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09-05-2022 03:41 PM |
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Originally Posted by GoldHeart
(Post 11162928)
I still think some people like to push Depp's buttons,which is a terrible thing to do to someone with mental issues and addiction problems . I don't condone trashing hotel rooms and lashing out in violence, having anger issues is one thing . I still don't think Depp is this horrible 'woman beater' that he's being painted as.
I remember a while ago he was peacefully trying to have a meal with someone/ a girlfriend . And paparazzi would not leave him alone.
He asked them to stop as he's trying to have a meal in peace,but of course they ignored him and kept getting in his face and snapping away. So predictably it ended up in a altercation which I bet the pap guy loved . Similar thing happened with Bjork aswell .
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That's a social fallacy anyway that people should be wary of - people don't become abusers, or even murderers, "because they're evil monsters". Look at someone like Rolf Harris, which is obviously nowhere near a direct comparison but I think illustrates my point;
Was he a creep who had inappropriate relationships with underage girls? Yes.
Was he a man who deeply cared, was gentle with, and wanted to protect little animals. Also yes.
We could go down the whole Michael Jackson rabbit hole as well; I believe he did inappropriate sexual things with young boys. I think the reasons for that are exceptionally complicated, that his mental health was very messy, and that he was also a man who cared deeply about people/the world.
The list goes on. And I'm not even comparing Depp and Heard to these people's crimes. I just think he's a man who went too far down the hollywood/drugs rabbit hole starting at a young age and eventually ended up in a violent relationship (and came out of it bitter/jaded). I think Amber heard also went down the same route quite young and it's probably what initially brought them together - and she also ended up angry and bitter. That's what happens in such relationships. "Who started it" doesn't exactly matter and "who pushes whose buttons" matters even less. Having your buttons pressed is NOT any sort of excuse, whatsoever, for lashing out physically... this excuse is made for abusive people constantly and it's not OK. "Well, you must have provoked them..." ... just the wrong way to look at it.
On balance the simplest explanation, from all of the voice clips I've heard and messages I've seen, is that Depp got violent first probably with it only happening when he was heavily under the influence of alcohol and drugs, and it declined from there with her eventually deliberately provoking him and also getting physical. This is an extremely common pattern in mutually abusive relationships. The stereotypical image of domestic violence is one dominating abuser and one timid victim but that's not always the case.
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