Have you ever been 'cyber bullied?'
 

After a man was jailed for insulting comments on dead teenagers' social network sites I thought I'd ask - Have you ever been bullied online?

I've not been bullied as such but have been harassed.... Which is why I firmly believe this is a good message to send out to these idiots.

Opinions on action you believe suitable? If indeed any.

Im not sure if bullying is the word but I was harrassed and insulted by somebody over the internet quite a few times, always told him to bring it up to my face but the chicken sh!t never did.

Oh yeah, forgot to add. This isn't about TiBB wars. :)

i have been cyber bullied, and i have been a cyber bully.

I think everyone that knows me knows that i am much more conscious of what i say lately, and i really try to control my words more. I know i do have a nasty streak in me. I'm really trying to curb it, and i think as i get older, i have been more controlled online.

I think unfortunately the internet does breed bullies, just based on the anonymity of it. I think it's like homophobes, usually the most homophobic people are closet homosexuals, and i think very often online the most bullied people in real life, become bullies online. (this applies to both posters AND mods)

Just my 2 cents.

PMSL That was amusing, seeing posts disappear.

Cant say i have been bullied in cyber space, have dealt with people who thought they could try bullying members on my own site but nah, got it sorted PDQ.

I suppose some people could be intimidated by my "gentle" nature every once in a while, its not intended though and for that in just this one thread I do apologise.

And I'd just like to point out I deleted posts rather than bollock people about talking about banned members and taking the thread off topic. Fine if it was in chat but it ain't. If you'd rather me warn or infract then so be it but oddly, I figured a tidy would suffice.


Now stop bloody moaning, miserable lot :p

While we are all pointing out things I would just like to point out that I didnt moan. I only moan as I approach orgasm.

I've put the post back. If you want it deleted again Alex let me know

no it's okay. I have no idea what's going on here. lol.

I definitely meant what i said though, ALL of it.

I deleted some posts as they went offtopic and were talking about banned members which generally isn't allowed. I figured it better to delete them and (hoped!) leave it at that. Nothing more.

Anyway - cyber bullying.........

I don't think i have ever been bullied but i have had an American communications expert threaten to come over and shoot me. I laughed until he told me the street my local exchange was situated at.
The site owner banned the lunatic and called the police. I never heard anything about it again.

Nope, I've never been cyber bullied. I tend to avoid arguments and confrontation, so if anyone picked on me, I'd log off and avoid them.

and you felt the need to point out "american" why?

Because he was from America. Does that worry you in some way?

Take it to PM please.

I like you lostalex :)

I never said i was intimidated. I never asked for any help either. I don't get worried about people online. As far as i am concerned, i don't have an attitude at all.

I have a story. We all have a story in some way.

Now kiss and make up




Cyber bullying...............

...and the Award for Most Patronizing Post of the year goes to...

now dance.

Really?

I didn't think there was anything wrong with liking someone who said what they thought. I'd prefer that to someone who just says what other people want to hear.

*smiles sweetly*

It depends on what your definition of "cyber bullying."

I mean, I guess people have attempted to cyber bully me but without success.

I've never experienced cyberbullying and if someone has attempted to do that to me they've not been very successful, otherwise I would be here saying the opposite.

Tibb 'wars' aside where people simply do not gel, is one thing, but people who go out of their way to be nasty, insulting and abusive to people online - whether on their own or in gangs - is bullying - whichever way it's put - whether that be on FB or any other social networking site or a forum.

It happens often: it is how it is handled, and how the bullies are dealt with that makes a difference - ie: are they given a clear message to condemn the bullying/harassing, do their actions show that it will not be tolerated? or is it allowed to continue and not appropriately knocked on the head right away - which gives the message that it is allowed, which in turn, gives free passage to allow those doing the bullying to continue- and get worse because they do get away with it.

