details of someone's shoes when they fit the basic criteria of what's asked of the students.

The headteacher is being a snob that is abusing his authority for no good reason. He needs to remember that he is an educator and not a detective for the Fashion Police.

Uniforms in most schools are just a ****ing racket to squeeze money out of parents anyway.

Why do we never see parents who've paid for their kids to go to a good school, moaning in the press about the uniform, when it's almost always a much stricter uniform code than state schools. The whole thing about getting the press in to make a fuss detracts much more from the kids' learning than actually following the rules in the first place.

I'd much rather have a strict uniform code, which reinforces the idea that there is discipline in schools, than have the kids in designer wear ripping the piss out of the kids wearing Primark. I remember secondary school... I remember kids emerging, dripping, from the fish pond because they didn't have the right bag.

Tom4784 11-09-2016 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia (Post 8972748)
Why do we never see parents who've paid for their kids to go to a good school, moaning in the press about the uniform, when it's almost always a much stricter uniform code than state schools. The whole thing about getting the press in to make a fuss detracts much more from the kids' learning than actually following the rules in the first place.

I'd much rather have a strict uniform code, which reinforces the idea that there is discipline in schools, than have the kids in designer wear ripping the piss out of the kids wearing Primark. I remember secondary school... I remember kids emerging, dripping, from the fish pond because they didn't have the right bag.

Well no, the press attention was a result of the Headtwat's decision to prevent these kids from learning. It was a consequence of HIS decision, not the cause of the disruption itself.

The whole fashion excuse is stupid, bullies will always find a reason to bully others. To try to limit bullying triggers is a pointless endeavor because there will always be a trigger regardless.

The whole idea that uniforms=discipline is also flawed. At my school, if you didn't have the correct uniform, you'd be put into isolation and made to do lines until your parents coughed up the money to buy an overpriced replacement from the school itself and guess what? Our school completely lacked discipline despite the draconian level of strictness over the uniforms. It only reinforced my opinion that uniforms are just a way for schools to force parents to pay for public school.

There's no benefits for students when it to uniforms, they don't prepare you for working life, they don't aid in education (they can actually be a distraction in summer or hot weather), they don't aid in discipline and they don't prevent bullying from occurring. They only benefit a school's profits.

bots 11-09-2016 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 8972764)
Well no, the press attention was a result of the Headtwat's decision to prevent these kids from learning. It was a consequence of HIS decision, not the cause of the disruption itself.

The whole fashion excuse is stupid, bullies will always find a reason to bully others. To try to limit bullying triggers is a pointless endeavor because there will always be a trigger regardless.

The whole idea that uniforms=discipline is also flawed. At my school, if you didn't have the correct uniform, you'd be put into isolation and made to do lines until your parents coughed up the money to buy an overpriced replacement from the school itself and guess what? Our school completely lacked discipline despite the draconian level of strictness over the uniforms. It only reinforced my opinion that uniforms are just a way for schools to force parents to pay for public school.

There's no benefits for students when it to uniforms, they don't prepare you for working life, they don't aid in education (they can actually be a distraction in summer or hot weather), they don't aid in discipline and they don't prevent bullying from occurring. They only benefit a school's profits.

The school published its rules, the vast majority of parent and children complied. The media attention came from the disruptive element that didn't want to comply, and wanted to undermine the schools efforts for improvement.

joeysteele 11-09-2016 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 8972764)
Well no, the press attention was a result of the Headtwat's decision to prevent these kids from learning. It was a consequence of HIS decision, not the cause of the disruption itself.

The whole fashion excuse is stupid, bullies will always find a reason to bully others. To try to limit bullying triggers is a pointless endeavor because there will always be a trigger regardless.

The whole idea that uniforms=discipline is also flawed. At my school, if you didn't have the correct uniform, you'd be put into isolation and made to do lines until your parents coughed up the money to buy an overpriced replacement from the school itself and guess what? Our school completely lacked discipline despite the draconian level of strictness over the uniforms. It only reinforced my opinion that uniforms are just a way for schools to force parents to pay for public school.

There's no benefits for students when it to uniforms, they don't prepare you for working life, they don't aid in education (they can actually be a distraction in summer or hot weather), they don't aid in discipline and they don't prevent bullying from occurring. They only benefit a school's profits.

Very strong point there Dezzy, my school had strict uniform rules which I thought silly myself, however I actually liked my school uniform so was happy to wear it.

I think you are making the really good points as to this issue, the issue really being that the school insisted on black shoes, not a specific type of black shoe, and these were 'black shoes'.

However your point as to bullies, is an even stronger one, everyone conformed to the rules of the School I was at but there were still bullies getting at people, for whatever suited them to get at them for.
I made many stands for other lads against bullies at the school I finished up at.

They were bullying for usually nothing valid ,just out of plain and sheer nastiness.
Nothing as to fashion as you rightly point out.
They will always find something to bully others for.

_Tom_ 11-09-2016 11:16 AM

I disagree. If there was no school uniform at all and everyone came in with their own clothes everyday, bullies would have so much more ammunition. Sure, bullies will always find reasons to bully someone - but someone coming in wearing cheaper brands, or coming into class with the same outfit more than once a week for example would make them a much bigger target than their peers.

Livia 11-09-2016 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy (Post 8972764)
Well no, the press attention was a result of the Headtwat's decision to prevent these kids from learning. It was a consequence of HIS decision, not the cause of the disruption itself.

The whole fashion excuse is stupid, bullies will always find a reason to bully others. To try to limit bullying triggers is a pointless endeavor because there will always be a trigger regardless.

The whole idea that uniforms=discipline is also flawed. At my school, if you didn't have the correct uniform, you'd be put into isolation and made to do lines until your parents coughed up the money to buy an overpriced replacement from the school itself and guess what? Our school completely lacked discipline despite the draconian level of strictness over the uniforms. It only reinforced my opinion that uniforms are just a way for schools to force parents to pay for public school.

There's no benefits for students when it to uniforms, they don't prepare you for working life, they don't aid in education (they can actually be a distraction in summer or hot weather), they don't aid in discipline and they don't prevent bullying from occurring. They only benefit a school's profits.

I'm not in agreement with calling this man the "headtwat". He hasn'tmade this decision alone, there would have been a whole host of people in on it, including the Board of Governors, many of whom will be parents.

Uniforms are not a distraction. If there is a uniform, there will be a summer version. And also, the school doesn't make a profit on uniforms unless they have a shop in the school or take a cut of profits from the suppliers. And the cost of them are considerably less than the designer stuff that was the chosen uniform by the kids my nieces' old school.

We're going to have to disagree on the rest of it Dezzy. But I can tell you that, as a person who was bullied mercilessly at school, my experience has shown me that what you're wearing is the A.No.1 trigger. It's the first thing the bullies see.


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