Would you ever take back a cheating ex?
 

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No way in hell, I'd leave them on the kerb I kicked them to.

Depends,once maybe.

Never.

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People do change though, right? like how you appreciate what you've lost.

I certainly wouldn't forgive an affair because it's ongoing, has lies and deception on top of the cheating part. I don't think I could ever trust a person again who actually looked me in the face and lied about where they were going/where they'd been, multiple times. I hate liars

I'm not sure about a one night stand, i would find it very hard to get over but I couldn't say for sure unless I was in that situation

That's tough to answer since I haven't yet been in that situation. I think it would depend on the specific situation, though.

Like, if they cheated because they just couldn't commit or because they developed real feelings for someone else, there'd be nowhere else to take the relationship and it would be over for good.

But if it was one of those situations where it happens once for whatever reason (like a stupid mistake after a bad argument that they regret for example) and I know they genuinely hate what they did and wouldn't likely do it again, I'd have to think about it and there's always a possibility I'd give them another chance (but not if it happened again).

It's something I hope I never have to deal with, though.

People make mistakes that said it really depends on how much trust can be placed in the cheater and whether you feel he is worth a second chance and whether you would feel secure enough not to be constantly checking their whereabouts

Maybe, people might change but I couldn't handle the betrayal, I'd have to be able to trust the person I was with and if they cheated, I'd lose all trust so it would impossible for me to take them back.

You guys made great points

Its not as easy as yes and no


Its a short term relationship with no ties


You are engaged



You have been with them for 5 years and live togetehr


You are married, no kids


You are married with young kids



You are married with teenagers or older




You may well, based on the above, think differently




What is true is that a relationship can only work when you trust 100%. You can forgive but I would say you would need counselling from a professional.

I don't think I could, because I know even if I took them back I wouldn't forget or fully forgive what he'd done, i'd bring it up everytime we got in an argument and eventually it'd make the relationship fall apart all over again, so there'd me no point in me taking him back in the first place

No, because no matter how much you want them back, you'll never be able to trust them again. People say they get over it, but cheating leaves such a horrible scar on people. You don't realise what it does to you. I understand if its when two people are dating and testing things out, but when you're in a committed relationship and supposedly in love, one of the worst and most disgusting things you could do to someone is cheat on them. If you want to be with someone else for the night, at least break up with your partner first.

Cheating is disgusting. Its one of my biggest hates.

I don't think there's much point. You would never be able to trust them again and without trust, a relationship isn't worth having.

And dont forget there are degrees of cheating

a one night drunken fling
a long term emotional cheating that was caught before sex
a long term deceptive cheat involving a web of lies over a long time

I agree with LT. It's not that simple a question to answer. Whatever the answer, I do think it would change our relationship forever.

I have done once, and it just wasn't the same, even though I forgave him. Every argument we had from that point onwards always boiled back to what he did to me and I just couldn't move on from it.

1000% what LT said

many people forgive and carry on because the fear of breaking up and being alone outweighs the other pain

Cheating is cheating in my books, I don't care if it happens countless times over the space of a month or a year, or just once in a club, if my partners dick goes near anyone but me, then I'm afraid that would be it.

I think if there's kids involved then yeah try make a go of it.
Being older if I got with someone now and they cheated, there would be no way.

..I agree with LT...Amy, it would be completely up to you or up to the person because only that person can know if they feel that they can forgive and if they can feel enough to be with that person again...

Not really. I forgave him because I still loved him. He was faithful to me for the two years that we were together after it, but that silly one night stand caused our relationship to suffer.

I haven't been in that situation but I know I couldn't do it.
If someone cheats on me then I don't want them in my life

No, I have trust issues at it is

Yeah probably.

Not a chance in hell, relationships are built on trust imho and you cannot trust a cheater.

I would never take them back. The only chance they have of ever redeeming themselves is with the next person foolish enough to let a cheat into their life.

I agree with your first post and I agree with this too.

I loved the man who betrayed me and I know, even though he did betray me, he loved me too. I did leave him eventually because although I still loved him, his stupid act had a domino effect on our relationship but when I did walk out, the grief of loss was immeasurable.

Leaving someone you love is one of the hardest things a person can do. You can't just flick a switch and stop loving them.

Tempted to just say no.
Part of being so happily married is that I have never doubted my husbands love for me and trust him with my life.
An affair or a quick hump would change all that in an instant.:shrug:

No

I did, and even though it still ended up not working out in the end (we broke up some time later - not because of the cheating), I don't regret it for a second. It completely depends on your individual situation I think. If it had been someone else or a different situation maybe I wouldn't have, but it felt like the right thing for me and us at the time. It was a one night stand he had though and as some have already said, I don't think I'd have forgiven a full blown relationship. If you are going to forgive and move on though you HAVE to let it go. The moment you bring it up during an argument or whenever, then you know you haven't really forgiven them at all, and you need to deal with that or move on from the relationship otherwise you'll destroy each other.

For fun Yes relationship No

i would never get back with someone if we ever broke up

one smash in one little piece of glass can cause bigger cracks it just wouldn't be worth it in the long run besides i bet they weren't even hot

I would whisk them away to a cabin in the woods for a romantic weekend then get my mate Jason to have a word with them.:joker:

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