Being unfaithful and cheating
 

How do you feel about this and be honest have you ever or are you?

It happens a lot and it could be happening to you or about to

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Off topic but yas at Doctor Foster :love: my newest obsession

I cheated on a guy once when I was 16, in my defence though, I'd been going out with him and he cheated on me and he dumped me, then a few months later he wanted to go out with me again so I said yes, then I cheated on him and dumped him (back then cheating on meant kissed someone else lol)

Anyway now I'm an adult I despise cheaters

I despise cheaters too.

Hate it. Easily one of the most disgusting things you could do to a person. It can seriously mess people up - make them never trust anyone again and I think that's incredibly sad.

As you get older you realise trust is really what its about

I cheated when I was 16. I've already justified myself on a different thread a couple weeks back so I won't justify myself again.

Nobody's ever cheated on me before.

not that you are aware

Oh as an adult I suspect that my ex cheated on me but I'm not 100% sure about it

I was the other person once on accident and I was disgusted in myself, I wouldn't cheat on anyone and I wouldn't knowingly enable someone to cheat on their other halves, whatever suits people I guess but I have no respect for cheaters or people who take pride in cheating or being the person someone cheats with.

I don't cheat and can't imagine myself ever doing that.

Oh I'm aware alright. I don't date wrong'uns and I slap them hard if they try to confront me at the bar.

usually instincts are pretty reliable

If you're in a relationship where the other person is of the understanding that it's meant to be monogamous then in my view it's pretty weasely if you cheat.

My tolerance levels for people who are ultra possessive about their partner, following them all over, making them disclose all their conversations and otherwise interfering with their personal life when it turns out they have been the unfaithful ones all along is about as low as you get.

You see it all the time on Jeremy Kyle, makes me want to throw the TV through the window. Hate hypocrites.

I'm not a cheater and if I dated one, he'd be out the door. I don't do shares-ies.

Yeah I agree

Yep and that's usually the case in real life too. Judging their partner by their own standards

There is also Emotional Cheating

An "emotional affair" is an affair between two people that mimics the closeness and emotional intimacy of an affair while never being physically consummated. An emotional affair is often colloquially referred to as an affair of the heart. An emotional affair may emerge from a friendship outside the relationship, and progress toward greater levels of personal intimacy and attachment. What distinguishes an emotional affair from a friendship is the assumption of emotional roles between the two participants that mimic of those of an actual relationship - with regards to confiding personal information and turning to the other person during moments of vulnerability or need.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_affair

Oooh

I would describe a lot of 'internet' affairs like this.

I think the advent of the internet and mobile phone have made it much easier to carry out affairs

I don't think you realise how wrong and hurtful cheating is when you are young.

True

A lad at my last workplace regularly cheated on his lass but told me he wouldn't tolerate it if she did it to him. When I asked him about the double standards he said he was aware of it but he just couldn't describe why he saw it that way. Always sticks in my mind that, never broached the topic further with him though he probably would have knifed me the mentalist.

I've been the "other guy" a good few times but no, i'd never cheat on my girlfriend.

When you're on the wrong end of it you do.

If either me or my wife developed feelings for someone else we'd just be honest about it. There's no point not being, to be honest.

Also, I (both of us) think that this "emotional cheating" thing is utter bollocks, you should be able to have as many people in your life as you want who you can turn to emotionally and be emotionally close to, and whether they're male or female shouldn't matter. You only get one life... Closing yourself off to close relationships seems like a needless waste. If your partner having emotional closeness with someone else makes you feel insecure then you have problems already. In my opinion.

I detest the whole principle of cheating, I'd never cheat and I'd never be the bit on the side either.

And if someone cheated on me, they'd get no second chances.

How would you feel if you came down stairs, say,to get a drink of water at 1 am and your wife was in the living room texting a "friend" ie a man on her phone?

Err, she has plenty of male friends who she texts at various times. :shrug:

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I wonder if she has a secret phone for this man and a bag of clothes hidden in the boot of her car LT :worry:

Seriously though, life is waaaaaaayyyy too short for co-dependant, controlling relationships. Maybe I'm a hippy?

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Poor TS :worry:

I wonder if the man in question is pregnant?

She's not going to get better than yours truly tbh. She's welcome to give it a go :joker:.

TS comes home and his wife is naked getting battered by 2 men in both holes and he is like

"Darling, I didnt know we had company, I would have brought wine"

later



"er Darling, who were these 2 men"


"Of for gawds sake TS cant I have some work colleges over without 20 questions and your constant checking up on me??"

I've been the cheater and been cheated on hard to say which hurt me more.

Just so long as everyone's been AIDS tested.