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*mazedsalv** 17-06-2010 07:39 PM

IMO this is NOT Bullying... the only times...
 
that bullying has occured throughout the series are these moments IMO:

1. Sophie BB3. It was not needed, any arguments normally have a purpose, she just came in and got IMO victimised.

2. Sam BB6. This was vicious, it wasnt the usual shouting, it was very threatening. Howeer nothing was done with this. Lesley said "I will get you when we get outside this house" which obviously makes a violent threat to her.

3. Shahbaz BB7. This was probably the actual biggest cause of bullying in the house, and Im shocked Ofcom did not recieve many complaints (i was talking about this in Media earlier, how back in these days we didnt think it was a big deal until the race row, now we tread on eggshells. All against one, and lets not forget that BB7 started out with the same amount as BB11 has now (14), so it was 13 against 1 housemate. taking his clothes when he was in the pool, locking him in the garden and shouting him down whenever he spoke.

4. Freddie BB10. Exactly like Shahbaz tbh, but this time Freddie actually had a couple of people who was on his side, but the others just wanted to put him down.

Other moments that come close but i dont see as bullying are:
Sam BB7, Sara BB9 and Mo BB9 (this was only one night and was a drunken cause).

Do you agree?

Rob! 17-06-2010 07:39 PM

Shabaz probably was bullied...unfortuantly not enough viewers liked him to complain...eek.

Bigbrofan25 17-06-2010 07:41 PM

yes dude I agree

Jordan. 17-06-2010 07:42 PM

Shahbaz brought it on himself IMO agreed with the others though

pixee 17-06-2010 07:42 PM

I don't know I'll have to see tonights HL show, so far no. Freddie was bad but didn't look as bad cause he wasn't totally alone.

vesavius 17-06-2010 07:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by *mazedsalv** (Post 3362035)
that bullying has occured throughout the series are these moments IMO:

1. Sophie BB3. It was not needed, any arguments normally have a purpose, she just came in and got IMO victimised.

2. Sam BB6. This was vicious, it wasnt the usual shouting, it was very threatening. Howeer nothing was done with this. Lesley said "I will get you when we get outside this house" which obviously makes a violent threat to her.

3. Shahbaz BB7. This was probably the actual biggest cause of bullying in the house, and Im shocked Ofcom did not recieve many complaints (i was talking about this in Media earlier, how back in these days we didnt think it was a big deal until the race row, now we tread on eggshells. All against one, and lets not forget that BB7 started out with the same amount as BB11 has now (14), so it was 13 against 1 housemate. taking his clothes when he was in the pool, locking him in the garden and shouting him down whenever he spoke.

4. Freddie BB10. Exactly like Shahbaz tbh, but this time Freddie actually had a couple of people who was on his side, but the others just wanted to put him down.

Other moments that come close but i dont see as bullying are:
Sam BB7 and Mo BB9 (this was only one night and was a drunken cause).

Do you agree?

very much so, and excellent post.

People that throw words like 'bully', 'victim', and 'abuse' around when it is so far from the truth are just projecting their own issues onto the show imo.

It's one of the main reasons that BB has become neutered over the years.

_Seth 17-06-2010 07:49 PM

I agree, I'll be seriously annoyed if JJ is told off. He hasn't bullied anyone. He was only wrong over the dinner table because she wasn't being a bitch to anyone. BUT, he tells her what she's done wrong... Rachael's sly about stuff.

ElProximo 17-06-2010 07:51 PM

BB10 Sree was some pretty disgusting bullying but what happened is that people disliked him so instead of complaining they said things like '..well its his fault for not doing what they tell him'.
Which was actually the really disgusting part of it for me. That so many viewers had 'morally relative' standards or just decided it was not 'bullying' in the same way whipping a slave is not 'bullying' but what ought to be done.

Anyways,
So far not seeing a lot of problems this season. For the most part the men may not all like each other but are have been very civil and respecting each others space. Shabby may 'want' or 'attempt' to bully men and women alike but so far its not working.

Steve could have been a threat for bullying and especially with his military background and the fact he looks like a damn Terminator Cyborg,
yet,
don't see any aggression or pushing anyone around or anything from him.

So far so good this season!

iRyan 17-06-2010 07:51 PM

I do think it's bullying.

Repeatedly putting down someone to the point of them crying on multiple occasions, as well as trying to seclude the person from the rest of the group by telling other people to ignore them is bullying in both social and verbal forms. If John James was unattractive, I HIGHLY doubt as many people would be on his side.

