I have a problem..
 

I've been the victim of racism, twice in recent weeks on another forum, by the same member. The admin has refused to do anything about it as he likes to remain unbiased. I feel really upset about it, and I just wanted to know if anyone else has been through this sort of thing.

Thanks.

Ziola.

No, ive never been through this sort of thing before Ziola, but if that happened to me then I would leave the forum, dont worry we're all nice at TiBB :spin2:

Sorry to hear that Ziola I hope you come to terms with it. It can't be a very nice experience.

If you ever have problems like that on here please make sure you report the post so we can take action. It's something we DO NOT allow on this forum.

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The admin sounds a rite twat. :mad:

My advice - call the admin every word under the sun then leave! :laugh:

Theye don't deserve your great posts on a forum that allows racism.

What kind of a forum lets this happen??

Is there only one admin member?

Report the post and then if they dont do anything just leave:nono:

He/She is not a very good admin then. I would complain to them one more time and if that does not work then leave. Racism should not be tolerated.

I was just about to say exactly the same thing, Fernzy. :thumbs:

Yes, the role of an Admin. is to remain impartial, but also to step in and take action where forum members are being verbally abused or picked on for whatever reason. If, after making a complaint to them, they still refuse to take any action then I would suggest you simply leave that forum, Ziola. You deserve to be treated better than that. http://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/s...liebe/a042.gif

Thank you.. :)

There's only one admin on the site, but he is my friend, and he has been going through tough times recently. However, he has said to me that although he does not endorse racism, he does believe in freedom of speech. My argument (which I believe is quite right) was that sure, you can have freedom of speech, but allowing it to degenerate into racism? He simply told me to ask him nicely not to do it. How can I ask him nicely if he's blocked me on both my IM programs, and that we're already not allowed to send each other Private Messages (same as U2Us)?? The admin has been highly unreasonable, refusing to do anything to help me. I'm really upset as I considered him as the one member of this site I could rely on to help me... Considering I've been a member since December 2004, have almost 9500 posts (which is more than double the racist member's post count), and have been registered a good four months than the racist member, I'd have thought I could get some sort of support. I feel really alone over there, as everyone seems to bicker these days, and me being the victim of racism is going unnoticed...

what site is it Ziola? U2U me if you dont want to say on the board.

PS. I like your "dandy don"

yer, you go sort 'em out Stropzy :thumbs:
Ziola dont worry mate, it must be hard, but dont let it get you down, racist people are often ignorent, uneducated people - we are here to help. :bigsmile:

*puts on her 'SuperStropzyWoman' outfit, and goes to headbutt the offending character!.. * :thumbs:

lol Stropz :laugh:

Ziola did you get the problem sorted?

I'm still waiting for him to return. I think he has been offline since..

Bless him.... nobody deserves to be victimised

This admin may believe in freedom of speech, but I doubt he'd be so quick to allow personal abuse if it was directed at him. If you'd like to send me a U2U with the address of this forum, I'd be more than happy to tell him what I think of his admin skills, whilst cheerfully reminding him that I have a right to freedom of speech.

Even if you don't accept my offer, please let me know how this all pans out, I don't like the thought of you getting abused by a piece of scum who I bet wouldn't have the guts to say such a thing to your face, rather than doing it in the safety of his own home, over the internet.

It's typical though. Most racist scumbags are cowards. They prefer the anonymity of the net to spout their filth.

Oh I agree, Stropz, it's bleeding typical.

I am sorry to hear you are being treated this way Ziola it isnt fair.

Can I also say that you feel the Admin is your friend - I feel that is untrue, a friend would stand up and be counted, a friend would NOT allow this to happen.

I am a firm believer in freedom of speech but racism is not what freedom of speech is all about - freedom of speech does not mean someone has to be abused in an unacceptable way.

Racist attacks whether physical, verbal or WRITTEN are illegal in this great country of ours and maybe you should remind your friend of that little gem.

Dump them in a heart beat honey and hang out with us more the ADMIN on TIBB wuold NOT allow that to happen to any member.

You could also U2U me the link to the site if you wouldnt mind *runs off to help Stropzy & Fangz kick some bottoms*

Well, I really, really appreciate the offers of help, I really do. It means so much to me. :)

I don't want to ruin everything I have over there because of this stupid fool, but he's a really nasty person.

