When do you know you're friends with someone?
 

I talk to so many people but I don't count any of them as my friends, which got me thinking. When do you hit the "friends" mark with someone? What do you have to do to cross that barrier? Get their number? Go on nights out with them?

It would be nice to see your opinions on what it takes to become friends with someone, and how you all make them.

Hmm, I think i know i'm friends with someone when they tell me things that are personal and ask for my advice

If I voluntarily spend a lot of time with someone, I'm friends with them.

Oooh that's a good one. I love it when people open up to me, it makes me feel very special and trusted! Definitely a quality of a friend.

This.

When you feel comfortable with them and want to be with them and you trust them .I have a few aquaintainces that I chat to and socialise with,but only ONE very best friend.

You just really take to somebody or you don't.:shrug:

My really best friends and I all know too much about each other to fall out:joker:
I reckon the old saying "a friend in need is a friend indeed" sorts out true friends from people you just get on with.

I don't have any I wouldn't know.

Definitely!

If someone stays at my house and I don't want to kill them before Monday morning, they're a friend.

If someone knows something about me that I wouldn't want people knowing, then they're my friend, trust is a big thing with me, If I feel I can trust you, then you're in basically

When I look forward to seeing them and/or speaking to them

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Do you mean on TiBB or just in general.

I'd say I'm friends with someone if I've known someone for a long period of time, I feel like I can go to them for advice and vice versa, we have a lot in common, we have disagreements or disputes but it doesn't really affect our friendship and we make up afterwards (if they weren't a real friend, I'd just say go **** yourself) :laugh:

tbh, if I enjoy someone's company they're a friend...well to me anyway.

When you can take the piss out of them without them getting offended

When you discover you are both on the same wavelength. You both find the same daft stuff funny and it's the first person you want to share news with (good and bad)
The one person you can tell anything to, knowing they won't judge you.

when you share mutual jokes, like i know i'm friends with someone when we spot the same joke, like an in-joke.

It takes me around 10 years to make a friend

Yeah kind of for me too. I never make the 'first move' with people, so people always end up coming up to me to chat. I don't make friends easily, partly because I have zero desire for social contact and also because I can't read people's actions very well, but some of the people who talk to me end up being people I like. When they've made an effort to get to know me and be friends with me, I start loosening up a bit and making an effort back. I'm doing a Tafe course right now (kind of like Australia's version of community college) and for me, my friendship group kind of started when I voluntarily sat next to someone who had been speaking to me in class. That was kind of the moment when all of us were like 'oh we're friends now' :laugh: (we're all fairly socially awkward).

..I guess, when you don't have to share jokes and you don't have to make conversation, you can just be together and say nothing at all or you can not be with them/see them for ages and you still know they're one of your closest friends because they know you and know quiet times, chatty times, fun times etc..they just know, understand and don't judge you for your flaws but like you despite them...

when you don't have to wonder if you are friends or not. (aka when you don't feel the need to try to impress them)

But this needs to be a mutual feeling of course for the friendship to exist

Ooh this is good too! Sometimes just being in their company is good enough, no need for conversation!

Three little words are very important to bear in mind during your 'friend-gathering' years;

"Et Tu, Brute?"