Niamh. 17-06-2010 07:51 PM

also Shilpa from CBB

vesavius 17-06-2010 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by iRyan (Post 3362117)
I do think it's bullying.

/sigh... here we go...

*mazedsalv** 17-06-2010 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamhxo (Post 3362120)
also Shilpa from CBB

Meant to put on my first post "Except for the obvious one"... but yeah except in that case.

teabag. 17-06-2010 08:01 PM

WHAT?! do people seriously think this is bullying?!

Niamh. 17-06-2010 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by teabag. (Post 3362202)
WHAT?! do people seriously think this is bullying?!

People cry Bully the minute anyone argues:rolleyes:

ElProximo 17-06-2010 09:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Niamhxo (Post 3362303)
People cry Bully the minute anyone argues:rolleyes:

and you would be the expert on that.

Niall 17-06-2010 09:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElProximo (Post 3362112)
BB10 Sree was some pretty disgusting bullying but what happened is that people disliked him so instead of complaining they said things like '..well its his fault for not doing what they tell him'.
Which was actually the really disgusting part of it for me. That so many viewers had 'morally relative' standards or just decided it was not 'bullying' in the same way whipping a slave is not 'bullying' but what ought to be done.

Tbf, Sree brought most of that on himself. He was a bit of a twat imo.

Jarvio 17-06-2010 09:09 PM

SHAHBAZ was the biggest cock in BB history, and I don't care if I sound harsh here, but he deserved to be bullied. The man's behaviour was simply unacceptable and he deserved the victimization. He was a rude, nasty, attention-seeking twat that needed telling straight.

I kind of agree with all the others though. Also, Bea last year did a bit of bullying, mainly to David.

*mazedsalv** 17-06-2010 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Jarvio (Post 3362698)
SHAHBAZ was the biggest cock in BB history, and I don't care if I sound harsh here, but he deserved to be bullied. The man's behaviour was simply unacceptable and he deserved the victimization. He was a rude, nasty, attention-seeking twat that needed telling straight.

I kind of agree with all the others though. Also, Bea last year did a bit of bullying, mainly to David.

No one deserves to be bullied.
Full stop.

Jarvio 17-06-2010 09:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by *mazedsalv** (Post 3362723)
No one deserves to be bullied.
Full stop.

I think there's a line though. And Shahbaz crossed it IMO. I can see what you mean, but I really do think Shahbaz WAS that bad

chauncey 17-06-2010 09:23 PM

He's crackers.When he rounded on her during the task when she made a little joke about enjoying the food?That is bullying behaviour;jumping on someones every comment until they feel so unconfident they don't feel like speaking;which Rachael has said today she feels like.

Some fools on here seem to think just because incorrect bullying accusations have been thrown around before or,because it hasn't built up over a long
period of time, it's not bullying.

Whether it's been happening for 3 days or 3 months JJ IS bullying her.Would you be happy with someone treating your litttle sister or your mum like JJ is treating Rachael?

Fine he doesn't like her;then leave her alone,stop picking at every comment and movement she makes.JJ is a nasty,nasty person.

kisywisy 17-06-2010 09:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by iRyan (Post 3362117)
I do think it's bullying.

Repeatedly putting down someone to the point of them crying on multiple occasions, as well as trying to seclude the person from the rest of the group by telling other people to ignore them is bullying in both social and verbal forms. If John James was unattractive, I HIGHLY doubt as many people would be on his side.

it's NOT bullying!!

she cries because she can't take being pulled up about anything. maybe she's been surrounded by 'yes' people too much. plus, she started crying the other night when he WASN'T there

i mean, come on, she needs to grow up a bit and stick up for herself instead of pulling tears when she's called out

ILoveTRW 17-06-2010 09:26 PM

aw i loved sophie, one of the most underrated housemates ever
she was just so real

bansheewails 17-06-2010 09:28 PM

I wouldn't call it bullying, he is just a self serving, arrogant, knob who believes the public is on his side.

chauncey 17-06-2010 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kisywisy (Post 3362790)
it's NOT bullying!!

she cries because she can't take being pulled up about anything. maybe she's been surrounded by 'yes' people too much. plus, she started crying the other night when he WASN'T there

i mean, come on, she needs to grow up a bit and stick up for herself instead of pulling tears when she's called out

Sigh,victim blaming.Yes it's HER fault for crying after being systematically targetted,verbally attacked,and character assassinated for 3 days.Not the fault of the guy doing it,no???

