Moral Dilemma
 

Your best friend is about to get married. The ceremony will be performed in one hour, but you have seen, just before coming to the wedding, that your friend’s fiancee has been having an affair. If your friend marries this woman, she is unlikely to be faithful, but on the other hand, if you tell your friend about the affair, you will ruin his wedding. Would you, or would you not, tell your friend of the affair?

I would tell them

No point in them getting married then having to file for divorce once everything has been found out

No


Let it take its Course.

Of course. It's a lot more important than a wedding day. The pain the inevitable divorce would bring would be worse. You wouldn't be a good friend if you'd let it play out.

Yeah, I'd tell them. I would want to be told.

I would tell them as well.

Tough one. Your friend could react either way. If you don't tell them, and they find out you knew, they may be mad at you for not telling them. If you do tell them before the wedding, they may be mad at you for trying to spoil things and may refuse to believe it anyway (especially if their partner refutes your claims). Either way, you could lose a friend. I think I would tell them, and then they had the choice to proceed how they wanted. If they held my actions against me and wanted nothing to do with me afterwards, then they weren't such a good friend after all.

Yes I would tell them.

Is this the same thing that Lily posted in serious debates btw? there was 10 moral dilemas I'm sure this was one of them.

..I couldn't remember this one but it could be

I would tell them especially since they weren't married yet, you could be preventing a whole lot of hassle later on down the road

I don't know whether I would tell them..I very much doubt one hour before the wedding that they would listen anyway and all it would do is make me the enemy..and they would really need friends more than ever. And I know that may make people question whther I was a true friend..but this could have been a one off and I wouldn't know how accurate the facts were or any circumstances..so there's nothing to say they wouldn't go on to have a very happy marriage.

I love moral dilemma threads!

I would tell my friend. Even if they reacted angrily towards me and I lost a friend, I'd know that I'd done the right thing which would help me get over losing a friend I think.

You did say an affair in your OP rather than a one night stand

I would confront the fiancée first and see what they had to say, if I came away sure she would be unfaithful throughout the marriage I guess I'd tell my friend

Read that first as comfort the fiancée, lul

He needs to know regardless. He's the one who should decide if he thinks she'll be faithful or not.

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

If they're my best friend I'd assume they'd trust my word, since there's nothing in the OP about having any proof, and therefore I'd tell him/her.

I see what you mean about it possibly being in the past but I find the idea of someone keeping something like that from my best friend something I should tell them.

I just think an affair is in such a different league to a one night stand.....even if it was over, you have other things like lying right to your friends face on top of the actual cheating. If it were me I would rather know if my future husband had done that to me before I got married

So the affair is now over?

I think if your friend was truly a good friend, and they know you well, then they would listen to you. Unfortunately though sometimes, the heart rules the head.

Id easily tell them and then persuade them not to go through with it because there wont be trust and they canwait it out if they want to work on the relationship.

..I would want to know too..but I'm not sure it would make any difference to me actually marrying the person..not an hour before the wedding..it would if I found out earlier and I'd had time to confirm it myself..but I would be so in love..I'm not sure I would believe it..not straight away..but it would certainly plant some seeds and the marriage wouldn't start off good..suspicion and trust..and maybe if I hadn't have been told..the affair could have ended and I could be very happy in the marriage..I don't know..it is a hard one..I've just never been any good at telling friends what I know will hurt them..and I know by not telling them it's hurting them too..but I don't know..I think I'd do what MTVN said...talk to her and tell her she must tell him..or let her walk away from the wedding

I would tell them but only if I knew firsthand (i.e seen texts / emails or seen them meeting), If I had just heard it from someone else I don't think I would unless they had proof

So Ammi..............going to any weddings soon? :suspect:

I would tell my friend. No question about it.

Was actually semi-in this situation a couple of years ago. But instead of friends in the scenario...it was my parents :S

Oh lol....I don't think I'm going to get asked to any now..I'm the worst friend in the world
...I just don't think I could tell anyone that when they're so in love and an hour away from marrying the girl of their dreams..and maybe she's a reformed woman and will be faithful for the rest of her life :amazed:..and they'll be incredibly happy..and have beautiful children
..see how I'm trying here