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arista 05-02-2013 09:24 AM

I Slap my 14 year Old Daughter - mother says its part of loving
 
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/...56_634x439.jpg
Mother and daughter: Last week, Shona hit her
14-year-old daughter Flo (pictured)
after she slammed a door in her face


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...#ixzz2K1ER6Kqd



Feel The Force

Niamh. 05-02-2013 09:33 AM

Slapping a 14 year old? No, that's wrong, you'd be arrested if you hit somebody elses 14 year old so why is it ok to hit your own?

arista 05-02-2013 09:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815001)
Slapping a 14 year old? No, that's wrong, you'd be arrested if you hit somebody elses 14 year old so why is it ok to hit your own?


No
The Brat Slammed her Door on her mums Face


Thats a Outrage

Niamh. 05-02-2013 09:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by arista (Post 5815006)
No
The Brat Slammed her Door on her mums Face


Thats a Outrage

She didn't physically touch her mother and she doesn't deserve to be physically touched back.

Vanessa 05-02-2013 09:41 AM

I think it's wrong. I was hit a lot as a child and it's still affecting me.

arista 05-02-2013 09:50 AM

No Arrest
as she left no mark


Sign Of The Times

AnnieK 05-02-2013 10:19 AM

I was smacked as a child and it did me no harm, I don't resent my parents for it at all, I always knew how far to push it with my mum (my dad was and still is the biggest softy so it was down to mum to discipline). I think she only ever did it 3 times or so but I learned to back off when I knew I had pushed her far enough and I would never have dared to behave like the girl in the article did....Having said that, I have never and have no intention of smacking my son.

arista 05-02-2013 10:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by anniek76 (Post 5815050)
I was smacked as a child and it did me no harm, I don't resent my parents for it at all, I always knew how far to push it with my mum (my dad was and still is the biggest softy so it was down to mum to discipline). I think she only ever did it 3 times or so but I learned to back off when I knew I had pushed her far enough and I would never have dared to behave like the girl in the article did....Having said that, I have never and have no intention of smacking my son.


Yes it can help in future life

Ramsay 05-02-2013 10:45 AM

How can she slap??

Niamh. 05-02-2013 10:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Karl (Post 5815085)
How can she slap??

:laugh2:

JamesBond007 05-02-2013 10:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815001)
Slapping a 14 year old? No, that's wrong, you'd be arrested if you hit somebody elses 14 year old so why is it ok to hit your own?

Sadly the way some youths of today behave i think a slap would have been good in some cases.

do i agree in slapping? yes it did me no harm and made me respect people. But every parent has there own way of doing things. so one shouldn't look down on either side and preach.

Niamh. 05-02-2013 10:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JamesBond007 (Post 5815090)
Sadly the way some youths of today behave i think a slap would have been good in some cases.

do i agree in slapping? yes it did me no harm and made me respect people. But every parent has there own way of doing things. so one should look down on either side and preach.

Why not? I feel strongly that physically putting your hands on someone else is wrong, if you did it to a stranger you'd end up in court so why should it be ok to do it to your own child?

Marc 05-02-2013 10:50 AM

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JamesBond007 05-02-2013 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815095)
Why not? I feel strongly that physically putting your hands on someone else is wrong, if you did it to a stranger you'd end up in court so why should it be ok to do it to your own child?

Cause thats your child. You bought that child into this world and until he or she is 18.They live by your rules. I'm not saying punch the child but a slap behind the legs when they've done some naughty just to make sure they won't do it again. Taught me a few things in life and i feel i'm a well adjusted man.

JamesBond007 05-02-2013 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marc (Post 5815098)

I think the door did her some damage :joker:

Niamh. 05-02-2013 10:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JamesBond007 (Post 5815100)
Cause thats your child. You bought that child into this world and until he or she is 18.They live by your rules. I'm not saying punch the child but a slap behind the legs when they've done some naughty just to make sure they won't do it again. Taught me a few things in life and i feel i'm a well adjusted man.

