Let's not with you bringing child abuse into another thread that is not relevant.

I agree but do your sympathies only extend to minority groups? Because you seem to have far less sympathy for women... Who are also attacked and killed, and facing unwarranted hatred, not for how they are choosing to live but simply for being women...

Honestly this isn't something I was always super aware of but once your eyes are open to it, it's absolutely everywhere.

Obviously I'm not saying that anyone should feel that way but I do find it utterly ludicrous when I see trans rights people openly attacking women as though they're coming from a place of privilege simply because they're "not a minority group".

...there really is nothing in Remy’s mindset or stance that would indicate any lack of sympathy for women, none at all...just because he’s related some personal experiences of having spent much time working in LGBT shelters with abuse victims and his experiences aren’t that ‘trans abuse’ is a rare thing...he shows much consideration/thought/sympathy etc for all people with this topic...(..and all topics tbh...)...

You really read something that isn't there and that's sad. I really don't know what to answer to that tbh.:shrug:

When I say I feel for minorities, it doesn't mean I'm not feeling anything for women who are also under constant threat and abuse too.
But next time I will make a full exhaustive list of things I have sympathy for and put it in my signature so you are not confused anylonger if that helps.

Thanks Ammi :love:
And I wish I would give some time to work in charity centers and shelters that help women too but you can't do everything at once. That however doesn't mean I'm only defending one group over the other. Like I said before, transgender people and women always fought together for equal justice, but some people really like to put both groups against each other.

It's a slur typically aimed at feminists who want to preserve women's sex-based rights.

I tend to I base my opinions on the entire thread and not just one post, and as it appears that memories are short on this one, what I said above relates first and foremost to this post below, but also several others on this thread:

This was at the time - and still is - dismissive of, and lacks empathy for, the women expressing concerns on this topic... hence what I said above: I wish you had put as much thought into having sympathy for the women who have concerns for their safety as you have into having sympathy for the people who are angry at them for that.

It was originally aimed at those who were genuinely hateful/critical of the whole concept of transexuality but, yes, sadly it's now thrown around quite freely at anyone who doesn't express full compliance and agreement with one zeitgeist on the issue. Not uncommon for similar words, I guess.

And again, as you may have read afterwards, I said it was not aimed at WOMEN. I like repeating myself so it's fine: It was aimed at transphobic people. So hopefully that clicks in. Have a nice saturday :love:

I have to agree with TS.

On first impressions when Remy posted in the thread (first comment especially if memory serves me right) came across as very unsympathetic towards women with genuine concerns about our rights.

Well it looks like whatever I'm saying I will always be seen as someone who doesn't care about women when I was just replying to Jessica's comment that many people (and not here on TIBB) use excuses such as sports or unisex toilets to hide their transphobia.
And again, not giving names are pointing at people. I've explained it enough in previous pages.
I also speak more about trans people's point of view because that's the people I work with in charities and other places, yet that doesn't mean I could care less about women.

And once again, I think I explained later in the thread that I fully understand genuine concerns from women and everything can be worked out in the end.
I don't think I can make myself anymore clear. But if you feel I'm a misogynist piece of crap, it's on you. When I say I feel for minorities, people say I don't feel for women. If I say I feel for women, they will say it's not true. So really I should be going on about my day and go to my local charity as I usually do on saturdays afternoons to help people who got thrown out of their parents houses for being gay, trans and many other things people don't like. Have a nice day everybody.

Since I was the one Jessica was presumably referring to when she mentioned sport, are you saying you were referring to me then?

...it’s not dismissive of one thing to consider another, it’s inclusive of...as has been said throughout not only this thread but in others, conversations are good to be had and to have those have those conversations...?...then seeing different viewpoints is essential also...I’m absolutely a feminist but being a feminist doesn’t mean that I don’t consider different layers of that in some way I stop being a feminist in considering from a view of transgender in this...because Remy put forward his own personal experience which directly related to a feeling that ‘trans abuse’ was quite rare and which is not his experience to be true, does not in any way suggest that he has no thought or less thought for females...as he’s said, he has no personal experience of women’s shelters/charities...so he’s offering the personal experiences he does have, which haven’t before been offered in the thread so are very welcome, obviously...

