Mums pressuring me into telling the rest of the family im gay :(
 

Hello.
If you havent quite noticed, im Gay.

Ive opened up to my mother about it and everything, and shes okay with it, but recently ive been seeing a guy, and shes like oh wow.

But now shes pressuring me into telling the rest of the famly (and theres 6 of us) that im gay. Shes like, Conor its unfair on them, i want you to do it. And im like, well im not ready yet mother, please just accept my desicion.

She said that im being pathetic and stupid, and that its not hard telling everyone, when it actually is :(. Also she said she will tell hem without me knowing. How mean.

If only she knew what it was like.

Advice anyone?

Thanks alot
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Ahh sounds bad!

Just don't allow her to control you LOL. If you don't want to, I don't think you have to, well you will have to some day but just not at this moment. Just tell her that you're only just getting used to it and you need time to prepare yourself and get your head around it before you want to tell everybody else? :hugesmile:

Aaah, you probably don't understand any of that. I'm talking utter s***. Good luck anyway!

I lvoe gay guys, I want a gay best friend. :thumbs2:

Anyway, I don't really knoww what I can tell you, I suposse it may be hard but the best thing to do would be to come out to your family, because if you don't then your mother's going to do it for you. & I'm guessing it would mean more to them if you did it yourself. I think you should just suck it up & tell them, I mean if you're mum's okay with it then I can only guess that the rest of your family won't have a problem with it.

Good luck & sorry for the crappy advice.

Just tell her you are really serious about this. Act mature about it. Have her sit down and say something like. Look mum I am serious I am really scared. Can you maybe wait a month or 2???

I dont actually know how long you need but still. say something a bit like that??

Just do what you feel is right man
its your life..**** everyone else

aww she should let you be able to tell your family you are gay in your own time!

Well i guess, let her do it.

If shes going to anyway and you don't want to..

Conor, they probably already know. You are incredibly camp.

Chances are ... they probably already guessed

LMFAO

:rolleyes:Fail

Linda and tom. Yeh I think this will be true. My gay friend says his dad can really tell. He says his dad always asks him his he has a gf and if he fanccies the girl over there etc.

Eat her.

This isnt a serious debate.
And shes probably presurig you into it because they might be saying that they think your gay behind your back to your mm =)
Not rocket science is it

I no longer trust my gaydar. It failed me recently. I had no idea about Billy.. genuinely.. and I spoke to him quite a lot!

Lili and Tom and Waters, if you do not mind, have you seen me in real life? no. have you actually spoke to me in real life? no. So you do not know that i am 'incredibaly camp', because i am not, so if you aint gunna help me, plese stop taking the piss, i actually feel really down about it right, and all i want is advice on how todeal with it. not for idiots to take the pee.

Moved to general chat. This is not a serious debate.



However Con, you've just got to tell her clearly you will tell them: but in your own time. You need to get adjusted to this first.
I'd also like to say that if you're confused or anything like that, or call yourself gay now, remember you're very young and need to get through this yourself.
If your mum doesn't understand if you tell her calmly, maybe write a letter expressing your feelings.

Can you please not overuse the term "fail" and not just use it every chance you can at something andy posts lol.

Half the time when you say fail its not.

I didn't even mean it in a bad way. Anyone with a half decent gaydar can tell a gay person from a straight person whether out or not and not just through actions either. So they probably do have an idea. Just being realistic. Sorry if you don't like the truth.

My gaydar is amaze. I dont know why but i just can tell??

lol really? I had an idea about it ... though I didn't want to say anything (felt bad in case he wasn't :joker:)