Having brought a child into the world shouldn't give you the right to physically assault it.

JamesBond007 05-02-2013 11:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815102)
Having brought a child into the world shouldn't give you the right to physically assault it.

I think you every right to slap him or her if the child is misbehaving. you feed and cloth the child. I'm only saying slapping the child behind the legs. I'm not saying beaten the child black and blue here. The way i see children act towards adults today is a disgrace. If that was in my day you'd have got a slap. Maybe some parents need to start telling children whats wrong or right then if they don't want to slap them instead of spoiling them.

arista 05-02-2013 11:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JamesBond007 (Post 5815101)
I think the door did her some damage :joker:


It was a Shock
for sure

Niamh. 05-02-2013 11:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JamesBond007 (Post 5815105)
I think you every right to slap him or her if the child is misbehaving. you feed and cloth the child. I'm only saying slapping the child behind the legs. I'm not saying beaten the child black and blue here. The way i see children act towards adults today is a disgrace. If that was in my day you'd have got a slap. Maybe some parents need to start telling children whats wrong or right then if they don't want to slap them instead of spoiling them.

I have two children, who are extremely well behaved and polite, neither of whom I've ever raised a hand to, using violence (and slapping is violence) is lazy parenting.

JamesBond007 05-02-2013 11:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815108)
I have two children, who are extremely well behaved and polite, neither of whom I've ever raised a hand to, using violence (and slapping is violence) is lazy parenting.

I'm sure your a loving Parent :) and i'm happy to hear you don't raise your hand to your children

Lazy parenting maybe but effective. Different time Niamh Parents didn't read magazines or self help books back then. My Parents, i'm the luckiest guy in the world to have had great parents, so i don't hold any grudges.

Livia 05-02-2013 11:11 AM

I think if someone wants to discipline their own kid with a slap then that's up to them. So long as that person is quite clear on the difference between slapping a child as a punishment, and beating the crap out of them. I was slapped a few times as a kid and I can say with my hand on my heart that I deserved it, I knew why it had happened and I never thought for one moment I was abused or that my parents didn't love me.

Niamh. 05-02-2013 11:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JamesBond007 (Post 5815115)
I'm sure your a loving Parent :) and i'm happy to hear you don't raise your hand to your children

Lazy parenting maybe but effective. Different time Niamh Parents didn't read magazines or self help books back then. My Parents, i'm the luckiest guy in the world to have had great parents, so i don't hold any grudges.

And I'm not saying you should, it was just acceptable back then. I remember my mother used to threaten us with the wooden spoon...............she never actually hit us with it though :laugh:

Niamh. 05-02-2013 11:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Livia (Post 5815116)
I think if someone wants to discipline their own kid with a slap then that's up to them. So long as that person is quite clear on the difference between slapping a child as a punishment, and beating the crap out of them. I was slapped a few times as a kid and I can say with my hand on my heart that I deserved it, I knew why it had happened and I never thought for one moment I was abused or that my parents didn't love me.

I would guess that most of the time a slap is given to a child as a reaction in anger rather than as a thought out punishment, as in the example in the article.

Livia 05-02-2013 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815120)
I would guess that most of the time a slap is given to a child as a reaction in anger rather than as a thought out punishment, as in the example in the article.

I don't agree with 'most of the time', but I will go with 'some of the time'

Anyway... Marc likes it.

JamesBond007 05-02-2013 11:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5815117)
And I'm not saying you should, it was just acceptable back then. I remember my mother used to threaten us with the wooden spoon...............she never actually hit us with it though :laugh:

When i hit 8 years old (i'm now 32) thats when i got the same wooden spoon or i tell your dad your been bold treatment. Never got smacked from that day forward. Just got the silent treatment if i got into trouble but to be fair i never was bad. Just as you said it was acceptable bck then.


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