Believe me, I have tried asking nicely to the admin, but he prefers to remain impartial. Nobody over on this other forum seems to care, they all think it was a joke what he said. But when you look at it in context, which I've been trying to convey, it's clearly not a joke. Also, he's done it twice now, both on the forum, and both times it's been looked over because admittedly he does often speak before he thinks. But "I hate spanish people" in response to my message isn't a joke, how can it be?!

I'll think it over, but Stropz, Fangz, Sunny *sets up my hotkeys on phone* :)

Thank you all for your support :)

thats not good. i hope everything gets better. Noone deserves this kind of treatment.

ok my lovely as long as you know you are not alone - we are good at bein discreet you know lol - well actually thats a lie we would take the big guns and shoot from the hips.

Remember we are here to bounce ideas off and will always treat you with the respect you deserve.

i think maybe you could try and find more people who think the same and as they say more heads are better then one

(i know its two but still more is sutiple at this present moment)

Friend or not, he should sort the problem out. If he doesn't and it still bothers you, contact the company that hosts the forum in question and let them deal with it instead. I don't think there are any that would permit racist content to be posted on their servers, and I'm sure they'd take action to solve the matter for you. U2U me if you need to know how to find out which company hosts it.

I have just read this and it is awful!! I think it is disgraceful that a forum would allow such things to be said and imo that specific member using such language should be banned without question!!

Ziola you shouldn't have to leave as no doubt that would just be playing into this horrible persons hands but at the same time if it is making you this unhappy maybe it is the best thing in the long run!!

I hope it get's sorted anyway I have friends that have suffered stuff like this and it is dispicable that in todays society it is happening!!

Good Luck Ziola I genuinely hope everything get's sorted and it is ok!!

Ziola, I only just saw this thread. This so called friend and administrator seems to be rubbish at both roles. And I can't stand people who disguise their bigotry as 'freedom of speech'.

I'm sorry you're having this abuse - it's disgraceful behaviour and you shouldn't have to put up with it - I hope it's sorted out now. If not, I should do what Charlotte said.

Remember you've got lots of friends here at TiBB:thumbs:

Thank you everyone :)


Well, the guy's backed off, but I'm still not happy at all. Now I'm off to harass the admin.

Good for you, Ziola - glad to hear things have improved a wee bit. :thumbs:

U2U me if you need any help or advice. Good luck. :xyxwave:

Glad that SOME things have worked out Ziola

And the moral of the story is dont mess with any TIBB forum members :devil: argue amongst themselves they might but heaven forbid an outsider even thinks about it lol

Glad things are settling for you :spin:

Thanks Sunny :D

Well, admin hasn't come online yet...

I've had a chat with the admin, and he's told me that he can't really afford to ban this member, because we have a lack of regular users as it is. I can see that from his point of view, but he still refuses to give him into trouble. I'm seriously thinking of telling my parents, as it's really affected me, as you know you hear all these racism activists, adverts on TV and campaigning...

I never bothered with it before, as I never assumed anyone would ever be racist to me. Now I'm really angry, because he's getting away with it, and he'll continue, whether or not it's me he's insulting.

Responding to title of thread starting, 'I have a problem'...

Ziola...

I hate to break it to you but, you've always had a problem matey. You don't have to tell us, we've known for some time now.

Pffftttt.

But on a serious note, racism will always be used be weak people. Either ignore it or take more vigerous action, like maybe shooting him/her in there gonads(special place).

Whew there Tanser. Thats taking it a little bit to far. Maybe just shoot them. Not in thier special regions :hugesmile:..actully thinking of that..DO IT..

See it all makes sence in the end.

I'm so tired, when i read your message it thought it said ' special religions' :rolleyes:... i sat there for a minutes thinking, huh? and then it came to me, the word you actually said was regions.

Time for bed i think!

LOL, I wasnt actully meant to put Religions..But..It still means the same thing right..??

Well... i suppose

I think that is it for me, i am beyond my allocated bed time. Jason x finished a long time ago.

Goodnight.

LOL, Laters Tanser..Ur a right laugh!

Ziola if this is still upsetting you as much as it obviously is then you will be doing the right thing by telling your parents and asking them for some support and advice.

If this site is so poorly subscribed that the admin has to rely on racists as regular members, I would seriously re-consider my choice of forums to hang out at. He has abviously taken the stance that this guy is not so bad and you are not going to get any kind of back up from him.

Just move over here for good we have a lovely room available for the right full time resident and we can have to decorated in whatever colour you would like :bigsmile: