Scared about college
 

I start on Thursday and am so scared about making friends and stuff. My worst fear is being told to get into groups and not knowing anyone! :sad: What if I make a fool out of myself and that stays with me throughout college life? What if I dont make friends or there are some people who are pricks? What if Im told to get into groups when I don't know anyone? :bawling: Im so scared =(

Everyone is in the same boat, if you have to get into groups the teacher will almost certainly do it

I can guarantee that this time next week you'll be thinking wtf was I so worried about

Im scared the same way about uni, but I know in a few weeks I will be used to it. ive started at 3 different colleges over the past years and each time has been scary... it never gets easier in life, wether it is uni or a job or whatever. Its a big change, your allowed to be scared :P

Good luck with it! Just enjoy it and go with the flow.

Don't worry yourself to death about it, you'll make friends in no time.

Just like Tom said, in a week or two you'll be wondering what you were ever scared of in the first place :)

Thanks, but what would I say if the teacher said get into groups? I just wouldnt know what to do :$ it would be so awkward nd Im really shy, thats a horrible situation to be in

College is a lot better than school, trust me, theres nothing to worry about

Just fake it til you make it. Try to appear somewhat nonchalant about the whole thing in order to endear yourself to people. And don't come across too needy I don't think there's anything more off putting.

I start on Thursday and I'm both nervous and couldn't give a **** ha.

I was scared when I first started college also, but by the second or third day it all goes away.

[rquote=2556228&tid=147216&author=BBUK4LYFE]I was scared when I first started college also, but by the second or third day it all goes away. [/rquote]Did you ever have to do group work? If you did then how did it go?

[rquote=2556245&tid=147216&author=Phlip][rquote=2556228&tid=147216&author=BBUK4LYFE]I was scared when I first started college also, but by the second or third day it all goes away. [/rquote]Did you ever have to do group work? If you did then how did it go?[/rquote]
Yep. Pretty much every class that I took.


Its great and frustrating all at the same time. You get to meet classmates and thats a great way to make college friends. The worst thing about it is, there is ALWAYS someone that does not pull their weight in the group. So you'll most likely have to do extra work to cover their behinds, to get it done.

I start on Monday, Bricking it ha. Only know 2 people in my whole college because all my other mates are in other DIT

Vodka! Drink it, feel it, love it!

Completely nothing to worry about, you'll be fine. Chances are not many poeple in your course will know each other so you'll all be in the same situation. My advice is to just through yourself into it.

Don't worry, a lot of people will be in the same position as you
College, I find, is way better than school. People are nicer and mature so just be yourself, go with it and enjoy it.

[rquote=2556636&tid=147216&author=andyman]Vodka! Drink it, feel it, love it![/rquote]

Not in college :nono:

I busted my leg open doing that. Vodka + practical PE = :bored:

Dont worry, believe me!

I started college induction on Monday and I went in again yesterday as well, you make friends unbelievably fast.

I start for real on Tuesday, I have no worries now.

After a week you'll be fine

My cousin goes to college but only he got in because he was on the S but he doesnt go to many lectures or anything just do that

I know how you feel! I just started on Monday but the tutors know you won't know anyone, so if you get told to go into groups you'll be told who to go with etc.

You'll find that people are all the same at first, they're all nervous and waiting for someone to speak to them and the best way to go about it is just try and make as many friends as possible by basically just chatting. Stuff like why they picked the course etc! Oh and awkward silences, if you get any just like interrupt it syaing something like don't you hate awkward silences? It's easier to break the ice when you know everyone is the same as you.

[rquote=2555882&tid=147216&author=Tom]Everyone is in the same boat, if you have to get into groups the teacher will almost certainly do it

I can guarantee that this time next week you'll be thinking wtf was I so worried about [/rquote]


Well said
RAF Tom


Life In The City.

[rquote=2557541&tid=147216&author=Billy]I know how you feel! I just started on Monday but the tutors know you won't know anyone, so if you get told to go into groups you'll be told who to go with etc.