Funny how JJ fans don't address that NO ONE in the house supports his behaviour towards Rachael,even his closest friends,they all say he's going too far and needs to move on,yet people on here are justifying his behaviour.

kisywisy 17-06-2010 09:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chauncey (Post 3362787)
He's crackers.When he rounded on her during the task when she made a little joke about enjoying the food?That is bullying behaviour;jumping on someones every comment until they feel so unconfident they don't feel like speaking;which Rachael has said today she feels like.

Some fools on here seem to think just because incorrect bullying accusations have been thrown around before or,because it hasn't built up over a long
period of time, it's not bullying.

Whether it's been happening for 3 days or 3 months JJ IS bullying her.Would you be happy with someone treating your litttle sister or your mum like JJ is treating Rachael?

Fine he doesn't like her;then leave her alone,stop picking at every comment and movement she makes.JJ is a nasty,nasty person.

well, 1. my sister wouldn't have the attitude that she does
and 2. she wouldn't burst into tears like a pathetic child

my daughter cries when she's given into trouble...she EIGHT!!
if she cries to me about someone being horrible to her, i send her out to stick up for herself.

my daughter HAS been bullied in the past, so i've not got my head in the sand either.

starry 17-06-2010 09:33 PM

We never had live feed with Freddie though.

BB_Eye 17-06-2010 09:34 PM

I would say bullying has been pretty much a staple of the series.

Penny BB2 - Stuart was very cruel to her and possibly the reason she got evicted the first week. Thank goodness Stuart was gone a week later.

Sophie BB3 - Very petty and malicious, totally unprovoked and done for no other reason than the fact that she was the newbie.

Sam BB6 - She was isolated in the house and wasn't just bullied by Leslie, but also Derek who had an almost obsessive vendetta against her.

Shahbaz, Sam and Suzie BB7 - Yes, Shahbaz may have been a nightmare to live with, but Grace and Sezer took a pretty vicious campaign against him. Grace plotted against Sam and was very good at getting away with it... placing the blame on to Lisa and Lea. Later on we got Grace's obsessive bitching about Suzie. I remember BB doing a lie detector test on the housemate and found Grace was the only one not to show any signs of anxiety while lying. Alarm bells pretty much rang at that point. Psycho bitch alert!

Everyone BB8 - Well... what can I say? Carole made the whole house miserable with plenty of help from Charley and Ziggy.

Mohamed BB9 - Alexandra and Team Bitch's bullying of Mo was probably the most unpleasant to watch. It went on for weeks on end, hardly anyone stuck up for him and worst of all, he ended up befriending the BBlock twats Rex and Darnell.

Freddie - Another one which is easy to make excuses for just because he may have been irritating at times. Lisa and Bea obviously felt threatened by someone more intelligent than them.

chauncey 17-06-2010 09:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kisywisy (Post 3362843)
well, 1. my sister wouldn't have the attitude that she does
and 2. she wouldn't burst into tears like a pathetic child

my daughter cries when she's given into trouble...she EIGHT!!
if she cries to me about someone being horrible to her, i send her out to stick up for herself.

my daughter HAS been bullied in the past, so i've not got my head in the sand either.

Yeah yeah,because only children have reason to cry,or get bullied.I love these 'tough as nails' characters on the net.You've never cried as an adult,or comforted an adult friend who has?

,yep she deserved it,silly woman, already seen other JJ fans saying she 'needs a slap',if he did,I'm sure you'd justify that too.

kisywisy 17-06-2010 09:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chauncey (Post 3362841)
Sigh,victim blaming.Yes it's HER fault for crying after being systematically targetted,verbally attacked,and character assassinated for 3 days.Not the fault of the guy doing it,no???

Funny how JJ fans don't address that NO ONE in the house supports his behaviour towards Rachael,even his closest friends,they all say he's going too far and needs to move on,yet people on here are justifying his behaviour.


erm...closest friends?? they've know each other for a week!! noone in that house are friends yet. they are ALL just getting to know each other and they are ALL still in 'game plan mode'

he went too far at the table, yes, but ONLY because he started shouting. his point was valid.

verbally attacked?? you mean, like...arguing?? character assassinated?? oh, please!!

chauncey 17-06-2010 09:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kisywisy (Post 3362898)
erm...closest friends?? they've know each other for a week!! noone in that house are friends yet. they are ALL just getting to know each other and they are ALL still in 'game plan mode'

he went too far at the table, yes, but ONLY because he started shouting. his point was valid.

verbally attacked?? you mean, like...arguing?? character assassinated?? oh, please!!

