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Ben gives people space
I'm fascinated by Ben's manner with people, and am enjoying Mario and Ben's dynamic more than any other relationship in the house. While Ben is very tactile, he also gives people a lot of psychological space in conversations. That is a very personable and warming combination, and quite rare for somebody with such a sharp and discerning mind. He reminds me of Siavash in this respect.
People who interact like Ben tend to make certain kinds of friendships. As you're giving people space to be themselves, you can develop a very wide variety of friendships with different people. And feeling like somebody is interested in you for your own sake and vibe is very warming, so friends will tend to feel particularly 'close' to you. You may end up with a lot of friends, even without being a 'group person'. Your friendships will be a collection of 1-1 connections, which is a great way to be sociable and individual at the same time. And you can still 'hold court' and be individually entertaining too sometimes; Siavash certainly does. Being able to make friends this way is just another arrow in your quiver. It can even be easier to be creative and entertaining when you're bouncing off somebody else. While in the house, I'd use my analyses of my fellow housemates so inspire me as to how to behave and develop as a person. This is a game that can evidently be played at home too. I'd like to be more like Ben in this respect, and he's inspired me to experiment with a similar approach. I'm 'dominating the conversation' a bit less these days, and have been getting some very positive responses so far. Are there any of this year's housemates that *you* would like to become more (or less) similar to? If so, do comment :-) |
Hi Freddie!
You were a legend last year and we were gutted when you were evicted prematurely! Rock on dude! :) I like Ben too. I find him a lot more interesting than Shabby and her little gang. |
Heyy is that really him :3
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pity there was no tasks to save last year cos the final 5 would have looked a big bitty different
but glad your a Ben fan |
omg is this the REAL freddie:wavey:
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Freddie was one of the best housemates in the history of BB in my opinion :) |
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FREDDIE YOU'RE A LEGEND PLS COMMENT SUNNYJIM! :) |
OMG its him!
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He said that he wasn't impressed by what he'd seen of Shabby so far on BBLB the other day so it appears he's a good judge of character as well as a legendary housemate! :)
"I don't think so Sonny-Jim":joker: |
I love you Freddie! You legend. <3
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Scabby is the new Lisa with her 'gang'
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Is this Freddie? I don't think so sonny-jim!
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Is it really him though?
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Lisa was a vile bitch. |
I don't see why everyone hates Ben.
He's polite and understanding, yes he may try to manipulate people, but most of the time he just wants a get-together with the lads. And Hi Freddie. :D (If it's the real you) |
I think Ben suffocates people, he wants to force his opinions (about nominations mainly) on people. I don't think he is much of a listener. He is quite conceited.
Sunshine is more of a listener (and caring) and I have enjoyed her long conversation with Govan a while back, and the conversation with John today as well. Of course Endemol are ignoring her and want to give some biased view of her. But those who watch live feed see what she contributes. Also the way they treated her just because she is articulate, different (such as being a Vegan) and has an unusual name. The first week was worst but even now they still keep giving her jibes, and she seems very strong in being able to ignore some of the crap or give something back to them. Not the boring stereotypical under the radar HM that Endemol would promote. But those who look beyond the HLs know the reality. |
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Ben needs people around him, I think he dislikes being alone really.
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:xyxwave: Freddie
I like Ben but he really needs to chill out relax and enjoy the experience and try and get past the Shabby rows. I thought he made a great Jerry Springer too :spin: |
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Lol why do you talk about Sunshine in every post? :P |
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C'mon sonny-jim say somethin ;)
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I really do think thats him
What fake person would advertise his personal site? |
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But the opening post asked about other HMs as well as Ben anyway. |
lulz @ the speculation.
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It's not exactly a 'personal' site. Anyone could link it.
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Oh - and what gave you the idea everyone hates him? he's getting on pretty well with most of the house |
I think Ben is a great character in the house, he is very witty and intelligent. :)
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How's your new single doin' Halfass? Still performing out the back of an estate car like on BBLB?!
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http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/foru...d.php?t=142760 http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/foru...d.php?t=142777 http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/foru...d.php?t=142750 http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/foru...d.php?t=142715 http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/foru...d.php?t=142739 Just a few of the recent threads I have posted in not mentioning Sunshine, there are very many others both recent and older. |
dunno if your real or not, but you kinda annoyed me alot ;)
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And hatred coz I still think Halfass is a total waste of air |
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Besides, quoting just six out of over 500 posts isn't exactly strengthening you point, if you get my drift. |
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They're suspicious of each other - and disagreeing with someone is a far cry from hating them |
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I just think Sunshine is the best HM of this series so far by a long way. |
I've been fascinated by Ben as well since the moment he opened his mouth. I don't believe that he and the things he says are malicious, but I can understand they can be perceived as being such. I think he is a genuine guy who honestly tries to understand people in a deeper level. Perhaps in other people's eyes he analyses too much, but I personally don't think so. I also analyse people and myself a lot, and a lot of this analysis is just statements with no actual value, but the listener often puts the value and the emotion into these statements. This then causes misunderstandings.
I'm glad that there are people like Ben in the house. |
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