Do you swear in front of your parents...
 

..ok, I think we might have had this before but it was just something/a discussion on another forum and it was quite mixed as to who did and who didn't....so, do you..and are they ok with it if you do..?...

My dad hates swearing....I told him to p*** off once (although I thought he was my brother) and he went berserk.

Not really, oddly enough. They were definitely the ones that turned me on to it and I used to do it loads when I was a teenager like my sister does now but after a certain while my swearing found it's place. I love swear words - no shit, TiBB - but it might give the wrong impression. I don't swear all the time. I swear in front of my friends when telling stories and in long conversation and verbose posts when I'm being a sardonic arse [Read : You know you're one when you've said it instead of 'sarcastic ass' and you try and supersede it by predicting it and you try and supersede that by lalalalala I'm drunk] but I find no real contextual reason to do it if like ... my mum is making me a tuna sandwich or something.

She was always cool with me smoking dope in the kitchen because she done it herself but as liberal as she was she would always helpfully redirect me to an alternate to swearing. Which is kind of cool I guess. Being able to do it loads and get away with it in a weird way I guess. I was always conscious of that growing up.

.hmmmm, I guess that's an interesting thing as well..(and something I believe in..)...as a parent/if your parents are against something and make it a 'taboo' then does that only make you want to do it more and be counter productive to their wishes....I think it's about explaining why you'd prefer for them not to do something/the dangers/consequences etc..(not swearing, I don't mean..but in general..)..rather than say, no..you absolutely can't...and then maybe you just trigger their enquiring minds....

Well it is different for every parent as indeed it is for every child but I would say on a personal level my dads linguistic analysis back in my real learning window of about 1996-2003 went as far as "I'm drunk therefore I curse" and my mums extended to "I'm not as drunk and he shouldn't. Not in front of you.".

I reached for the heights of "Interesting points on both sides. I'll consider both sides, attempt the drinking bit, and report back with results" and kind of worked from there.

It was neither recommended nor forbidden fruit. I took the logical middle ground path that language when not overused is a great flavor to use to spice up certain dishes and is certainly not disregarded.

On that note the few people I've met online in my life who have espoused the whole "you're cursing because you have no other words to express yourself" line have been amongst the dullest I have encountered and have had nothing to say.

...hmmm, I'll remember that 'dull' bit and swear more lol..but yeah, I think/believe that it's always good to talk to your children about your own life..and a kind of reminder to them that you're a person and not just a 'parent' and that you've been through/understand everything they feel...but also, knowing that they have to also experience it for themselves and you can't/shouldn't instil things on them because as much as anything else, they're not you and their experiences may be totally different...

..obviously talking to them about dangers etc though...

..I think my biggest 'hate' in life is the phrase 'you can't...because I said so..'..type thing..I know people in general don't do that anymore but just forbidding something without explaining why because it's that explanation of your feelings/preferences that's the most important thing....

Yes I do sometimes but not at them, try not to swear though.

My daughter sometimes forgets and swears in front of me. I dont mind cuz I'm so proud of her.

I will use light swear words infront of my mother, if I used the stronger words infront of her my father would batter me.

Away from her with my father i've heard him swear 'like a trooper' at work and so on and he wouldnt bat an eyelid if I did the same, unless it was directed at him. Its not in my nature to do it anyway. My brain seems to have some kind of automatic switch, when around anyone besides my parents I cant stop swearing, its the way people talk here. Just watch Twin Town. As soon as I am with my parents it just automatically stops.

Yeah I swear in front of my parents, I get the swearing from my mum though.

My cousin hates when I swear because she's a strong Christian and doesn't believe in it (for whatever reason), but I still swear to get on her nerves (This is Germyle we're talking about) :laugh:

Yeah I do, my dad swears alot, my mom doesn't much

Yeh I do although rarely at them. Whenever football is on it's like I have Tourette's or something. I try not to swear in front of my Gran but I often forget or have to curb it at the last minute.

Only when watching football as they understand things can get heated at times lol.

if i want a good slap on the back of the head

no because it's rude & my mum gets really angry lmfao

Oh yeah, my parents and I all swear in front of each other - in private. None of us actually swears in public though.

Who are you trying to kid? I bet you've got the filthiest mouth out of all of us :pipe:

No never,more than my lifes worth,lol,they are quite 'old fashioned' in their ways

I do now, coz i'm a growd up.
Wouldn't have dared in front of dad, but I do swear in front of mother... never at her though.

Yeah but the "C Word" & "Quim" are banned. :shocked:

No, both dead now.

I once swore at my dad under my breath when I was a teenager, trying to be big in front of my mates. Earned me a light slap around the back of my head, only time he ever raised a hand to me. I was mortified that he had heard me nd I can still remember the shame I felt.
I never heard my dad swear but know he did when he was in the club bar.

I never swore at my kids and so expected the same respect back.
My son told me to eff off in front off his mate when he was 19....his bags were packed and he was out within the hour.

Me and my Dad are always calling each other ******** or laughing at silly bitches at The Chase so we swear quite a lot, hardly ever around my mum though.

Aye, they swear at me too..it's just words like

All the time. My mum used to get annoyed at it but I think she's just given up caring. They're just words.

Yeah, I know you love it when I talk dirty.

I think 'infront of' and 'at' are two very important differences.

Yeah I swear in front of them all the time, usually to add humour to something, they find it funny. I'll always remember the time we had sat down to dinner and my younger brother came in from being at the gym and went "HI FAMILY!!!" really enthusiastically taking the piss and I said back "HI *******!!!" in the same voice and my parents burst out laughing and my brother went "What the *******?!" and my mum said "Don't swear it's rude!" to him :laugh2: and not a word was said to me. Laaawl.

Nope I wouldn't swear in mom's presence.

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Nah, generally don't swear in real life unless it's a reaction like if I burn myself I'd say **** or something, but other than that I don't...I swear like a trooper on the internet for some reason though

I don't ever swear, regardless of the situation or whose company I am in.

I would neverrrrr swear in front of my grandparents omfg

Me neither





because they're dead

Definitely not, I find it crass

I swear in front of my Mom as she doesn't mind, but I don't do it in front of my Dad as he hates me doing it.:hugesmile:

No I usually don't swear as my grandparents hate it and it's really hard to get out of the habit of doing it. I wouldn't swear in front of my parents though. I think I swear more on the internet and while texting, which is weird.

..I don't think it's weird, I think it's just what happens on the internet/texting etc and I guess it can become a habit, type thing to respond in the same way...

Me neither, I have to admit I do laugh at times in company when others do but I personally have never seen or felt the need to swear and would never have done anyway near my Grandparents or Parents.

It takes a lot to really get me angry though and I guess a fair bit of the time that is when many people would be likely to swear,however I still hold back from doing so even then.

Yeah, I wont deny that I can laugh about it sometimes but I have never seen the need to do it myself, most people who I know just swear out of habit, especially if they hurt themselves or something goes wrong, but I have never gotten into the habit of it, it just doesn't come naturally to me.

None of my parents are alive now. Id say I never swore in front of my dad but I said things like bloody in front of my mam. My mams fave words were bloody and b*stard and she once told me to f off which I found hilarious lol