Mmmhmm yeah.You forgot to add the standard 'oh my god JJ is so *special and unique* for being the beautifullest guy in there and not going for Rachael!'- I can't believe people are actually falling for his game.

bansheewails 17-06-2010 09:41 PM

It makes me laugh because JJ has said on numerous occasions that he wants to be Heats torso of the week. He is a hypocrite as well as arrogant!

chauncey 17-06-2010 09:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bansheewails (Post 3362928)
It makes me laugh because JJ has said on numerous occasions that he wants to be Heats torso of the week. He is a hypocrite as well as arrogant!

He'll have his arse out in a gay mag the second he leaves.

Do his fans really believe he is so above the girls in terms of wanting fame and exposure?Yeah,he flew halfway around the world to appear on a foriegn BB just for 'the experiwience and to make new fwends':joker:

kisywisy 17-06-2010 09:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chauncey (Post 3362870)
Yeah yeah,because only children have reason to cry,or get bullied.I love these 'tough as nails' characters on the net.You've never cried as an adult,or comforted an adult friend who has?

,yep she deserved it,silly woman, already seen other JJ fans saying she 'needs a slap',if he did,I'm sure you'd justify that too.

hello?? hellooooooo?? are you still in my head, reading my thoughts?? no?? well DON'T assume you know how i'd react to that.

yes, i've cried but NOT over something as STUPID as that!! (as least, not since i was 15/16)

i'd prefer to be 'tough as nails' than a wet blanket

kisywisy 17-06-2010 09:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chauncey (Post 3362924)
Mmmhmm yeah.You forgot to add the standard 'oh my god JJ is so *special and unique* for being the beautifullest guy in there and not going for Rachael!'- I can't believe people are actually falling for his game.

not really much point continuing this with you. getting tedious

enjoy bb

vesavius 17-06-2010 09:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kisywisy (Post 3362898)
erm...closest friends?? they've know each other for a week!! noone in that house are friends yet. they are ALL just getting to know each other and they are ALL still in 'game plan mode'

he went too far at the table, yes, but ONLY because he started shouting. his point was valid.

verbally attacked?? you mean, like...arguing?? character assassinated?? oh, please!!

You'll get used to Chauncey Kis.

She uses the most extreme over dramatic language ('victim', 'abuse', 'bully') to describe what is basicially an argument between two equal adults.

I have no idea why, maybe it's just projection, maybe it's for attention, maybe for some other reason, but I wouldnt let it bother you.

it's a shame though, people like her have killed this show slowly over the years.

MrWong 17-06-2010 09:47 PM

"Psychological bullying.
Examples of psychological bullying and social manipulation include: ostracizing or ignoring peers, not inviting them to join groups or activities, spreading lies or rumors, name calling, and teasing hurtfully.


So are people denying that he's doing those things?

There are examples like this on the net, on Beat Bullying websites for instance. Why not educate yourself about it?

It's relentless aswell. On and on. Dude needs to give it a rest :sleep:

LBB11 17-06-2010 09:48 PM

I dont like her but i dont think its fair the amont of crap hes giving her and yes i am a JJ fan but it seems hes being a tad over nasty way her, but hey its realy life yes but they wanted to go into big brother and **** always happens in the house that people in there and out here wont like but after 11years everybody should no that or if going in the house be aware of how people will treat them. Im a hearty person and that would have hurt me as well but i would have give it back as good as i got, and no children arent the only people that are allowed to cry, i cry alot proberly more than my 2 children lol. We all like the show and we all like diffrent people and everyones point counts to them if they dont like it well argue here or get over it we,re no in the house we,re just watching its a show its on to entertain us imho.

vesavius 17-06-2010 09:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrWong (Post 3363004)
It's relentless aswell. On and on. Dude needs to give it a rest :sleep:

Yeah, some people around here need to as well :sleep:

MrWong 17-06-2010 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vesavius (Post 3363000)
You'll get used to Chauncey Kis.

She uses the most extreme over dramatic language ('victim', 'abuse', 'bully') to describe what is basicially an argument between two equal adults.

I have no idea why, maybe it's just projection, maybe it's for attention, maybe for some other reason, but I wouldnt let it bother you.

it's a shame though, people like her have killed this show slowly over the years.

Since you're familier with projection. Can you not see that's exactly what's happening with JJ towards Rach? He hates her for everything that he is.

Vain, fame hungry wannabe.

Real 17-06-2010 09:52 PM

She should have stood her ground and gave as good as she got instead of leaving the table.


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