As far as the linked story is concerned: that's a more extreme version of what we see happening all the time. As for linked story: guy got (legally) less than he deserved, time wise imo. I'm sure he'll be experiencing bullying on the other side of the fence soon. I'm sure he won't find it so funny as he had done in the past.

Sort of but its never affected me in a way I would deem as bullying.

I have been seriously cyberbullied in the past. The worst was in 2008 when a group of people I really thought were my friends ganged up against me and plotted to have my online accounts hacked and destroyed. They used my best friend at the time to trick me into handing over my passwords, which, because I trusted him, I foolishly did. He locked me out of my accounts (bar one that I was able to talk to him on) and started blackmailing me telling me if I didn't do certain things I wouldn't get them back. I literally couldn't do anything and I felt powerless.

Thankfully he gave them back to me, against the other group members' wishes, and obviously as you'd expect I've never been stupid enough to give out my passwords ever since :tongue:

Oh God, that's horrible Mollie, were they people you know from real life?

They were online friends, I had known them for years though and they were always good to me prior to that. This was just completely out of the blue :/

That's terrible :( That's the thing Mollie: we give people our trust and this is how they repay that trust. It's worse when it's someone as you say, that you regarded as a best friend. You're better off without people like that around you.

That's horrible, that's why I worry about my daughter and younger people on the net. I'd say she'll be atleast 16 before I let her go on un supervised. It's scary all these kind of bullying stories you here, young teenagers even killing themselves over that kind of thing.

Jeeze Mollie that's awful :(

God, there are some scumbags in the world, aren't there?

That is terrible.

This is why the internet as a whole could do with rules and laws set in place. If something like that had happened in the material world there would have been criminal charges made.

The part that many /some people seem to miss in all of this is: online socialising has taken over what used to happen in days gone by: whereby people used to meet up in person, know each other in person and in real life.

A great deal of friendships arise from online conversations and online interraction regardless of age - but looking at it from 'youngsters' point of view in particular: they are very impressionable, they want to fit in and all it takes is that one bully to start rounding up their possy...... much going on elsewhere in the background - people being set up when they think these people are their friends - and before you know it: all sorts of thiings are posted online and then spread like wildfire - with much of it not being taken down, and remaining online for many years later.

Yes, it could be argued that 'similar' may happen in real life - people do get let down in real life - but it is far easier to bully, intimiate, harrass, badger and cause distress online, to a far wider audience with far less control over the end result.

Absolutely, and it's becoming a serious problem too. I think it needs to be looked at and policed more tbh because people seem to think anything they do is fine because "It's not real life" when in fact it is very much real life, there are real people sitting behind all of those screens

You speak for yourself. I'm a hologram with upgraded facilities.!!


Kidding aside: that is the issue though. It is real live people, with real live emotions and feelings - and as I mentioned: you just have to use Tibb as an example of how many young people (and older it must be said) - sit at night, alone in their rooms, parents downstairs, spending hours online, in chat rooms, FB, forums etc: whereas when I was a kid/teen and older -- either my parents wanted me out of the house 'get some fresh air rather than being stuck in the house'....... we used to go to community centres, hang around the swing parks, go up the park, and be together.

these days:it doesn't happen daily like that - a heck of a lot is thumping on keyboards, webcams, chat rooms, skype etc. Much body language is lost which is (70% iirc) of communication is lost. signals that would have been picked up on previously by body lanuage, by tone of voice - are now lost. Signals that are highly important.

by the very nature of this type of medium - it is very easy to be abused (ie: the comm method as well as 'a person/s'.)

No you are to smart

And Not Twisted.


Feel The Force.

"I'm a hologram with upgraded facilities.!!"



Yes Skpe Holograms
soon you can dance Naked over someone

:laugh2:

Yes :( All because I met someone famous that she liked, and this girl would send me hateful messages and threaten to hurt me and tried to turn all my friends against me. It went on for about 2 years.

:joker:

I'm not so sure I'd want to inflict that on even my worst enemy Arista!!!