No Niamh, If I'm not mistaken she didn't quote anybody, therefore it was not aimed at you personally.

...and tbf, TS...you picked out a recent post and directly commented on it, which completely manipulated what was actually said...

I'm pretty sure Jessica's comment was aimed at me. Yours might not have been but hers clearly was

It was dismissive of women who think there are concerns when it comes to clashes with women's rights - and in this post, you are still suggesting that those women are "transphobic people". Your opinion hasn't changed, you're saying the same now as you were on page one, and as such my opinion hasn't changed either: You have more concern for progressing trans rights than you do for considering the rights and safety of women that might be eroded in the process. That might be because "you don't think they will be" but that's not really relevant, as we're talking about sympathy, which doesn't require agreement. When you say "it wasn't aimed at women" you mean "...because it wasn't aimed at the many women who happen to agree with me on this topic". It was aimed squarely at the many women who disagree with you, it dismissed their concerns without even an attempt at discussion, it (frankly) with "relax and love it" told them that they should keep their mouths shut. This is classic misogyny whether you can see it or not - and if you can't - and you really do see yourself as appreciating both sides of this debate - all I can do is suggest you think about it.

the one thing i do know as for trans people in sports

that they gotten criticism over ''unfair advantages'' has been in various media few years ago




https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2019/04/0...-fair-compete/

and here 10 trans athletes explain why it is fair for them to compete

Maybe it was, I don't know. I'm not in her head. I can't be held accountable for that. I suggest you talk to her about it? I don't know what else to tell you about it :shrug:

I replied to the most recent comment because that's how discussions happen... I didn't things from weeks ago or other threads into it... the discussion is still about the conversations that have taken place in this thread?

...anyways, as ‘empathy’ has been mentioned and we’ve had this conversation before, TS....I understand that you’ve had a complete turnaround in your views on this related subject and that’s completely fine, obviously that there are things in life that can cause us to have those u turns of mindsets, it’s good that we’re open to that...but because you’ve had a very firm mindset of ‘both sides’...(...I know we’ve had this conversation before...)...you’re in the privileged position of also having an understanding of a now differing view, which was once an aligning view...and yet you show very little, if any tolerance or understanding for a mindset you yourself once had not so long ago...that to me shows a lack of ‘empathy’ that I would have expected and hoped to have been, to at least understand...as Remy has said...have a good Saturday....

The athletes themselves are explaining why it isn't unfair? Well, that will be very unbiased and fact based I'm sure. . .

Everybody can disagree with me, it's fine and that's debate and we love it.
It was aimed at transphobic people, and again, not towards not-transphobic people who have genuine concerns about the topic.
Point, blank and period. You were not in my head when I wrote it, you seem to know better what I meant and felt. It probably came out wrong, but I suppose you won't see any differently. If you don't trust me, then it is life and so be it. Have a lovely saturday :love:

And that cyclist Rachel McKinnon is a nasty piece of work, clearly actually hates women

My mindset on it changed through robust conversation and having my ideas challenged and my lack of understanding put under a spotlight, Ammi... as anything does... they didn't change via people pussy-footing around the issue or by people avoiding challenging things I had to say about it with a shrug and an "each to their own" because of some misplaced fear of "hurting someone's feelings" or "avoiding discomfort". If I point out something wrong that I think I see in someone's argument and that person thinks I've gotten it totally wrong then there's no need for them to feel hurt or uncomfortable. If I say something that makes someone feel hurt or uncomfortable then they should have a think about why.

I understand that you don't like conflict but frankly it's not really your place to shut it down when it's actually still within the realms of completely acceptable debate; no one is being personally attacked here, ideas are being challenged.