You'll find that people are all the same at first, they're all nervous and waiting for someone to speak to them and the best way to go about it is just try and make as many friends as possible by basically just chatting. Stuff like why they picked the course etc! Oh and awkward silences, if you get any just like interrupt it syaing something like don't you hate awkward silences? It's easier to break the ice when you know everyone is the same as you.[/rquote]

I do the awkward silence breaker as well, itd oesnt normally happen as i chat alot, but at college for my first day, I said "Well, this is an exciting awkward silence" and people laughed, it works and its a good way to break silence.

I'm still scared:bawling:

What do you do at the indiction day?

Starting in the morning, never been so scared

i started on Monday, and i was scared too, because im not the best at making friends haha, but it has been fine so far :)
Even though the first 2 weeks are induction weeks, so not doing much!

I start tomorrow. Im so scared :(

[rquote=2569799&tid=147216&author=Phlip]I start tomorrow. Im so scared :([/rquote]

Make whatever friends you can (no weird ones up themselves) and stick with them and by them.

Don't be afraid of alcohol. It is your friend. Treat it as such.

College was horrible :bawling:, i was so nervous so i didn't talk to anyone so I'm a loner now

[rquote=2571582&tid=147216&author=MassiveTruck][rquote=2569799&tid=147216&author=Phlip]I start tomorrow. Im so scared :([/rquote]

Make whatever friends you can (no weird ones up themselves) and stick with them and by them.

Don't be afraid of alcohol. It is your friend. Treat it as such.[/rquote]

I wish that was True of the myth of college :sad:

but it's not i'm afraid from my experience. If your not gay guy or Female you don't make friends. I just couldn't connect with any of my fellow classmates, most just wanted to do their college work then go home and rarely on college nights out did anyone go out. only three other guys and myself out of a class of 25 turned up. I've done two courses both were miserable experience's in terms of making mates

I Have one mate in my whole college and i was good mates with her before college.

I agree with ArsenalForever, if you aren't gay or a girl it's much harder to make mates

Whys it easier if you're a girl? (or gay for that matter lol)

[rquote=2587696&tid=147216&author=Lauren]Whys it easier if you're a girl? (or gay for that matter lol)[/rquote]

:joker: I don't know, it just seemed that way the other day. It was me and mate, then in front a load of girls and gay guys trading numbers and chatting. Maybe, it's just that me and my mate aren't social enough

lol, maybe they're just super confident. I don't think many people can just get chatting to a group of people they don't know! With college I think the best friends are made overtime, when youre put in a group with someone you don't really know etc.

I bet you they threw themselves into conversations though. You really have to do that on the first few days, although I met my best college friend when I bumped into her in the lift haha, but yeah just try harder on making friends. Don't appear cliquey either and try and speak to everyone.

I started 2 weeks ago and already we are all really close! We all sit around the one table at lunch and breaks and stuff and it's amazing,.

[rquote=2586756&tid=147216&author=arsenalforever][rquote=2571582&tid=147216&author=MassiveTruck][rquote=2569799&tid=147216&author=Phlip]I start tomorrow. Im so scared :([/rquote]

Make whatever friends you can (no weird ones up themselves) and stick with them and by them.

Don't be afraid of alcohol. It is your friend. Treat it as such.[/rquote]

I wish that was True of the myth of college :sad:

but it's not i'm afraid from my experience. If your not gay guy or Female you don't make friends. I just couldn't connect with any of my fellow classmates, most just wanted to do their college work then go home and rarely on college nights out did anyone go out. only three other guys and myself out of a class of 25 turned up. I've done two courses both were miserable experience's in terms of making mates[/rquote]

I'm sorry to hear about that.

My example was more to do with University than College. My college experience wasn't as bad as yours. I think I had in the region of 50 plus people I knew and who knew me. It was that huge.

I think, like I said about Uni, you should make the most of what friends you have and do as much as you can with them. Don't hesitate to talk to people and get to know them more to. I guess you are probably young and you'll only learn with experience.

The thing that makes college worse is the fact that I'm in a course I'm not really interested in

[rquote=2588393&tid=147216&author=LethalDealer]The thing that makes college worse is the fact that I'm in a course I'm not really interested in [/rquote]
Find one you wanna do then. You may find people more suited to you aswell!

That's what I'm hoping to do

[rquote=2588393&tid=147216&author=LethalDealer]The thing that makes college worse is the fact that I'm in a course I'm not really interested in [/rquote]

You still have time to change to one that you want to do ! :thumbs: